Quote Originally Posted by Merlock View Post
My, my, how hasty. It's narrowmindedness like that, that makes it easy to manipulate people.
The one thing that can be said for sure relative to what someone is thinking is...that you can never be completely sure of what someone is thinking. The mind is the only solitary domain each person has. Some use it to hide things deep enough to never be shown on the surface.

On topic though, your actions should depend first and foremost on your outlook. If your "I like her" implies a selfish, self-centred motive then the above advise fits. And by self-centred I don't mean something evil and horrid but something that is simply commonplace nowadays. In such a case "I like her" means "I want her to be with me" instead of "I want to be there for her".
However, if the person at hand is someone you truly care for (the "I want to be there for her"), then the most important thing to do is to care for that person. Not to care whether you show it or not; for actions of care always float to the surface and are noticed eventually, leading to appreciation along with affection, not just attraction.

So, you see, from this point of view, it doesn't matter whether she likes you as a friend or more. Care is the same for both friends and the one who is more than that; it is a starting place for both friendship and love, one not to be ignored or taken lightly.[/b]
No offense man, but that was spoken like a true 'Nice guy, but never gets laid' routine. The world works in mysterious ways but being honest with everyone isn't one of them...Sorry. Either play the game or get played. End of story.

Quote Originally Posted by Merlock View Post
My "I like her" is based on her personality aswell as i think shes real attractive. But, even if she doesn't like me more than a friend i still don't want her to go out with this guy. Its just i know this kinda guy and i know what hes like. His whole approach to her is all based on the way she looks, and nothin' else. And i don't want her to go out with him cause i know eventually he'll hurt her and he won't care. He just wants to show off and say he has a hot girlfriend, without caring at all about anything else about her or her feelings. And whats worse is she doesn't see it. She can't see thats all he's interested in, and i think if i detach myself from her, it might make her get close to me like that, rather than him. Or, if it changes nothing, then how do i stop her from going out with him anyway, without lookin' jealous or whatever?[/b]
Please pay no mind to Merlock man. Being honest will get you no woman. Maybe a fat or ugly woman, but definitely not a physically attractive one. Go ahead and ask a hot girl if she's ever gone for the 'Nice guy'. Pffft...Not bloody likely. Also, show me a poker game where someone won by showing their cards at the beginning, and I will show you a fixed game.

Of course, in the perfect world everyone is honest and talks about their longings and feelings for one another and everyone is happy with goodie-goodie gumdrops for everyone. Meanwhile, in the world we live in people deceive and hide their true feelings and intentions in their 'solitary domains' away from all to see. Even Merlock admitted to that earlier in his moral diatribe.

She obviously likes you enough to feed your desires for her by talking to you. She could've just as easily made the other person like her without having talked to you, but obviously she likes keeping her options open, and of course likes the attention, as I said earlier. I wouldn't have told you advice on manipulating her if I didn't think you stood a fair shot at success. When you throw someone for a loop, most people, especially women, will be caught off guard. But it's real important that you don't stink of an act when you do this. If they so happen to catch wind of it, your chance is gone forever. I got more women after I realized I didn't need them and stopped caring. Go figure. Half of the game is believing it yourself, and walking with confidence regardless of whatever's handed to you.

While I may have manipulated my fair share of women in my time, it wasn't from underestimating them or thinking they were dumb. Women know more about a situation than they lead on most of the time, and therein lies their weakness- they think they have more control than they actually do. If you know how to use that, you keep the upper hand. I've honed the art of keeping people guessing with me, where no one can generally pinpoint or pigeonhole me. Always surrounding yourself in an air of mystery can help stir confusion and insecurity. And, that's the key to manipulating anyone, man or woman.

Know your opponent, or keep them from knowing you, and you always keep the upper hand.