Caradon,

I think your experience with this, as valid as it may be, isn't adequate for proving a negative for someone else. I experienced a rape in a dream about 20 years ago that I think I was harmed by. I wasn't harmed a lot, but the psychological damage wasn't zero either. I don't think you have enough information to reasonably judge that I'm wrong.

In any case, it sounds like we're mostly in agreement about this anyway. I think you made a good suggestion, and I don't think my comment changes that.