Thread: Ask Me About Females, now with Brutal Honesty

I will concede to the fact that women are intelluctually superior to men (sorry guys, but its true) so why do so many women still use the "if you love me it doesn't matter how I look" after they get married as an excuse to not stay in shape? Regardless of the fact that we love our spouses, men are hard-wired to respond to visual stimulation. When we first meet someone is is the initial relationship not cultivated based on a physical attraction? Women are smart enough to know this but still expect us to maintain a strong physical relationship even though they allow their physical body to drastically alter. Please understand that I am not speaking about body shapes that change due to pregnancy or physical ailments.

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well if guys would know what is going on womans head and vice versa it would be no fun =D

ok i'm gonna ask the same question i asked in the other thread:

Why do some women make up false rumors about people.

When i was 17 i dumped a girl, then she went around saying she dumped me because i was a player, who always pressured her for sex.

And that's only one example of many stories i have had and i know from other people. Why do they do that?

because they cant kick ur ass for dumping them =D

First keep in mind I'm not speaking for all women...just myself and the numerous girlfriends I've had over the years. And yes, I'll admit...I've had alot of shallow girlfriends. I mean, I was in a sorority for 4 years after all. (and yes, it was the most expensive one that had the prettiest girls and I was probably like one of three brunettes in the whole sorority...I'm so ashamed haha, I was young and stupid >_<)

Aneas, I'm going to address your question and then expound on the phenomenon of female weight gain in relationships.

Why do they use the "if you love me it doesn't matter how I look" ...isn't it obvious? Women are programmed to say stupid things like that. But does she really believe that? No. She's just trying to guilt trip you...and make you feel bad...because you made her feel bad about her weight. She knows that she has gained weight...and she HOPES that because you love her, you won't care. But she knows you do, so all she can do is try to make you feel guilty by saying stupid things like "if you loved me" blah blah blah. Yes, women are stupid. But hey, so are men.

Now, don't expect a woman to admit this...because their pride tells them, that they are working out and looking good for themselves...not for men. Please. I'm sure alot of women who are secure in themselves really do want to look good just for themselves...but most women, unfortunately...and I believe it is because of the society we are raised in...are very insecure. We are constantly made to feel "too fat" and many other numerous nasty things because of the unrealistic models, porn star, and movie star images that we are unfortunately compared to.

I bet you anything that most women in a bar are checking out the other girls there, more than they are checking out the guys. Competition is stiff. There is always a girl who is skinnier, prettier, has nicer hair, etc. and we are constantly comparing ourselves to them. They get the most attention...they get the free drinks...the VIP access...the "good" life. So...women spend hours getting all dressed up to look as good as they can, to go out there and attempt to brave the competition.

What's the first thing that happens when a couple breaks up? 9 times outta 10...the woman loses a bunch of weight. Sure, depression is a great diet, and breaking up sucks and makes you not want to eat...but all of my friends will admit that the first thing on their minds is that they have to get skinny again, look as hot as they can...to get back into the dating scene.

Here's the problem...some girls work so hard to look good for men...starving themselves...etc. that when they finally get into a relationship and things are going great, they become comfortable. There is no longer a need to be the "skinniest girl in the bar" because...you have a boyfriend/husband/etc. who loves you and alot of girls will let themselves go.

Another huge factor is that one of the most social and easy things for a couple to do is go out to eat together. When you start dating and hanging out more, there is always food involved. It's really damn hard not to gain weight in a relationship without the guy thinking you are anorexic or have an eating disorder just because you don't want to eat as often as he does.

I believe this weight gain phenomenon only exists, however...with the women who are going out of their way and doing crazy shit to look as hot as they can to get a guy's attention in the first place. What you don't realize...is that you could be checking out a gorgeous girl at the bar, and the notion never even crosses your mind that maybe just a month ago she weighed about 20 lbs more. And girls, don't tell me I'm wrong...I've seen this hundreds of times with my friends and I have pictures to prove it! lol

So if you're picking out the girls who are trying to look the hottest, they are also probably very insecure. Once they have you, they get comfortable and let themselves go. You break up with them. They get hot again. You wonder what the hell is going on. That's how it works.

Here's my advice...stay away from the girls who obviously look like they are trying too hard. Who cares if she's the most beautiful girl in the place? I'm telling you right now...that there is no guarantee she's still going to look that way a few months from now. (again I have proof) Just go for the girls who are secure in themselves and the way they look. Who are confident. Who don't talk about their weight <---huge sign that she has and is going to have issues throughout your relationship because she is insecure already.

And it's probably the ones who have the average...and not "perfect" bodies who will be the ones who won't gain a ton of weight, because they aren't the ones who are "trying too hard" and are actually more secure in themselves. Well that's my two cents on that...

Originally Posted by ranma187

ok i'm gonna ask the same question i asked in the other thread:

Why do some women make up false rumors about people.

When i was 17 i dumped a girl, then she went around saying she dumped me because i was a player, who always pressured her for sex.

And that's only one example of many stories i have had and i know from other people. Why do they do that?

First of all...17 is a very rough time to be a girl. It was probably my worst year "being a girl" ...and having to deal with the fact that...hey I'm human and I like to hook up with boys, but the minute you do, everyone's calling you a slut and making up millions of rumors about you. It's really shitty.

Now, about your question...if she's the spiteful manipulative bitch type, then she was just doing it because she was pissed off that you dumped her and wanted to get revenge. But for some reason I don't really get that feeling, though you don't provide much detail...it just seems that there's much worse she could have done if she really wanted revenge. So it seems to me that she was just trying to save face in front of her friends, she wanted people to think that she dumped you not that you dumped her...obviously she must have been embarassed about it. And of course she had to think of a good excuse...and saying that you were pressuring her to have sex is a pretty good excuse because it makes her look even better, like a little angel. It's all about image and reputation. Especially at that age. I would expect no less.

Aquanina always trying to be better then people


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Originally Posted by Aquanina

First of all...17 is a very rough time to be a girl. It was probably my worst year "being a girl" ...and having to deal with the fact that...hey I'm human and I like to hook up with boys, but the minute you do, everyone's calling you a slut and making up millions of rumors about you. It's really shitty.

Now, about your question...if she's the spiteful manipulative bitch type, then she was just doing it because she was pissed off that you dumped her and wanted to get revenge. But for some reason I don't really get that feeling, though you don't provide much detail...it just seems that there's much worse she could have done if she really wanted revenge. So it seems to me that she was just trying to save face in front of her friends, she wanted people to think that she dumped you not that you dumped her...obviously she must have been embarassed about it. And of course she had to think of a good excuse...and saying that you were pressuring her to have sex is a pretty good excuse because it makes her look even better, like a little angel. It's all about image and reputation. Especially at that age. I would expect no less.

I can agree with that. I know for a fact women have ravenous sexual appetites. It's just society pressures them to hold a certain image. They don't want to feel pressured or made to feel like a slut.

And i did have a very good reason for breaking up with her. But the thing is i never went around telling other people what went on. It's nobody's bussiness. i never said a bad word about her, until she started with the rumors.

oh and your comment on the really hot girls: I can't agreee with you more. But every once in a while you'll meet a very good looking woman who really has it toether. It's rare, but they are a pleasure to be around.