Quote Originally Posted by Darkmatters View Post
Wow! First, congratulations! Second, you've got a lot of people jealous - I had to try for a long long time before it happened for me, and I only rarely ever get lucid.

But it'll help when you understand a couple of things. DC's never like to be told they're just DC's. I mean think about it - would you? They're simulacra of people, so it makes sense if you tell then they're not really people they'd react badly. I think somewhere inside we feel bad for telling them they're not real so that launches a dream schema of them freaking out.

And once you understand the concept of dream schema there's the answer to the second part. Do you know what dream schema means? It means dreams respond instantly to our every thought, emotion, etc and they shape the way the dream will go. Once you feel fear or grief that becomes an integral part of the dream and changes the direction of it. This is why people say expectation is everything in dreams - it's really true. If you really feel confident then you'll be powerful and secure in the dream. If you feel afraid then it'll turn into a scary dream of being chased. And if you feel guilty because you think you just did something horrible to your friend, well - you saw the result.

The key is to fully realize that everything in the dream is the moment-by-moment creation of your own mind. Your friend was not really your friend - he was just a projection as you told him. But when he started freaking out you felt bad - it got to you and you let yourself forget everything is just projections. So what - your projection of your friend was giving you what you expected it to - acting like you had betrayed it somehow and putting on a good dramatic reality show. But somewhere along the way you forgot it was all a show, put on by your subconscious for you. You started thinking some elements of it were real. Otherwise what is there to be scared of or feel bad about?

very well put Darkmatters. "expectations dictate the experience" is how I have tried to explain it to people. @OP congrats on your first lucid dream.