Thread: Why the fear follows me to my dreams but not the positive or things I like?

Yesterday in my dream I was hated by young women, they even flipped me cause i was repeately going into the women's restrooms without knowing.
That's one negative.

The other part of the dream i met my highschool bully(of real life) and he was abusing me(throwing rocks and verbally). And i was really scared cause in real life he was thrown in jail cause mentally ill and did some crimes. I saw him recently in a story in the internet thats' why he probably popped in my dream.

Anyways, i always get these kinds of dreams that have to do with my fears. Yet the things about the positive things in my life almost never pop up in my dreams. pretty much never. well alittle but not as much.

And PS i'm talking about non lucid dreams.

So why? Why does the negative always win? Am i too mentaly weak and is that why? In my real life i'm anxious, frail, scared of many things and i have PTSD from accident.

Unfortunately, negative things tend to "manifest" in dreams more than positive things. Also, because of your anxiety and fear etc. you will dream negative things because dreams are partially made by your waking daily emotions, experiences,etc.
What to do? I would tell you to solve our mental issues, be more positive, think of positive things before bed(you know, like incubating them), but what do I know.
Hope you solve this problem, and you can use these emotions as dream signs, I think.
Good luck

Originally Posted by voByJunior2013

So why? Why does the negative always win? Am i too mentaly weak and is that why? In my real life i'm anxious, frail, scared of many things and i have PTSD from accident.

Dreams are autonomous psychological processes that science has not explained yet, but it seems quite clear that one function of the dream is to work with inner issues (as emotions) that in a larger och lesser extent is problematic for our adaption in the outer world and/or inhibit our inner development. For this reason most of our dreams are "negative", in the sense that they are unpleasant or illustrates a problem; for instance, someone is trying to break into our house, or one cannot find one's shoes.

This gives the fact that if I have a sound or uncomplicated relationship with my wife I will probably not dream about her very much; but if our relationship is emotionally destructive but I prefer not to admit that to myself for practical reasons, or because it would go against my self image, then I would probably have unpleasant dreams about her or us -- because then we have an psychological issue that the dreams work with.

So if one has a low self esteem and is motivated by fear in life's choices and avoids challenges that would make one grow as a person and so on and so forth, then the psychological development could be inhibited, and since our psyche seems to "want" to grow (just like our body), that would be an issue that the dreams would work on; and so that person would have dreams about these issues and those dreams would be perceived as "negative", because they would be unpleasant.

As LouaiB said, the best thing would be to consciously work with the fears and insecurities and eventually the dreams would change, but of course that is not an easy task -- if it was, nobody would carry these emotions. When working with emotional issues or adaptation problems et cetera, dreams can be very helpful; but at your age I think it is wiser to work on your self esteem consciously than to use dream interpretation as a "therapeutic" method, especially since you are quite aware of the reasons for the emotional issues that haunts you in your dreams.