In several of the newer books I keep running across the idea of the opposites, and the fact that they need to be reconciled or united. What does it mean?
The opposites are polarized pairs like hot and cold, dark and light, good and bad, etc. Above and below, within and without, the one and the many. Pretty obvious so far. But where it gets interesting is when you start to look at the important opposites in your own personality, or the ones that you see in the world that reflect things inside you. And the important thing to notice about them is that we tend to assign positive qualities to one in each pair, and negative qualities to the other. Up and down, dark and light - heck, positive and negative for that matter. Above and below, within and without. In each case one is considered better than the other, sometimes clearly and sometimes more subtlely.
This is important because often the one we see as negative gets repressed into our shadow. Or more properly the one you personally see as negative gets repressed. Not always, but sometimes.
For example - within and without. This can refer to many different ideas, but let’s use it in this case to refer to the psyche and the external physical world. One inside of you and one outside of you. For many people, the physical objective world - the word without - is the only one that has any reality, and they consider the inner world of the psyche imaginary or maybe they do suspect it’s real but they fear it or repress it for other reasons. On the other hand, some people believe only the inner world has any reality, and that the outer world is there but meaningless or unimportant. But of course there are also people who give nearly equal emphasis to each.
This last state - giving equal or nearly equal emphasis to each of the pairs is ideal. It’s what you want in relation to each of the pairs of opposites. What you don’t want is to have one sticking way up high and it’s opposite sunk deep into the Shadow, never to see the light of day.
For this reason, the pairs of opposites are a valuable diagnostic tool that can help you discover some of the things repressed into your shadow.
It works like this - you spend some time listing pairs of opposites, and deciding which one is positive to you and which one is negative. Then you think about the negative ones and try to figure out if it’s something you can talk about freely - without any embarrassment or denial or weird emotions. If weird things come up and you want to stop thinking about it, then that pole is repressed in your Shadow. I think there are degrees of Shadow repression - sometimes I think we just dunk things a little bit into darkness, and sometimes way down deep where the sun don’t shine, with many levels in between.
I did a little sketch demonstrating the idea. The water represents the unconscious. So in the illustration the negative pole is submerged partially, but still slightly above the surface. This means the ‘good’ pole is up pretty far above median level, which is also not really a good thing. What you really want is balance - and the way I drew it you can see it’s possible for them both to be just above the surface. I think this is the way it is for most pairs of opposites - a well balanced person can reflect without stress on both parts, until he gets to something where there is some repression going on.
The way I see it, we all have hundreds of these see-saws poised just at the upper limit of the unconscious. Each see-saw is a pair of opposites. You can just look at them and see where the good poles stick up too far - those things that maybe you value too much, and think about what would be its opposite.
Example, if your team winning the big game makes you really excited but if them losing makes you have a total crap week, then you’re unbalanced about that. I don’t know that this really counts as an important pair of opposites, but it definitely is a pair of opposites. I’m just using it as an example, you need to work out for yourself what your important pairs are and which ones you might be repressing. Maybe you really love attention, so much that it doesn’t matter to you if its good or bad attention, but if you can’t get it you get grouchy or depressed. Then that’s something you should take note of - you’re repressing the negative pole of it into your Shadow. You should examine it - think all around the problem. Why do you like attention so much? Is it related to something from your childhood? Is it something you should rethink? Maybe get counseling for? You could try some self-therapy - maybe try to get yourself used to not getting attention all the time. Work up to where you don’t need to be always talking to people, learn to spend some time alone reading or doing some hobbies.
Actually the Opposites represent the entire work of Individuation. All throughout, what you’re really doing is simply discovering those things that you’ve repressed into your Shadow or the things that are holding back your Anima or Animus, or that are causing a complex or a neurosis. Thinking about the opposites - making a list and thinking about which ones you can talk freely about and which ones you can’t - this is exactly what analysis is about. It’s almost a cheat - a trick to get you there faster and more efficiently. Though of course, analysis is best done with an analyst. There are some things (probably many of them really) that most people just can’t face about themselves, and that’s where an analyst comes in handy. They can see the things you will overlook or are in deep denial about.
Ok, I think that covers the idea of the opposites pretty well. It’s just a bare bones sketch of the concept, but I figure anybody who is interested will look into it deeper. That’s the way I’m approaching this, on a Word to the Wise basis.
As for the idea of the Opposites, this book goes into great detail about it:
The Archetype of the Absolute by Sanford L Drob
As I mentioned above, the idea of reconciling or uniting the opposites is in several of the books I’ve read recently (or am still working on). It shows up in many Jungian books, as it’s so important. Reconciling the opposites creates a third thing - the in-between option, the mean between the extremes. This is what Jung called the Transcendent Function, and it causes Individuation. It’s because in the unconscious, there are no opposites. It thinks holistically and sees everything in its totality - no opposites can exist there. But the conscious tends to automatically divide everything up into pairs of opposites. So in order to establish a good communion between conscious and unconscious, which is the work that creates the balanced state called Individuation, what’s required is to unite as many opposites as you can. Keep doing it - it’s the work of months if not years, and you’ll be getting frequent upgrades.
I should add - each time you pull up a repressed pole from unconscious repression, it releases the energy that's bound up with it. The psyche is what's called an energy system - energy flows through it like through an electrical device (a very complex one, with lots of circuits - like a switchboard or a computer). When something gets pushed down into the unconscious it means the energy associated with it is blocked and can no longer flow freely through the entire system the way it's supposed to. It causes a blockage. So each time you free another bit of content from the Shadow you're like a plumber unplugging a pipe. Lol ok, I know, mixed metaphor. I think you get it regardless. This unplugging or unblocking of energy is what causes the upgrades to the psyche, and when enough of it is done it causes Individuation. Like getting a tune-up for your car, or getting your computer all defragged and running fast again. What the heck - why not a few more mixed metaphors? 
Also, this idea sets us up perfectly for my next post, about Active Imagination, and that’s where things start to get really interesting!
EDIT: Here's a well-written article - actually it's an excerpt from Darryl Sharp's Jung Lexicon - that covers the opposites: Opposites
It says many of the same things I tried to, but much better.
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