Omg My Sister

well my sister is younger than me but isnt a todler


shes cries everyday

and lies

and gets me into trouble

it bothers me

and is ruining lots of things i wish to do

i was posting a topic on this site

and i get up to get a drink

she runs over to the computer

and says "can i go on"

i said no not now

she says ok thanks and double clisk on microsoft word

word doesnt work on my pc, it crashes it we gotta use microsoft works

so my post that took me like 15 minutes to type is gone and i swear at her

than i get punished...

im not re typing that post

and im pissed off

any advice

dont ask why i hit return after each sentence

i just felt like doing it

~TripleX223

Learn to be considerate. A younger sister isn't your burden but someone special. Do not take siblings for granted, no matter what the circumstances at hand.

Learn to be patient. You swore at your sister and you were punished. Rightfully so. Your parents wish to teach you to not fall victim to your emotions like a wild beast. Let alone when facing someone that you are meant to care for and protect, like a younger sister.

Learn to be understanding. Wisdom and knowledge come with age. This applies to those younger than you at any given point in time. Someone younger is not necessarily any less knowledgable but is less experienced in general. Especially someone quite relatively young, as I picture your sister to be.

All together, do not let aggression govern your mind. It is a selfish and worthless way to lead a life and in the end, when you grow up enough to realise that there are people you truly care for in the world, it may be too late to go back on some actions already commited.

^ Well said

yeah, well off topic but ive been like obsessed with lucid dreaming for th epast week. my best friends think its retarded ans stupid. i told me sister about it and she got scared and sleept in my moms room. (sry ive been asking for lots of advice) so...

Case in point. You lost a post, yes, but would you rather lose your sister instead? Surely not. Compare how relatively much damage was dealt by what happened and whether it's really worth overreacting about.

This isn't to say that it's perfectly fine to ignore others in the way described above (jumping to a PC that is being used) but aggression never solves anything. A settled and precise explanation however, of why it was wrong to do so and why it's important not to be selfish, would indeed be a better way to go about settling the conflict. Be the truly older one and teach your younger sibling things like that instead of letting anger overwhelm you and as a result seeming like the younger one as a whole.

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It sounds unfair you were punished when it is she who should get punished for taking the PC you were using. In a family, the members needs to respect one another, and it shows lack of respect from her side by taking something you are using when you are not there. Anger is perfectly acceptable in such a situation, and your parents clearly made a misjudgement. It is not either just a matter of losing a post; if she does like this regularly, it will might cause you to be stressed and worried thinking: "my sister might take object X I'm using if I go to the toilet to pee."

If the computer is a desirable object for both of you, then you should have times scheduled when it is your turn to use it and when it is her turn. For example, it is your turn Monday and Tuesday; her turn Wednesday and Thursday. Or times of the day, like it is your turn from 10.00-12.00 and her from 12.00-14.00.

• I believe that people deserve their own personal computers (except in the case of two close people that hardly ever use it anyway, like an elderly couple).
• Stay calm. Tell them that you're angry but don't show it. And as long as your sister has nothing on you (ex. you cursed at her) then she should be the only one in trouble.
• Lucid Dreaming is a subject that people tend to view as "weird". I know it's a new amazing thing for you and you wanna tell everybody, but try to restrain yourself.

Wow lots of good advice. Thanks guys (and girls).

Maybe if she gets more used to lucid dreaming, she can share it with you, and you will have someone close to discuss experiences with.

Well i cant. I talked to her about it , and that night she slept in my moms room. my mom will punish me if i talk to her about it again. she thinks shes scared of it, becuase i told her about this girl that was scared of tornadoes made one in her ld and jumped off her house into it and woke up screaming. and my friends think its stupid, and my parents dont care about lding. i never have had a ld before, i really want to through.

wow a long post :)

WEll, just wait a while, then casually bring up in conversation something really cool, not scary, that happened in a dream. Then just sort of sneak into talking about how you can control you dreams and do anything you want, including maybe something that she really likes to do. I think it would be cool to have somebody to talk to about it, because I don't really except people and DV, and also it may be something that you and her can share forever. She may be grateful to you for showing it to her, and the conversations may help you with your ability.

Just bide your time, wait for the perfect opportunity, after she has forgotten about being scared. Make it a game, see if you can get her to have a lucid dream.

:) wow moonbeam thats whciked good advice, but i havnt had a ld soo i really dont know that much about them, im just like obsessed with them. Thanks for your time :).

:) Sure I'll bet you'll have one soon!

223

How old is she?

I understand what it's like to lose something you've been working on for a long time... including about 40+ pages of stories I was working on when my older brother decided to reformat our computer without telling me. That was not a good day for me.

Would you call her behavior at that time aggressive? Do you think she meant to make you angry? Depending on how old she is, she may not have understood why it made you mad. Did she know that Word would screw up your computer? Next time, just tell your parents (calmly). And she may need someone to explain to her what she did wrong and why. She may know, but reinforcing it may keep her from doing it again.

MSG: Imagine a family of six sharing one computer.

well i dont feel right releasing her age. She was smiling as she went on, but i dont think she new should would crash the computer. i think she ment to get my mad but not ruin my text....
wow this forum is really good. thanks for all the advice. :)

Is she hot?

I have a solution, listen up.

Step 1. Throw some d's on that bitch.
Step 2. You're ballin' now.

Thats what they invented knives for. :chuckle:

lol

aww don't get mad at her . What she did sounded like something I would do. Even though it sucks on your part all younger sisters want in the end is attention from you . Well, from my experience thats all I wanted.

Videotape her bad behavior and send it to Nanny 911

Hmmm.. does she take shower or baths.. If she takes a shower and you have the little pull up needle thingy, pull it up before she takes one that way she gets all wet with water!

It only shows that in your family there is no real respect. You should try to defend yourself and state your points about the issues. Don't let yourself suffer for things you didn't do.

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WEll, just wait a while, then casually bring up in conversation something really cool, not scary, that happened in a dream. Then just sort of sneak into talking about how you can control you dreams and do anything you want, including maybe something that she really likes to do. I think it would be cool to have somebody to talk to about it, because I don't really except people and DV, and also it may be something that you and her can share forever. She may be grateful to you for showing it to her, and the conversations may help you with your ability.

Just bide your time, wait for the perfect opportunity, after she has forgotten about being scared. Make it a game, see if you can get her to have a lucid dream.

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I like it; sly like a fox. Oh and Artellis, 223?

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Originally Posted by Merlock

Learn to be considerate. A younger sister isn't your burden but someone special. Do not take siblings for granted, no matter what the circumstances at hand.

Learn to be patient. You swore at your sister and you were punished. Rightfully so. Your parents wish to teach you to not fall victim to your emotions like a wild beast. Let alone when facing someone that you are meant to care for and protect, like a younger sister.

Learn to be understanding. Wisdom and knowledge come with age. This applies to those younger than you at any given point in time. Someone younger is not necessarily any less knowledgable but is less experienced in general. Especially someone quite relatively young, as I picture your sister to be.

All together, do not let aggression govern your mind. It is a selfish and worthless way to lead a life and in the end, when you grow up enough to realise that there are people you truly care for in the world, it may be too late to go back on some actions already commited.
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IT'S SMASHING TIME
~ The Merlock

shes crying again... help me!

This is beyond help. Half of the advice given here is self-centred and focused around the typical egocentric mindframe that so many people unfortunately have ("I'm most important and absolutely nothing else matters as long as I get what I need, always").

If you cannot sense any feelings inside yourself when something like that happens, not ones of anger but of compassion, then it isn't likely you will figure out what to do. Be objective. That does not mean giving up your own positions or rights, like some of the advice from above implies. It means understanding the situation, the reasons behind it and solving the problem in a peaceful manner--through talking, thinking it over and acting.
It's family, for blazes sake, not a group of roommates at a college dorm.

My sister is a fucking crybaby aswell. It is best to tell her to shut up, but if that doesn't work, there's not much to do besides ignoring it.

I'm most important and absolutely nothing else matters as long as I get what I need, always.

Little sisters are like that. I'm thinking that she probably bothers you so because she is trying to get your attention, and any attention (bad) is better than no attention. Remember how you felt when you were little? Were you never left out of anything important because you were young? You should put yourself in her place. Yeah, I have a little sister who did the same things while I was living at home. She just loves you, and doesn't know how else to get your attention.

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Learn to be considerate. A younger sister isn't your burden but someone special. Do not take siblings for granted, no matter what the circumstances at hand.
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Well you're obviously an only child :P

Yea I know it's a problem, but they grow out of it... my sister's alright at 12 while I'm 15 - we get on OK almost all the time.
Except that just when you think they're getting old enough to stop being annoying, the hormones kick in and they start going into giggling fits, and getting angry for no reason, which can be just as annoying as losing a 15 min. post....

You under stand me!