Thread: Recurring dream of unknown girl I'm in love

I have had several dreams with my wife, a couple of them lucid but not with the DHG of my dreams. I think you got the gist of what I was trying to convey with my own dream-girl story. Although when you say:

Originally Posted by rafaelcg84

I also believe that this girl is not a unique individual in the whole world, but it represents the true passion/love feeling that I want to find so much..

That is certainly one way of looking at it, perhaps the best "normal world view" way of looking at it. But for my own story (and somehow I feel, yet with so little to go on, that this might pertain to your story too), there may be more to it that that. Now I'm going to permit myself to get weird here...

I believe as you said the dream world is connected to the "real world" and you are right to put the "real world" in quotes. I believe to understand the connection is to see that there are only dream worlds. What makes this "real world" or waking life different is our insistence on seeing it a certain way. I'm super simplifying things here but I think this is the crux of it. The way I see it is all experience is dreaming, and dreaming comes with a dreamer. The thread that connects the dreams and dream worlds is memory. I think memory is the real mystery here. What makes a lucid dream lucid is memory of your waking life-dream. What makes waking life seem like the "real world" is the quality of memory that is present. When a person begins to lucid dream frequently the boundary of dreams vs "real world" begins to dissolve. They blend because of the quality of memory available in both. Memory is sort of an organizing principle.

Now, back to the mystery of our dream girls... Person hood somehow exist, in dreaming I exist, but only through the threads of memory do I know I exist. Through my own lucid dreaming I have found that I seem to have a life, or lives in other worlds and with people that I have almost no memory of. I only know this because I have on occasion connected, through my lucidity, my waking life dream with the dreaming of another life. DHG is part of that other life, that other "real world".

I have in conscious memory only the faintest outline of this other life, but I have made contact with it many times over 40+ years. So I believe the DHG I know in that other world-dream may well be in this world-dream and yet herself have no conscious memory of it. Anyway it doesn't matter, I know what my heart of hearts was looking for, I know what I found and I know how happy I am to have found it.

I too was married and unmarried (after 20 years), went through hell, and rebuilding, searching, frustration, and then renewed my search, and then through fearless action and boldness that left my friends and family concerned about my sanity.... found the girl of my dreams... in all meanings of that phrase. And she too followed through nearly identical steps.

I hope you can see why I was so taken by your story when I heard it. I have never shared my story before to the level I have here, and I thank you for that. It was the fact that you would feel so moved that you would put a shout out on the internet that hooked me. The biggest advantage that you have I think is that you know what you're looking for, now hold life lightly, move forward, let the dream unfold and act boldly when the time arises. Good Luck!

DreamRealEyes,
Thank you very much for your thoughts. I'm definitely interested in digging deeper this subject. I share the same feelings and I promise I'll let you know if I have any progress in this matter
Cheers!