Thread: I don't know why I can't attain Lucidity.

Here are a few simple tips that I know increase my chance of more awareness in my dreams:

1. Do the NO FAP challenge. The sexual frustration will make you more in the now and become more present, you will feel it during the day as well. (+ Sex dreams..)
2. Meditate - One 20 min session during the day and one session which you fall asleep on in the evening. Less thoughts = more awareness.
3. Longer Sleep - More sleep equals more time spent in REM which give you a higher chance to notice a dream.

Notice that none of the steps above mentions any practise of reality checks and dream journaling.


The most common problem with motivation is that you feel that you aren't in control, that is what makes you feel uneasy.

So take control! Make a plan, when you decide your OWN criteria of success. Success is not getting a lucid dream, success is when you take the right actions torwards it. Let go of the result and focus on the action. When you truly enjoy the action, the result will come. Think of it like going to the gym, if you follow a technique or a routine and always look in the mirror for your result, you will ONLY feel good when you get your result. But if you focus on enjoying the taking action part itself you will ALWAYS feel good.
Developing a skill is a SLOW process so the result-mindset WILL make you unmotivated.
So instead of focusing on the technique or result, focus on the taking action part itself.

Criteria of success: (Mine are above) Do X for Y days. When those days are over you can start to reflect about what you can change and so on.

Originally Posted by MasterMind

Here are a few simple tips that I know increase my chance of more awareness in my dreams:

1. Do the NO FAP challenge. The sexual frustration will make you more in the now and become more present, you will feel it during the day as well. (+ Sex dreams..)
2. Meditate - One 20 min session during the day and one session which you fall asleep on in the evening. Less thoughts = more awareness.
3. Longer Sleep - More sleep equals more time spent in REM which give you a higher chance to notice a dream.

Notice that none of the steps above mentions any practise of reality checks and dream journaling.


The most common problem with motivation is that you feel that you aren't in control, that is what makes you feel uneasy.

So take control! Make a plan, when you decide your OWN criteria of success. Success is not getting a lucid dream, success is when you take the right actions torwards it. Let go of the result and focus on the action. When you truly enjoy the action, the result will come. Think of it like going to the gym, if you follow a technique or a routine and always look in the mirror for your result, you will ONLY feel good when you get your result. But if you focus on enjoying the taking action part itself you will ALWAYS feel good.
Developing a skill is a SLOW process so the result-mindset WILL make you unmotivated.
So instead of focusing on the technique or result, focus on the taking action part itself.

Criteria of success: (Mine are above) Do X for Y days. When those days are over you can start to reflect about what you can change and so on.

Hi,

I'm sorry but I don't fully understand what you are saying. If I follow your mentioned tips, am I supposed to give up with DILD? Shouldn't I journal my dreams to raise my Dream Recall and shouldn't I also do an RC whenever I check my surroundings and question reality?
You also stated that I need to focus on my action to become lucid, not on the result. But whenever I do DILD and question the moment and reality, am I not focusing on the action? Please explain further what you mean because I'm really confused.

Good Night ;)