Oh my god could I comment on that! In fact so much so I can't even begin to touch on it in the time I have right now.

You are touching on one of the biggest dreaming and waking obsessions in my life. With a triumphant conclusion I might add...

My dream girl first appeared when I was 20 years old (I'm 57 now). It was on my fist attempt to follow Don Jaun Matus technique of looking for your hands in your dreams. Not my first lucid dream but my first attempt at using a technique to become lucid. That night I had a dream of being high in the mountains hiking with a beautiful girl with long dark hair. We got to horsing around and we tumbled down a grassy slope together. At the bottom of the hill we ended up with me on my back and she straddling my abdomen. I tell here "you know what I like about your?" She says "What", I say "your hips". Then she grabs my hands and holds them in front of my face and she says "you know what I like about you, YOUR HANDS!" I'm taken aback for a moment wondering why she would say that and then it hits me! MY HANDS! I"m looking for my hands in my dream!. I became lucid at that point but the shock of the whole thing also woke me up.

That was my fist experience with the recurring dream character I would have occasionally in my dreams over the next 20+ years. Every dream I found her in I was lucid, but these dreams were very rare and I was never prepared to ask her anything about who she might be. I never knew her name so I referred to her as DHG, (for Dark Haired Girl). I was completely taken by here and spent several lucid dreams searching for her calling out her "name" (dhg), trying to find her by intent. That never worked, every time we were together it was spontaneous.

But she was also my first conscious experience of what I would later come to call a Type 2 Personality in dreaming. I consider Type 1 dream persons to be the normal cannon fodder of dreams, products of my brain/mind. But one can run into another another type of person in dreaming (mostly talking lucid dreaming here, but sure it works the same for ODs (ordinary dreams). This type of personality has a different feel about them. They are some how aloof, intelligent, and often somewhat mischievous but not necessarily malicious. They are often teachers too but again in an aloof way. But anyway to put it simply I always felt DHG was a separate being from myself. Whether she was in the world or not I couldn't say, but I felt in Love with her and wanted to find her.

Ok, there's much more to the story than that, and I want to share but it will have to wait. So my question for you is, do you have a name for this girl? Oh, and to say don't be quick to discount your experience. People said I was crazy, but you know what, I think I ended up with her!

Thanks for your post! You made my day. -DreamRealEyes