Unfortunately, most (some would say all) decisions are not made consciously. They are made based on a series of pre-established patterns developed by our culture, our society, our family life, and so on. The brain chooses these patterns and we react to situations based on which pattern seems to fit any given situation. We largely do this entirely unconsciously, without even being aware of what we are doing. If this seems a bit far out, simple mental exercises can be done to demonstrate the truth of this to the self.
I mostly agree, although I still think the conscious mind still has more significence in life than you seem to be implying.

If one commits a crime in a non-lucid dream, they are still committing the crime. They are simply doing it based on a new (and fantastic) context, and without societal repercussion. In this context, certain barriers are removed, new plot lines are constructed, and we react based on them.
I disagree with this, though. You're probably getting sick of the video game analogies, but its the best way I know to express my point, so, hopefully, you'll endure. If I kill someone in a game, I'm not committing a crime. Nor am I doing so, if I kill someone in a dream, lucid or not. And, again, if its an immoral action, but you're unaware thats its immoral, can you be said to have acted immorally. Would you say an incredibly young child, mostly unaware of the very concept of death and certainly unaware of how dangerous certain items can be, who winds up killing someone, is blameworthy? And if fantastical crime is still counted as a crime, then because of the unreal nature of who's getting affected, it seems victimless to me and, therefore, not morally significent. Finally, (for this point), you mention how contexts are removed when we dream. I agree. But surely they are brought back when we wake? If so, aren't we basically nullifying any potential negative change? Maybe not completely, but enough to make it barely worth mentioning.

This sort of goes back to the argument as to whether or not the non-lucid you is the "real" you. Placing aside the question of what the "real" you even means, lucid dreaming makes it fairly clear that the mind at work in a dream is the mind at work in waking life, merely with different context.
It is an interesting question. Personally, I feel that the real us would be how we act in real life, if only because it is the only plane that everyone can agree on having both existence and significence. Thr true us, however, would be how we react to no expercience; prior, present or otherwise. Our personality (as it is now) would remain, but it would seemingly have no origin. Because dreaming, both lucid and non, takes away certain experiences (memory, presumption of what is currently real etc.) it is closer, perhaps, to the true self than anything we could do in waking life. Obviously, by itself, its not going to get us to this true state. We still have to put some effort in.

Heading towards something a bit more relevent, while they obviously remain the same mind, the difference in context is enough to make it seem wrong to judge the dreaming mind by the laws of the waking world and vice versa.

I think one of the benefits of lucid dreaming is that it allows us to remember ourselves in the dream context, to take advantage of working with the mind at a much deeper level than is possible during waking life, and possibly to find some benefit outside of escapism, which is essentially not escaping at all, but continuing to engage in the same thought patterns that leave us frustrated in waking life.
Perhaps you're not implying the opposite at all, and I'm just jumping the gun here, but they're different levels of lucidity we can experience, which can range from near on absolute (what you just mentioned) to merely having awareness of the dream state but no real memory from waking life. God knows how many times I've reached lucidity but have forgotten dream goals. So, again, I don't think its fair to judge one by the laws of the other. And what would true escapism be, anyway? I mean, punching boss was just an example I gave. One of the dream tasks we've got now, is to jump into a black hole. I don't think a desire to see what your mind can conjure on the other side necessarily speaks about real life frustrations. And, who knows? Maybe a desire to improve yourself through dreams is escapism, as well. After all, why would you improve yourself if there wasn't some suspicion that you're not as good now, as you could be?