Thread: Who's single?

Have you been single your whole life? Or just maybe you wanted to take the road less traveled and wait before you get with someone. I haven't dated in 8 years and even tho I have had pockets of freedom where I knew I was happy single.....I believe I have a God drivin desire to be with someone.....I go to the singles forum on CF and I get critized by christians of all people.

Hey sexy ladies. I'm single. Come and get it. One line, no pushing, please.

Haha yep! Im single more times than not. I honestly don't think I could handle a relationship right now to be honest, although I do want one. People bug me when they feel that its necessary to always be with someone. It just takes away the whole meaning of the relationship when you are with a new guy every few months.

I've been single for my whole life (about to turn 23). I had of course those 1 week mini romances, been attracted and people attracted by me, but never had anything serious. One month after I started university, I had an "accident" which ended up changing my personality/behavior significantly, which among other problems, made it very hard to tolerate company from anyone, which resulted in pretty funny situations of me pushing anyone who tried to get closer (girls and even friends) away. I actually have some good stories that range from a girl taking me to church from other making bets with her friends over successfully "jump" me. My libido side regrets this missed opportunities lol, but it was for the best, I didn't think it would be good for people to get too close and find my dark side ^^

*raises hand* I've been in one relationship. I waited a long time for it because I was never sure what I wanted, and it turned out I'm still not. I definitely have the desire to be with someone, though. Sometimes a little too much, I think. But I'm just trying to figure out where I'm headed right now.

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The less of a relationship I'm in, the more girls I can get to send me nudes with cat ears.

Originally Posted by slayer

The less of a relationship I'm in, the more girls I can get to send me nudes with cat ears.

Does it really work out that way, though?

Originally Posted by ♥Mark

Does it really work out that way, though?

I don't know. I have yet to try it out.

If you play your cards right, yes. I prefer being single, I'm only nearly 19 (5 more days). I've been in a relationship once and since then I only want FWB/FB.

Yup, single. Can't really be bothered engaging in a relationship. Seems like a lot of work.

I just broke up with my girlfriend about 2 weeks ago..She was too overdramatic and frankly, too much work. She would get mad at me if I talked to other girls, and on one occasion I was in a group chat with two of my friends (who are girls) talking about a project that we're all partners are and she threatened to break up with me for cheating on her..*facepalm*

Wow, she sounds very need Xvaiuer. Good thing you broke up bro, you won't regret it. Whenever a woman is too needy, NEXT!

Well, my first relationship lasted about a year, and in retrospect, was primarily a result of me having been lonely, needy, and depressed for a few years. So, I jumped into a relationship for a while for all the wrong reasons.

It seems to me that tons of people have fallen into that trap, where they jump from one lover to another, driven by a fear of being alone, or because they think that they'll find happiness via another person. But it doesn't work like that, and thus people who don't realize it end up bouncing between relationships.

To be completely honest, after a lot of time and thought, and much meditation, I've decided that I am not going to pursue any more romantic relationships. I don't particularly feel the drive to have sex with anyone. Laugh if you will, but my hand and a little creativity has given me at least as much pleasure as I've had with anyone else, and its STD free and complication free.

With the right mindset, I've found I can be just as close with a select few friends as I could in a relationship, minus all the sex. If someone does happen to come along that seems to be an excellent fit for my life and outlooks, I'll gladly give it a chance, but I'm definitely not out there searching for "love. "

But deep inside you want to bang someone. Call me blunt, but it's true.

Originally Posted by Athylus

But deep inside you want to bang someone. Call me blunt, but it's true.

You do, but not everyone does. There's actually a pretty strong asexual community out there.

I honestly can't imagine.

Me neither lol. It's just like another orientation though, like how someone who's straight can't imagine being attracted to the same sex. There's not really any point in trying to comprehend it if it's not for you, but there are people who genuinely don't desire or like sex.

Each to his own Alyzarin, and no disrespect to asexuals, gays or whatever as long as you're not a pedo.

Originally Posted by Athylus

Each to his own Alyzarin, and no disrespect to asexuals, gays or whatever as long as you're not a pedo.

What's wrong with pedophiles?

Originally Posted by Marvo

What's wrong with pedophiles?

That honestly just made my day.

(I'm not single but am responding anyway? I need to sleep and cannot think any longer tonight)

Originally Posted by Athylus

I honestly can't imagine.

I sometimes can't even imagine that I have a sex drive even though I do. It's like.. the only natural drive that that we weren't born with. I guess drives like hunger are weird too. When you're hungry, there's generally no actual pain. You just want to eat, and you couldn't explain that feeling to someone who didn't feel hunger. But I rarely question that since I can't imagine anything else, since I've been able to feel hunger all my life. But the sex drive came on gradually, and since I can still remember what it felt like not to have it, it seems strange somehow, like I could just lose it at any time.

Or maybe the reason is because it's a more complicated drive, compared to other strong universal drives. The desire for food is satisfied through the ingestion of the chemicals you need. Thirst is satisfied by water. Tiredness is satisfied by laying down and sleeping. The feeling of having to urinate goes away when you urinate. None of this requires much mental effort and is all quite simple. But satisfying a libido is different. The thoughts involved are more complicated. Instead of simply desiring certain chemicals to go into or out of my body (lol no that isn't the desire), it's a desire to achieve somewhat complicated psychological states. I wonder what it feels like for other animals to have sex.

Originally Posted by Xvaiuer

That honestly just made my day.

It's just term confusion. Pedophiles can't necessarily help being attracted to children. Someone who actually goes out and rapes them is a children molester, and the two aren't synonymous.

sigh

I made a post and then my internet pooped and it was deleted

sigh, short version.

Single. Hopefully not for long. Not asexual, but not normal by modern terms, lol. I want a connection with a guy, an actual connection, you know? A real relationship, where we can actually talk to each other, hang out, enjoy each others company? HOLY CRAP MAYBE EVEN A FRIENDSHIP- Like-before he puts his hands all over me and calls it dating?? Its disgusting. I don't think its weird at all that I want a real relationship before physicality, but in this hyper sexual modern world its considered weird.

No, the way I am is not some deluded intellectual choice out of some christian ideals making me prudent. I JUST DONT FEEL THAT WAY HOLY CRAP ITS NOT A CHOICE!!

And please, accept my friendship, it is not an insult. lol. Apparently, this desire to have that connection first is just the way I am according to the astrological signs I was born under.

And sorry for ranting. Its just lately Ive been feeling a lot of pressure to just date regardless of whether theres an emotional connection - AND IT PISSES ME OFF

I haven't been in a relationship since 05. Been on plenty of dates though. Took me a years to realize that I need to get my crap together before I get into any kind of relationship. Even if it's casual.

Haven't been in one since 05 too.....and I have seen alot in myself that needed changing. Still some stuff does.