Ok, I thought of some more! Once you get me wound up, stand back because i can write up a storm!

This is actually a post I made on another thread not long ago: Writeup about Stoicism

I want to also suggest to you that you study stoicism. I did it, starting 5 or 6 years ago, and it's been life-changing. It gives you a solid foundation to build on, it allows you to get over fears. In fact that's what it's designed to do and it definitely works. That post is partly about an irrational fear of death, and I know that part doesn't apply to your situation - except that maybe it does. The stoics believed that all irrational fears stem from the fear of death. In fact all ancient philosophies believed this, and I believe they're right. A big part of stoicism is to help you get over that fear, and when you've conquered it, your other phobias will fall away.

And finally, I also want to recommend one more book - Courage, the Art of Living Dangerously by Osho. It's a more spiritual take on the same ground covered by stoicism in some ways, and can help immensely any time you feel afraid of anything.

I know, it's a lot of reading, but this is your life, and a few months or even years spent in study of the right material and learning to incorporate it into your life can transform you into what you need to become.