Hi everyone, I thought I'd pop over here, explain my efforts so far, and see if anyone could offer some help.

I've always been a very frequent and vivid dreamer, and it's very rare that I don't remember my dreams. My dream recall is very good, and I only ever really make one or two little notes about particularly complex dreams.
My mother and I both suffer sleep paralysis (genuine paralysis, not mis-named REM Atonia ), with the full on hallucinations and absolute inability to move even a finger, even when panicking like crazy. My mum has somehow, seemingly accidentally managed to move from her SP episodes into LDs, using WILD. She explained how she moved past the frightening hallucinations into controllable dreams, and it sounds like in her efforts to calm herself while experiencing scary SP, she has unintentionally created a WILD.

I am trying to achieve a LD using a combination of MILD and WILD. I have always had a habit of waking up after a dream, so I tend to wake up 3-4 times a night for a few minutes, so I'm also working on DILD. I am reality checking very frequently during the day, recalling dreams and making concious plans to experience them again, and also taking "relaxation" periods throughout the day.
I started practising relaxation to help with the SP episodes, after it helped Mum, and now I can put myself into a numb, floaty, surreal place in about 10 minutes. The issues I'm having at the moment are:

1. I have no trouble relaxing and detaching from my real body, and I have been able to do it in the middle of a real SP episode to help me to move again, but about 50% of the time when I START with WILD this leads to a real SP episode, which I then have to snap out of and start all over. Does anyone else experience this, and can offer any advice on how to prevent it? With WILD, I go away from my body, but I have absolute confidence that I can move freely if needed, can scratch an itch, etc. but there comes a point where I am completely unable to move and am totally aware of my surroundings, and then I have to either try and go backwards into WILD again, or just try to snap out of the whole thing. Very frustrating! I think the SP is being caused by me remaining far too conscious during the WILD, does this make sense? Can anyone offer any advice?

2. I practise WILD regularly, and when SP isn't a problem I can go under very easily, but I get stuck. I go totally numb, but then I just seem to stay in that "mode". No matter how much visualization I do, I don't seem to be able to actually "plunge" into it and create an actual dream, or return to a previous one.
I have spent very long periods stuck in that sort of "no-man's land", and could really use some advice on how to move from that point and begin creating the dream.

3. The few times I have gone a bit further during WILD, I have felt my "dream-body", but it is still laying on my bed. I have pretty clear tactile sensations, like rolling over and someone touching my feet, but I really struggle to make my dream-body actually take control and move freely. I my semi-awareness of my dream-body a step in the right direction, and can anyone offer any advice on how to take full control of it?

These are my biggest problems at the moment. I am still working on DILD and MILD, but seem to be having frustrating issues with WILD. I'm getting a lot of helpful info on these forums, but I would appreciate any advice that can be offered here
Sorry for the tl;dr!

Plex