Is there a thread for ranting?

**Zhaylin** · 02-04-2009 08:24 PM

I am SO freaggin mad I can hardly see straight, and forget about appetite. I've not eaten anything of substance for almost 24 hours and I was going to go get a bite to eat, but I had to make some phone calls first.
Big mistake that!
I called my former case worker to go over two things she told the psychologist during my stupid psychological/parenting test I took that were inaccurate. I know how to talk to people. I kept the conversation non-judgmental. I said: "they were misunderstandings" and the likes.

I could hear her rolling her eyes because of the exasperated breaths she took. How dare she try to patronize me?! Who the heck does she think she is?!
But, the conversation was still beneficial because she's calling the psychologist to let him know he misunderstood about a point. But it was also raised in the results that I abandoned my kids in 2007 which NEVER happened. I made arrangements with my MOTHER before I left and she was watching BEFORE I left on a trip. I wouldn't put it past the case worker to have fabricated that conversation with my mother (who supposedly told her I abandoned them), but if not.... ???!!! Why the heck would my mother lie?! Why the heck would she try to sabbotoge me?! You better believe I'll be calling mommy-dearest later tonight to get her side of the story, but there may be hell to pay. And she wonders why I'm not close to my family? My family stabs me in the back every chance they get.
Don't get me wrong, I love my family. But that doesn't mean I want to be near them.

And now I have to call my basically apathetic lawyer.
The Case Worker said I didn't try calling her for 4 days after my kids were taken. I tried calling her as soon as I woke up the next day. Through searching my cell phone's call log, I now have proof of that.
They say my children weren't living at our "Farm". But it occurred to me the other day that the matter would be quickly solved by contacted the bus garage and asking for the address my kids were picked up and dropped off at.
Why didn't my lawyer consider those things?
And now everyone tells me: "That doesn't even matter anymore." When my kids lawyer throws it out there every chance he gets.
I wont be called a liar. Even if it wont help my case, I at least want my name cleared and the truth accepted.

And the Former Case Worker is so negligent that she didn't even pass on my test findings to the new case worker who was in court yesterday and told the judge I had to reschedule because I missed it!!!

And my hubby's being a jerk. He's an absolute genius so WHY can't he understand the reason I have to pay child support?! No, he never adopted my kids. No, I have no income of my own. But he married me and most people look at that as if his money is my money. And if I didn't have any income at all, I'd have to find a job. I accept that. I understand. But I still have my $200. a week allowance from him, so I use that.
My only gripe about child support is that I (though having no income of my own) am required to pay more than my ex-husband (who has always been employed).

Forget it all. I'm going back to sleep.
Maybe when I wake up I'll find this was nothing but a nightmare (yeah, right).

**Zhaylin** · 02-04-2009 08:49 PM

What do you think? I'm hoping she takes the bait and admits we made plans before hand cause then I'll copy the sucker off and take it to court with me.

"I spoke with Alison [the former Case Worker] earlier about some things she told the psychologist when I had to go in for that test. I wouldn't put it past her to have misunderstood things, so I thought I should ask you.
She claims that you said I abandoned the kids back in 2007.
You and I both know that never happened. In 2007 Harold watched the kids when we went to Hawaii. And if she meant 2008, you and I made plans for you to come up and watch the kids before I ever left. In fact, we talked at the modular before Jerry and I went on our trip (that was the trip when the furnace died and you and the kids stayed with Debby).
So I'm really confused about what she's talking about.

In other news, the new case worker is talking about perhaps having Ray come down to stay with y'all so long as you pass the inspection. Did you ever hear anything more on that?
As it is, Myles is going to be evaluated at White Oaks on around the 27th of this month and this Friday Ray is moving in with a Foster family in Weston. But he still wants to go to Florida.
Have you heard anymore from Buddy? He somehow weazled his way out of abandonment charges. Probably by claiming he didn't know where they were, even though I have a letter from him that was mailed to this address.
I've also found a way to prove we really were living at the Farm. I just need to get ahold of the bus garage and get a copy of the information about where the kids were to be picked up from and dropped off at.

How is everyone doing? Is Kaleigh doing better? Is she growing much?

Talk to you later,
Tell everyone hi and love them.
Love,
April"

And now I think I can eat something.

**Catbus** · 02-04-2009 09:15 PM

I may sound like a moron, but what's a case worker?

**Zhaylin** · 02-04-2009 09:44 PM

In my case, it's the Department of Health and Human Resources (DHHR).
I left my 16 1/2 year old son in charge of his two younger siblings while I went out of state with my hubby on a business trip. My youngest daughter stayed with a friend and the friends mom was going to check in on my crew every day.
I gave the school my emergency contact number and they called the DHHR as soon as I left the office. We were gone only a couple hours before they picked up all of my kids and placed them into Foster Care. The case was made worse because the kids trashed the house during the day they were there. It wasn't their residence but I wanted them to stay there because it was closer to town if there was an emergency. (We had lived there, but the kids trashed it so much and I was too overwhelmed to clean and fix it up that we moved to our country home during last summer).
I made a terrible judgment call and I'm now in the process of trying to get my kids back (I should get them back in a few months after I take some parenting classes).
The Case Worker is supposed to assist families in reuniting when possible. Our former case worker was a liar or horribly mislead/mistaken about certain things and only made things worse.
Hopefully, we'll have more success with the new one.

IZ · 02-04-2009 10:42 PM

**Catbus** · 02-04-2009 10:46 PM

Oh, well best of luck. That sounds like a horrible situation.

**magical mike** · 02-04-2009 10:48 PM

Why the heck would my mother lie?! Why the heck would she try to sabbotoge me?!

I dint read everything just the first post, and some of the second.
But to answer your question, Probably to get your kids?
Bcause my mom did the same thing to my older sister and her kids, but she said she never took care of them.