Thread: >tfw no gf

There are two possible things you might mean here so I'll address both of them.

It seems you think the psychology of an action must itself be caused by its evolutionary reason. That the reason we feel affection is because, on a subconscious level perhaps, we want to produce offspring. But this is wrong. The evolutionary and psychological reasons are separate. Feelings of affection or 'love' came about because they were being pushed by the need for the species to produce more offspring, but not even subconsciously does this mean we 'desire to make babies'.

It's like if some wealthy man were to hire someone with creative potential and put him through art school, give him publicity, etc. and he created beautiful art which the wealthy man sold for a profit. And then the artist were to one day become depressed because he realizes that the only reason he's making his art is to make money for the man who hired him, and he concludes because of this that there is no real beauty in his art. But this is obviously wrong. He made the art himself and put as much emotion and thought and technique into it as any other great artist would, even though the man who hired him to do it was the initial cause of his success.

Feelings of affection stand alone like the artist. Even if the businessman were to abandon him, he would survive and continue to create art. Feelings of affection are real, are exactly what they seem to be. Love for a person is only love for that person. If someone wants babies, that is a completely separate desire than that for the person. The only truly upsetting part is that it will end, with death if nothing else. This might also be what you meant in the OP - that there is no 'higher' purpose for those feelings of love, that they only came about through evolution. If that's what you were saying I'm not even going to address it.