This is slightly NSFW, just as a warning.

Hi, I'm new, and I've had about 4 lucid dreams in my life, one happened while I was 6 and the rest just happened within the past few months. However, I'm not even sure if the recent ones are even lucid dreams. I think I might just be dreaming about lucid dreams, or I just never have that much lucidity at all. Here's a list of stuff that kind of makes me think this:

-I never think about real life in my lucid dreams, usually I just tell somebody in the dream, or just think for a second, "Hey I'm dreaming." Afterward I'm just focused on doing stuff in the dream. However, in the dreams I've remembered the technique of shutting your eyes and wishing for something, then having it there when you open your eyes, and spinning around to change the location.

-I don't have total control. I can wish for stuff (or things to happen) my shutting my eyes and wishing for it, but a lot of the time it doesn't work. In all of my recent dreams, I've tried to have sex with a random (sometimes unwilling, but hey, it's a dream so it's not like I'm really being cruel to people) female, but it never works. Something always goes wrong: IE when I try to make it so nobody else can see us, it doesn't work, or (this didn't happen every time) I try to make them actually want to have sex but they stilll don't, and I usually wake up before I can do anything else. I guess I could just be plain unlucky, but it's happened every single time.

-I start doing stupid stuff I wouldn't do if I had a lucid dream, for example, right now. Like if I'm stealing something, instead of wishing for no one to be able to see me, I wish for the people in the immediate area to not care that I'm stealing. Also, my second lucid dream ended because I was trying to have sex with a woman in the middle of a town square (I stupidly didn't bother to change the location into a bedroom, I just tried to make it that nobody could see us, which didn't work.) and she disappeared, so I wished for a broomstick so I could fly over town and try to find someone else, instead of just wishing her back. Of course, I crashed and woke up. Is this just because I don't have 100% lucidity?


What can I do to stop stuff like this? Also, if it helps, all of my lucid dreams have just happened as a normal dream, not induced by any techniques. Thank you.