Why did you find it necessary to respond condescendingly to DreamBliss' proposition to the ladies of DV in the "horny and single" thread? |
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Whatever the mods think is not my concern. And it's up to the OP whether or not he deserves more respect for his argument. But you prove his point when you choose not to give him any respect and instead use the thread as an excuse to display superiority. |
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Last edited by Omnis Dei; 02-10-2012 at 02:09 AM.
Everything works out in the end, sometimes even badly.
If I was offended by every slightly negative thing that's been said about me on the internet, I would have killed myself by now. |
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I have to say your point contradicts the quote you used. I was defending/elaborating on the quote you used, but I find the conclusion you drew from it to be wrong. |
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Everything works out in the end, sometimes even badly.
My oh my. I find myself reading and responding again. |
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Previously PhilosopherStoned
Why do you phrase things as if we're in disagreement only to more accurately articulate my argument? |
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Everything works out in the end, sometimes even badly.
If you know how to argue correctly you never have to lose. |
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I think the moment you bring winning and losing into the equation, you are no longer arguing correctly. |
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Everything works out in the end, sometimes even badly.
Probably took me 5 or 6 years of arguing on the internet, before I realised that I was often just arguing for the sake of arguing. Then I became more self-critical, and I realised that I was also at times defending view points I didn't believe in, or that I knew had faults, which I was trying to hide with misdirection and so on. This is all very subconscious, and it is easily observed in discussions with newbie debaters. It's a very compromising personal feature, and does indeed ruin discussions and debates everywhere, like politics, religion, climate change and so on. People on all sides do it. It's not something you can't get rid of though, and we absolutely have a lot of great people on DreamViews, who can engage in debate, without compromising. And that's great. |
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Lost count of how many lucid dreams I've had
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so, by arguing your point in this thread...you are trying to assert your dominance? |
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The dominance of an idea. The idea being propositioned here is that people do not argue in order to learn, they argue in order to feel good about themselves. Long ago enough, they would argue in order to become the dominant member of their group. This motivation continues to echo in our arguments today. It is natural to identify with what you believe, even though what you believe is a transitory construct. But to accept what we believe may be wrong, we invite others to dominate us. And it's certainly possible for two people with disagreeing viewpoints to argue without dominating each other, but that's not how it usually works. Most of the time, without even being consciously aware of it, we are invested in our opinions, even if logically we understand uncertainty principle and that we are going to learn more and at the very least evolve our opinions in time. It doesn't matter because it always feels like admitting that you're still learning gives the other person unwarranted advantage. |
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Everything works out in the end, sometimes even badly.
A dominant idea is usually a winning idea, right? |
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But not a true idea. When you think of it in terms of winning and losing, you remove the prospect of learning something, or teaching something for that matter. |
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Everything works out in the end, sometimes even badly.
So you're saying that competition breeds false ideas that no one can learn from. I'm curious, since only pure freethinking leads to novel ideas (conflicting with solidarity among peers), how healthy competition amongst freethinkers facilitates some undesired outcome even when the end goal is the same? |
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I'm guessing that a true idea is most likely to "win" in the end, but a false idea can easily be the winning idea. For example, I guess you could say Hitler was pretty good at winning arguments, but he did so with "untrue" (pretty much agreed on by everybody but that 's subjective) ideas, yet his ideas were largely considered to be true for a long time. |
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Rhetoric, logic, and dialectic are your friends; argumentation has such a pejorative connotation. |
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Liberal tendency: to value accuracy above all else. |
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I think the problem of a winning argument and a losing argument is the same as the problem of a true argument and a false argument. Consider this, when you talk to someone and you both agree, you still utilize different terminology much of the time because you came to the same conclusion from two different places. Essentially, we all have our own model of reality in our heads, and this model cannot be dislodged by a superior model, only improved through transactional communication. When someone tries to prove their argument is true and the other person's is false, they are essentially claiming that person's entire model of reality has no value, at least in regard to this particular topic. This disables their ability to learn, because teaching is not about replacing someone's model of reality, it's about improving it. A religious person doesn't change their opinion because of one single argument, but if the person they're arguing with speaks carefully enough, they can plant the seeds of doubt which will eventually grow into a whole different belief system. This belief system still grew from their previous model though, it did not replace it any more than a tree replaces the grass. It simply takes the sunlight from the grass often enough until the grass is forgotten. |
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Last edited by Omnis Dei; 05-27-2012 at 12:38 AM.
Everything works out in the end, sometimes even badly.
See Omnis, you have an extremely strong liberal bias on this subject - to you learning from a conversation (argument, what have you) is the most important thing. Often the people you're arguing with have a strongly conservative viewpoint, and are only concerned with defeating you with no concern for whether you or anyone learns anything in the process. You will never be able to convince them that accuracy (truth, learning) is the most important thing... all they care about is smashing you because they don't like the way you think. |
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I think most people want to be right and want to know the truth. So while that is true about people's subconscious desire to dominate, it isn't as likely that they consciously would rather dominate than know the truth. They kind of just get into that mindset, and it is hard for people to get out of it. Even extremely liberal people can get stuck into that way of thinking. I think it is probably a rare person who consciously says they have no interest in the truth and just want to be right. |
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