Thread: Are you ugly?

This is funny how?

I guess you're still 'in denial', Sandform...

Originally Posted by Grod

I guess you're still 'in denial', Sandform...

No, I'm not in denial, I know.

*is crippled for life*

I'm ugly? Well, if you ask the right person, yes.

I look monstrous to some, angelic to others.

So THAT'S why I was laughing, whispering, crying, smiling and darting my eyes!

Well, I

Originally Posted by Sandform

This is funny how?

It's funny because it seeks to make humor out of the mindset of insecure people. The fact is, none of the things that Jeff has stated indicate that you are ugly or beautiful, but insecure people do actually think otherwise. I think this thread is actually quite clever.

Originally Posted by Black_Eagle

It's funny because it seeks to make humor out of the mindset of insecure people. The fact is, none of the things that Jeff has stated indicate that you are ugly or beautiful, but insecure people do actually think otherwise. I think this thread is actually quite clever.

I disagree, 2, 3 and 6 are foolish, but all the other things are quite true. Quite often assholes and bitches will laugh at ugly people for being ugly.

Jerks will whisper about you, and

People who are generally nice but still find you repulsive will look at you and then dart their eyes because they find you repulsive. In fact sometimes they will just stare at you for the mere fact that you are ugly, and if it weren't for him saying it was to commit suicide, number 6 would be not be foolish to think.

If you think otherwise you have only put yourself into a deluded world where people aren't shallow and horrible. Even nice people are shallow, but they aren't mean, so they don't say anything.

Originally Posted by Sandform

I disagree, 2, 3 and 6 are foolish, but all the other things are quite true. Quite often assholes and bitches will laugh at ugly people for being ugly.

Jerks will whisper about you, and

People who are generally nice but still find you repulsive will look at you and then dart their eyes because they find you repulsive. In fact sometimes they will just stare at you for the mere fact that you are ugly, and if it weren't for him saying it was to commit suicide, number 6 would be not be foolish to think.

If you think otherwise you have only put yourself into a deluded world where people aren't shallow and horrible. Even nice people are shallow, but they aren't mean, so they don't say anything.

Well the thing is, people do all that stuff regardless of who's around anyway. It may be about you, but if there is a crowd, it could be about anyone or no one. You just can't ever really tell. If you're insecure, you will tend to pay attention to these things more closely.

I always think people are laughing at me. I don't know why. I guess I'm in denial.

Originally Posted by CatBus

I always think people are laughing at me.

You shouldn't.

Classic example...

I was with my friends hanging out a couple of years ago and we were laughing while inadvertently looking at this blonde girl we thought was pretty cute. I walked up to her with a big grin on my face and said "What's your name?" She told me "fuck you" and walked off. My friends roared with laughter while I scarmbled around the floor looking for my ego. I thought to myself...wow...did she think I was unattractive or was she just a bitch? 6 - 7 months after that I saw her at a camp and it turns out we had a mutual friend. She introduced us and we starting hanging out and dating. I reminded her about that day she told me "fuck you" and asked what was up with that. She said she thought I and my friends were laughing/making fun of her and that I walked over to her to make fun of her or do some joke or something. I made it known to her that that wasn't my intentions at all. In fact, I let her know that I and my friends thought she was cute and we were deciding who should go up and talk to her. After she heard that she bawled and embraced me warmly. That dialog let me know that perception is everything and that often times we are so self-centered that we think the world is revolving around us in the sense that we are what people are laughing at, joking about, crying about or frustrated about. So where does insecurity stem from? In my unprofessional opinion, it's rooted in how we view the world and everything in it. We look at ourselves and measure ourselves up to hollywood, starlets and other sex/beauty icons society tells us are perfect. If we measure up to them in the looks department and we don't like what we see...there's a trickle down effect that affects our self-esteem, confidence etc. Then we project our views about ourself to others and the world around us. If one feels like s/he is less than another person, their head will be down in that persons presence and interactions will be minimal and perhaps some stumbling/stuttering may occur. How do you circumvent your insecurities? You don't. You address them, bring them to the table and realize how illogical they really are.

You're perfect and unique in your own way. Project that to the world instead.

Originally Posted by Jeff777

You're perfect and unique in your own way. Project that to the world instead.

But that is a lie... If you try to project a blatant lie all it does is change the perception of others from he or she is worthless to, he or she is worthless but they think they are great, which makes them even more worthless.



Kind of like a moron projecting that he is intelligent, all it does is show that the person is even further idiotic than thought at first inspection.

Originally Posted by Sandform

But that is a lie... If you try to project a blatant lie all it does is change the perception of others from he or she is worthless to, he or she is worthless but they think they are great, which makes them even more worthless.

Who says it's a lie? If perceptions exist in the brain and everyone's perceptions are different that makes you the law maker and ultimately that makes YOU the one saying it's a lie. My grandfather always harps "It takes time to kill a fly". What he means by that is that things DO take time. The length of time it takes a person to shelve beliefs that they are worthless to they are awesome takes time.

Originally Posted by Jeff777

Who says it's a lie? If perceptions exist in the brain and everyone's perceptions are different that makes you the law maker and ultimately that makes YOU the one saying it's a lie. My grandfather always harps "It takes time to kill a fly". What he means by that is that things DO take time. The length of time it takes a person to shelve beliefs that they are worthless to they are awesome takes time.

But if worth is measured by others, and not by one's self, then one's own opinion would be pointless in the equation. To change your own perception is to merely lie, as I stated, an ignorant person pretending to be smart has no more fooled others than a worthless person pretending to have value.

Only if you are a self centered person would you think your opinion of yourself is more important than societies opinion of you.

Originally Posted by Jeff777

You shouldn't.

Classic example...

I was with my friends hanging out a couple of years ago and we were laughing while inadvertently looking at this blonde girl we thought was pretty cute. I walked up to her with a big grin on my face and said "What's your name?" She told me "fuck you" and walked off. My friends roared with laughter while I scarmbled around the floor looking for my ego. I thought to myself...wow...did she think I was unattractive or was she just a bitch? 6 - 7 months after that I saw her at a camp and it turns out we had a mutual friend. She introduced us and we starting hanging out and dating. I reminded her about that day she told me "fuck you" and asked what was up with that. She said she thought I and my friends were laughing/making fun of her and that I walked over to her to make fun of her or do some joke or something. I made it known to her that that wasn't my intentions at all. In fact, I let her know that I and my friends thought she was cute and we were deciding who should go up and talk to her. After she heard that she bawled and embraced me warmly. That dialog let me know that perception is everything and that often times we are so self-centered that we think the world is revolving around us in the sense that we are what people are laughing at, joking about, crying about or frustrated about. So where does insecurity stem from? In my unprofessional opinion, it's rooted in how we view the world and everything in it. We look at ourselves and measure ourselves up to hollywood, starlets and other sex/beauty icons society tells us are perfect. If we measure up to them in the looks department and we don't like what we see...there's a trickle down effect that affects our self-esteem, confidence etc. Then we project our views about ourself to others and the world around us. If one feels like s/he is less than another person, their head will be down in that persons presence and interactions will be minimal and perhaps some stumbling/stuttering may occur. How do you circumvent your insecurities? You don't. You address them, bring them to the table and realize how illogical they really are.

You're perfect and unique in your own way. Project that to the world instead.

i.e. you're ugly if you think you're ugly, you're beautiful if you think you're beautiful. They say Queen Cleopatra wasn't strikingly beautiful, but it was something about her presence that made her irresistable to men.

Ah, quit making me reknow what I know! DX

I was picked on a lot when I was little because of my skin tone and hair color. I was an odd ball compared to the other kids. During those years, they would pick on me, call me names, hurt me, etc. Just because of the fact that I cannot tan, and my hair is blond/red. I was extremely insecure, and it got to the point where, when they stopped hurting me, I was bullying on myself. It was because of all those words were drilled in my head till the point where I took it seriously, and began picking on myself. I was extremely depressed, and thought about suicidal.

When high school came around and things started calming down, people told me a lot of positive things. "I like your hair, you look cute, etc." I told them thankz, but I couldn't accept it. I would tell myself, they're lying to me. It took me about another year or so to realize that I am beautiful because I am unique, and that I am human. No one can have the "perfect beauty" unless they have their mind polluted with all the media junk.

For those who bully others or joke around just remember,

Be careful of what you say, it could cost a life.

I keep getting e-mails every time someone posts on here. I've started going out like this It's like the perfect solution! Look how happy it's made me! And yes, I am still cross-eyed.

Perhaps.

Originally Posted by Kushna Mufeed

I look monstrous to some, angelic to others.

You are not monstrous! I've seen pics, I think you're cute.

Originally Posted by kichu

You are not monstrous! I've seen pics, I think you're cute.

Luckily for me, some sexy people find me sexy.

Originally Posted by Jeff777

I was with my friends hanging out a couple of years ago and we were laughing while inadvertently looking at this blonde girl we thought was pretty cute. I walked up to her with a big grin on my face and said "What's your name?" She told me "fuck you" and walked off. My friends roared with laughter while I scarmbled around the floor looking for my ego. I thought to myself...wow...did she think I was unattractive or was she just a bitch? 6 - 7 months after that I saw her at a camp and it turns out we had a mutual friend. She introduced us and we starting hanging out and dating. I reminded her about that day she told me "fuck you" and asked what was up with that. She said she thought I and my friends were laughing/making fun of her and that I walked over to her to make fun of her or do some joke or something. I made it known to her that that wasn't my intentions at all. In fact, I let her know that I and my friends thought she was cute and we were deciding who should go up and talk to her. After she heard that she bawled and embraced me warmly. That dialog let me know that perception is everything and that often times we are so self-centered that we think the world is revolving around us in the sense that we are what people are laughing at, joking about, crying about or frustrated about. So where does insecurity stem from? In my unprofessional opinion, it's rooted in how we view the world and everything in it. We look at ourselves and measure ourselves up to hollywood, starlets and other sex/beauty icons society tells us are perfect. If we measure up to them in the looks department and we don't like what we see...there's a trickle down effect that affects our self-esteem, confidence etc. Then we project our views about ourself to others and the world around us. If one feels like s/he is less than another person, their head will be down in that persons presence and interactions will be minimal and perhaps some stumbling/stuttering may occur. How do you circumvent your insecurities? You don't. You address them, bring them to the table and realize how illogical they really are.

You're perfect and unique in your own way. Project that to the world instead.

That post made me feel all fuzzy and warm inside.

Originally Posted by •Neko•

That post made me feel all fuzzy and warm inside.