I think I'm going to jump on this idea of focusing more on dream intentions (or, as Sensei says, incubation) than actual lucid dreaming. I had my first couple of lucid dreams after a year of trying. I think I had "given up" for about a month when it came around. One of my favorite tips of lucid dreaming (that I've given anyone) is to just not think about lucid dreaming too much. It's really very fun to think about, but if there's anything I've learned it's that lucid dreams are not like your favorite fandom. If you think about your favorite fandom all day then it's absolutely likely that you'll dream about your favorite fandom at night, or at least a night or two afterwards. For a long time I figured that it would be the same for lucid dreaming, but it's really not. I think people who do nothing but think about lucidity all day would be far better off if they take breaks from it.