Thread: Sudden care for humans

Actually something very similarly happened to me a few years back, apart from some details. I took the time to reflect on my life a lot and changed who I was entirely, even though I felt that this was much more and truly me than anything else before. At first it was difficult explaining what was going on and almost all of the people I knew did not understand. But I have been continuing and became much more comfortable with it and have become a lot better in adapting my look on life so that my close friends and family are now in full support of my ideas (I also have quite a few..)

So basically I wanted to achieve two things. One is continuously learning, through experience and by reading and really "feeling" all that this world has to offer, the other is wanting to contribute in a way that is really helping others, to give something back - I want to make sure to work with good people in good organizations, not those that waste tons of money. And what I am sure of is that I do not want to contribute to anything that I think is ultimately causing harm (which is difficult).

So I have been working on implenenting these aspects and am now leaving my country in about a month, if all works out - for good, with full support of my family and friends. I was already ready to leave two years ago, but I decided to take a more rational approach with more planning and am now selling/giving/throwing away all my stuff the upcoming month. I have already made a few experiences in working with NGOs and have already made quite a few connections that will help me along the way. First I will finish my bachelors degree in Cambodia and stay for a while (which is already a done deal), I then want to continue from there to different countries, first in asia, but I want to discover the other continents as well. Really get to know them, but also make contributing my "profession". (My thesis will be related)

I believe that what you are describing is a wonderful and positive thing that will probably change your life from that point on in a much more fruitful way and will make you a much happier person along the way. I have seen this kind of thing happen to many people at the most random ages, it has nothing to do with being a kid or in a midlife crisis or anything, it's more of a realization, one that occurs if you have never thought about your life in 'that way', really questioning your motives and what it is that you want. It is incredibly strong because it is a kind of truth that can only come from inside and make you see you, which could be called "growing up" or even spiritual awakening in a way. This kind of thing can't be forced upon people and seems to happen at the most unusual times, I don't even really know why.

Once you start to go to remote places, you will meet many many kinds of different people. Some will understand you, some will feel like soul mates, some will disappoint you, some you will learn from and some you can teach - but if you have gained this kind of curiousity, they will always be interesting. This is something I really want and there are many, many people going through with it. At all ages, sometimes at very random times in their lifes. In the end, it is up to you and only you what you will do with your life, but I think that what you describe is something you have gained and will be able to appreciate from now on. The first steps are usually the hardest.

I wish you all the support you need, to do what it is that you want to do. Maybe find people, who think like you in your area. You can also email or pm me if you'd like or if you want to talk about it in more detail. All the best ≈

Edit: You mentioned not having a lot of money, just a neat page I found that will give you information and tips on how to travel and get to know the world with little to none: http://www.roadjunky.com/

Hi dajo, thanks for your answer. It was great reading it. Not sure where i shall go from now, but guessing im gonna use a couple of days reading about the subject and probably try to contact some organizations in my country. I see some are offering to pay for your stay. I have a big debt at home which i have to pay monthly wherever i am in the world. Besides that one i dont have not alot of money which it seemed in my last post. A bit exaggeration on my part :p
Even though i do not care about getting payed i still have the bills.
i do wanna help with something in my country too, but in the end i WILL go to these foreign poor countries. Maybe its a good start, try to save up some money here and try out some voluntary work. Im unemployed at the moment but getting almost as much as i would if i had a job. We live to good in this country :p

Hehe, I know what you mean, too. Here, the money you get for being unemployed is more than a lot of full time jobs pay. But those often pay ridiculously little in comparison. Anyway...

I understand your situation and would probably also just advise you to take baby steps - one at a time. It doesn't matter where you are, there is always something that you can do if you feel the need to. But, just like you said, it would be great if this isn't just a phase, but something you are sincere about.

If you really want this stuff, it will happen and there always is a way.
best of luck

Originally Posted by duppsko

Hi,
umm. this is kind of a weird case i have. I guess perhaps the answer will be that only i know this. If not, someone else might have had similar "experience".
First some info about me:
* Im 34 and began lucid dreaming some months ago which led me to read about it but most important in this case, ALOT about spirituality. I have never been into this before some months ago. Im a pretty normal guy, not christian.

Some days ago i began to feel something , it felt like some kind of change was happening with me. Almost like i felt i was about to find out what i really want with this life. Or perhaps a sudden feeling of getting "grown up".(as in no longer a kid even tho im 34)

Then some days after a switch kinda turned on inside me and i suddenly thought "i really want to work with helping people", like voluntary work. Didnt care if it payed or not, as long as i didnt have to spend alot of money myself as i dont have that much. At the same time i also got "the dream" that one day i could go to africa, brasil etc to help people from all ages there. I felt kinda high thinking about this. I have no history of drug use.

Thing is, i have never even thought a single thought about this before. I have never given anything to red cross or anything as i havent really cared at all.

This post might seen stupid or something to some, but i really wanna find out if this "thing" can suddenly happen to someone. I actually had too google "midlife crisis".
I just hope this isnt just a fase and i would be back to not care modus again.

I think I understand what you are saying.

You want to help people, which in return makes you feel good. Essentially, it is self-sacrifice, which the position you are choosing in implementing something as such is through direct means rather than indirect means. You would rather be in the fray seeing the fruits of your labor. You probably act in an indirect method on a daily basis, yet don't even realize it.

Personally, I've chosen an indirect means. How to affect people indirectly on a massive scale is as simple as a smile. Don't steal, lie, etc.. It magnifies the influence in the world the individual projects. It isn't just a perspective, it is the butterfly effect. Making a huge difference in the world is indeed that simple because one life affects many. Now, besides presenting to you my lifestyle I live on a regular basis, I use my natural born gift in teaching people by breaking things down to where even a child can understand. If you are happy all the time and calming to be around, people will notice and emulate it even if it is gradual. The reason is because they want what you have. It is reminiscent of how people react to materialism, but materialism will breed contempt due to it being fake, because material possessions aren't what truly matter in the world.

My father taught Criminal Justice and Sociology, which he was a great teacher. His genes play a huge part in my way of thinking and care for people I don't even know. Now the key thing is you can't get angry of how people are being abused. Sure, you can get frustrated, but you can't cross the thin line to anger because it will lead to hate. Why? Besides it being a waste of energy, it is completely counter productive. The reason is because the anger isn't coming from you, it is coming from the rest of the world's people through the butterfly effect. It is their influence being projected onto you, which if you aren't careful, it will consume you making anything you do in-vain because it perpetuates the cycle. Spiritual or not, to withstand that much pain takes a powerful mind.

Want to make a difference? Be a teacher. I'm not talking about teaching a college class etc.. I'm talking about leading by example.

P.S. Most of these things I've said aren't directed at you, even though I quoted you and sometimes used the perspective that I was talking directly to you. They are elaborations on how the world operates, which some people reading may never have considered before how especially important they are on the individual level.

Originally Posted by ArcanumNoctis

Want to make a difference? Be a teacher. I'm not talking about teaching a college class etc.. I'm talking about leading by example.

Thank you thank you thank you ArcanumNoctis! As much as I've pondered religion, life, existence, this is the only conclusion I can ever reach of creating a better world. Now, helping a charity cause over seas is also very inspiring and helpful, but then again, that is just another way of leading by example; doing good deeds at your own expense of time.

"If one knows right from wrong, how can he ever do anything but what is right?"

Yes, I whole heartedly agree with that.