Thread: How Do You Get A Girl To Like You?

I really like a girl at my school and I was wandering how could I get her to like me or even how to tell her I like her.

It works by the process of survival of the fittest.

Im just playin!!!!

THe first thing to do is BE CHARISMATIC. Nothing hurts your game like lack of confidence. I know its a lot more complicated than that, but keep in mind you only live once. You never know what her reaction will be, BUT WHO CARES. U are an animal, and you probably wanna get laid, so go for it. If she rejects you, thats her problem, not yours.

There is no secret method to GET A GIRL TO LIKE YOU. Those skills are learned from a young age from social experiences. Without that, confidence is your only weapon

...............................and maybe a little GHB.

*Hominus Feralis does not advocate the use of date rape drugs to get girls

The first hing you need to do is walk up and punch her in the face.

No, actually that wouldn't help much at all. Just remember that the worst thing that can happen when you ask her out is her saying no. At least you'd have tried. When she says no, and only then, is it ok for you to punch her in the face, ok.

Originally Posted by badassbob

The first hing you need to do is walk up and punch her in the face....
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Oh my god, that's awesome.

Anyway, this is just what works for me, but some of my most intense crushes have been on guys who know how to REALLY flirt properly. It's not too over the top, it's almost a little shy and kind of subtle, but you know it's happening. It's kind of like a flirty game that they're playing with you, and when you realize it's happening you play back and it's sooooo much fun. If a guy can pull it off right, it pretty much doesn't matter what he looks like, because he's got this confidence that's not too overpowering and he's playful and showing a little wit and I really don't think there's anything sexier than that. Oh, and when you're talking to her, make her feel like she's the only girl in the room. And if you can make her laugh really hard, you're in.

You don't. Think about that. She won't come to you your best bet is to make small talk and magically she'll see how much desperate you are and have sex with your just like you wanted. In conclusion you need to make her notice you.

Right, what you need to do is find out when a damn good house party is going, and invite herself and you over to it. The booze will get you past the butterflies in your stomach and you will seem "cool". Not recomended to anyone who hasn't drunk much before, as too much beers is very bad. You can lose your lunch all over her, urinate youself and fall into ditches and cookers.

You don't need to get pissed to talk to her though, in fact I wouldn't recomend it. First you need to be confidant can get over the fear of rejection that most people (myself especially) have. My choice would be a movie, a walk after school, your house, shopping, any where you would feel comfortable hanging about. You could try asking her out from the start, and get onto the small talk and social neccesaries on the date itself, or try and talk to her during school time.

The important bit it to feel comfortable, confidant and not worry about any concequences (her not liking you, her saying no etc). If she doesn't want to go out with you thats not a problem, at least you tried. I would recomend taking it slowly and being a really nice guy (which I imagine you are), trying to get laid in my experience can go disasterously wrong if you go too fast. Be mindful to be kind to her and don't do anything she doesn't want to.
Oh and try and be aware of what your instincts are telling you, even if you don't follow them, at least listen to them. There is a reason you have evolved "gut instinct", but you also have a rational brain. Use them both.

Be yourself. Simple as that. No need to try something "different" or "not you" to get her to like you, cause then she wouldn't be liking ~you~. Best thing I can say is just to ease into it. Speak to her, if you two get along doing that, then after maybe a week, or earlier if you feel something "click", you can ask her out.

Originally Posted by Forsaken

Be yourself. Simple as that. No need to try something "different" or "not you" to get her to like you, cause then she wouldn't be liking ~you~. Best thing I can say is just to ease into it. Speak to her, if you two get along doing that, then after maybe a week, or earlier if you feel something "click", you can ask her out.
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Very well put Forsaken My thoughts exactly. You have to be yourself, no need to try anything out of the norm because you don't want to appear fake to her this will not be good.

Originally Posted by Kart

how to tell her I like her.[/b]

“Wow, I just realized, not just are you sexy but you’re fun to talk with.”

Forsaken Exposition has it exactly right. I wish I had know that in high school.

I've got to add to it though, don't force it. If she feels pressured or overwhelmed, then she will put up walls.

Yes, actually thats quite true. People may feel they need to put on a different "cool" persona, but you don't.
Just talk to her and see how you feel, it doesn't have to be about anything in particular. Be friendly and see what happens.

DON'T tell her. why? It kills any sexual tension. Girls are like cats and a string. if you dangle a string in front of a cat it jumps at it and goes crazy. but what happens when you give the string for the cat to play with? it looks at it and walks away.

Remember. girls have a different sense of logic than guys.
eg
guy logic- a= a

Chick logic- x (unrelated quality) = A

meaning, men connect meaning to something directly. Females connect something that has no meaning or is unrelated to their conlusions. That's why Soap operas are like CRACK for females. these shows are filled with:

"billy's car broke down in the middle of nowhere does this mean he'll never find his soulmate?"

it makes no sense! but they eat it up!

how to use chick crack to your advantage - Walk up (SMILE - very important). ask a question that will hook her attention. It has to be something she would be interested in answering like a fashion or celebrity topic.

eg Do you think the rockstar david bowie, michael jackson, Trent Reznor whatever is hot?

if they say yes. you can say something like " OMG your bad!!!! david bowie is OLD. wow. you're just a bad girl" (say it jokingly). but at the same time turn your body away as if to show disinterest. If you've delivered it correctly, she will laugh and probably re-ingage you. if you've delivered incorrectly she will go "WTF?????" and walk away.

to deliver the correct way it has to be congruent. meaning it has to come from you. It has to seem genuine. from there you can go into any conversation. after the cat-string thingy. gain some rapport - find something in common. just be fun.

body language - stand up straight! approach from a 45 degree angle. if you walk up direct it is too threteaning. don't have a weak voice. just be confident!

ranma just nailed the female paradox

props to you!!!

They dont think rationally and that is why a woman can NEVER be president
HHHHHAAAAAAAAAAAAA HA HA HA HA HA HA

brainwash her


but anyway: time for some useful advice:

don't listen to me...

i have no idea... (no experience )

Either you or someone else give her an idea that you like her...then ignore her, show interest in someone else, and become too busy to talk to her.

Then, just wait. =)

Thats good advice. THe cat and yarn metaphor is true. Get her interest then act like you're not interested.

It works like crack in front of Whitney houston. They just cant resist abstaining

you hit the nail on the head too. JEALOUSY. very powerfull.

nothing hit's em harder than to show interest and then go for someone Hotter. they think "wow i rejected him and it didn't bother him. maybe there's more to him than i thought"

Hehe...watching you guys try to dissect the female psyche is quite humorous.

Of course, there's alot to what I said, and why I said it. The underlying emotions and issues that control most women. But I didn't want to confuse you, so I kept it simple. Take my advice. It'll work.

Jelousy is a cruel trick to play, it can work well. But it could hurt her feelings, be careful. But it sure gets em worked up, I can grant you that.

Once I somehow ended up with two girls fighting over me, odd thing is I'd done nothing to provoke it. They just kinda bitched about each other to me whilst trying to outflirt the other. Dont think that I'm particularly good at this, its just a random fluke that has yet to reoccur.

LMFAO!!!

Guys... the world would be so boring without them trying to make sense of the wonderfully complex creatures we women are.

Listen to Forsaken. The guy knows what he's talking about. Be yourself sweetie. Unless you're looking for a meaningless fling with the chick then by all means try some of the other tactics mentioned here by the others.

But if you really want something solid, be yourself. Either she'll like you or she won't. In either case you'll find out what you need to know. And in the long run that's far better than trying to maintain a relationship that was built upon a phoney foundation.

And... just fyi... I would have laughed in the faces of guys who tried a couple of the things mentioned here. Remember, not all chicks are cut from the same cloth. You should approach each one as the individual that they are.

Dude being yourself won't help you. when i am myself i am meek, shy, wimpy whatever.

if that's being yourself forget it. what you can do is adapt other attitudes into yourself so that it becomes being yourself.

that's why i mentioned CONGRUENCY. there's nothing wrong with BS'ing your way thru getting a girl into liking you. that's not the point. the point is she wants to be taken away by you. and so do you. Women also bullshit to get what they want don't forget. in fact they are probably 10 times better at bullshit than we are.

I knew a guy who was a total player. what he did was tell them he'd marry them and blah blah blah. They knew he was full of shit, but they still went for it. because they like DRAMA. if you don't get an emotional reaction out of them (good or bad) they don't notice you.

Like I said. Not all girls are the same. I sure in the hell am not into what you call 'chick crack'. I have laughed and will laugh again in the faces of the bastards who use lame ass pick up lines and come off trying to appear to be oozing self confidence. I am actually attracted to the shyer, meeker type because they usually know how to hold a real conversation.

Some girls are attracted to the egomaniacal type and they get off on being fed spoonful after spoonful of BS. If that's the type of girl you want... all the luck to you my man. If you want to spend the rest of your life pretending to be something your not just to get laid... have fun with that too. It's your life and if you want to spend the rest of it wading through layer of layer of lies...that's your perogative.

Just let it be known, some of us gals to appreicate sweetness and honesty.

i agree with that trying to appear confident won't help you. in fact FAKING confidence won't help you. BUT even if you try and eventually it starts working. what happens? your confidence goes up! and it becomes more solidified = more congruent..

It is true that women go for a meek guy to spend a relationship or mairrage. BUT it starts with attraction. you don't have to go to these extremes mind you. you can balance both aspects BUT one without the other doesn't lead anywhere.

I HAVE NEVER seen or experienced shyness and meekness attract women. i mean anyguy who's been to highschool knows what i'm talking about. AND everyone has seen guys posting in the HELP section - A. they are still a virgin B. they are the nicest guys you would ever meet.

Now if it's true that some women want a guy who's nice and sweet and buys them roses. how do you explain the phenomena of Millions of dateless guys who do their best to live up to this standard?

in fact GUYS if you want proof: do this sign up for www.plentyoffish.com (free dating site) star one as a women. get a good or mediocre pic of google images of a woman and post it.

you won't believe how many unoriginal and just plain "be yourself" kind of guys will message you

egs from mine:

wow!!! way hot we should definatly chat sum time[/b]

its nice that your body is good but i want your mind , and your heart, Im Tony look at my profile and if your interested get back[/b]

Hey there hun I just wanted to let you know that I think your a very cute and sexy girl. Take a look at my profile if interested let me know, I figure what's the worst that can happen make a friend that's easy on the eyes.......Ciao bella![/b]

Hey How are you doing . My name is ****** Im a white 37/m cutie and true sweetheart.Very muscular and workout and train hard. 6 foot 1 dark brown hair hazel eyes 215lbs and athletic. Im from east texas 2 hours east of Dallas. Ive never been married and no kids but love kids. Im romantic too cuddling snuggling and holding each other and more. Dont believe in abusing or hitting any female. Your soo hottt, Heres some roses for you. @---)--- @---)--- @---)--- @---)--- @---)--- @---)--- @--)---- Wanna get to know me? Do you got msn messenger or aol messenger? Wanna add me on your buddy list? let me know Love for you to instant message all the time . My screen name on america online ***** and on msn *************. Email me all you like. My email on america online*****@aol.com and on msn ************@hotmail.com . I really hope ill hear from you alots sexy. Take care, -*******[/b]

whats up babe
i love you pictures
your sexy

holla at me

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hey i know you don't know me but..... you my new frieand will i hope you add me 2 be your freand i hope to talk to you some day k will bye

***......LUV U.......***[/b]

wwwwoooowwwww!!! YOU ARE SO BEAUTIFUL... WOW!!! BEAUTIFUL SMYLE BABY.

WWWWOWWWW!!! YOU ARE SO PRETTY.

PRETTY..

BEAUTIFUL SMYLE, BEAUTIFUL, BODY, BEAUTIFUL FACE, BEAUTIFUL, BEAUTIFUL, BEAUTIFUL EVERYTHING.

NICE, SEXY, CUTE, GOOD, BEAUTIFUL, PRETTY[/b]

This and 20 others like this in the first day. Now if that's the way to attract a girl, for fling or lover. how is it possible that 90% of these guys close down thier dating avvounts after 3 months because they don't find anyone interested in them?

Originally Posted by kichu

Oh my god, that's awesome.

Anyway, this is just what works for me, but some of my most intense crushes have been on guys who know how to REALLY flirt properly. It's not too over the top, it's almost a little shy and kind of subtle, but you know it's happening. It's kind of like a flirty game that they're playing with you, and when you realize it's happening you play back and it's sooooo much fun. If a guy can pull it off right, it pretty much doesn't matter what he looks like, because he's got this confidence that's not too overpowering and he's playful and showing a little wit and I really don't think there's anything sexier than that. Oh, and when you're talking to her, make her feel like she's the only girl in the room. And if you can make her laugh really hard, you're in.
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VERY GOOD. that's honest and true. notice how she says "It's kind of like a flirty game that they're playing with you," it is a game. built on 30% bs 50% fun and 20% rapport.

Originally Posted by ranma187

VERY GOOD. that's honest and true. notice how she says "It's kind of like a flirty game that they're playing with you," it is a game. built on 30% bs 50% fun and 20% rapport.
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Well, no. It's not 30% bs. The only really bs part of "the game" is that you're probably trying to convey a little more confidence than you actually have. But you don't want to be feeding her stupid lines and crap. I mean he actually does like the girl, it's a natural thing to want to flirt with someone you like. He just needs to learn to make it witty and fun for her. It really is just all about confidence and being funny and not saying idiotic things. You're basically trying to show the best version of you in a short amount of time to get her attention. I think it's only bs if you don't particularly like the girl and you just want to get into her pants or something. But that's not the case, right?

I'm not a guy, buy I know when I myself participate in "the game", although I know we're playing around, I still am saying stuff that I would say, and doing stuff that I would do. I don't just turn into a different person all of a sudden.

My point - don't bs her and don't be fake. If she has any sort of intelligence, she'll see right through it. Just be yourself, but be sharp.

Originally Posted by kichu

Well, no. It's not 30% bs. The only really bs part of "the game" is that you're probably trying to convey a little more confidence than you actually have. But you don't want to be feeding her stupid lines and crap. I mean he actually does like the girl, it's a natural thing to want to flirt with someone you like. He just needs to learn to make it witty and fun for her. It's really is just all about confidence and being funny and not saying idiotic things. You're basically trying to show the best version of you in a short amount of time to get her attention. I think it's only bs if you don't particularly like the girl and you just want to get into her pants or something. But that's not the case, right?

I'm not a guy, buy I know when I myself participate in "the game", although I know we're playing around, I still am saying stuff that I would say, and doing stuff that I would do. I don't just turn into a different person all of a sudden.

My point - don't bs her and don't be fake. If she has any sort of intelligence, she'll see right through it. Just be yourself, but be sharp.
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^^^^^^Eeeeeexactly.