Quote Originally Posted by sivason View Post
I personally have not ever used or suggested using dream objects to help, but it is a valid method. What I mean is that if someone lacks the confidence, then simply telling them 'be more confident' will be of little help, and actually will cause more frustration. I teach confidence building in steps. Think about waking life; if a child is afraid of dogs, simply saying "do not be afraid' will be of no help and will make the child feel worthless. Maybe giving them a small stuffed dog would be a good first step, then step two may be watching movies with cute talking dogs, and so on.
Yes, telling them to be more confident is a big thing I think. People don't try new things in dreams, because they think that they need a technique for it. When you only really need techniques when you lack the confidence. So instead of adding another technique to the mix, just try confidence first. Believe that you can do it, if you fail, then try a technique, but realize that it is your confidence that is lacking. It wasn't until I heard that some people fail at flying that I started failing at it.

I don't think that confidence and fear are the same thing.