Thread: Why on Earth do I feel like this around really tall girls?

You should go to women's basketball games or practices. I sound like I'm joking but I'm not. They'll easily be over 6 feet tall, and quite confident too I'd imagine. Don't know if they all like shorter guys though..

Lol, you're 6 feet tall and I referred to you as 'shorter'

Originally Posted by OpheliaBlue

You should go to women's basketball games or practices. I sound like I'm joking but I'm not. They'll easily be over 6 feet tall, and quite confident too I'd imagine. Don't know if they all like shorter guys though..

Lol, you're 6 feet tall and I referred to you as 'shorter'

Heh, yeah that's kinda what I mean.
Sure, I do enjoy being tall as well, as long as I am around shorter girls, but as soon as I notice a girl who's remarkably taller etc than me something happens in my brain and I wanna feel small and cute and taken care of by her.
Visiting a woman's basketball practice sounds like a great idea, I will see if I can find something like that around here, I study in a foregin city right now.

One thing I find tricky is that it seems very hard to tell if the tall girls I notice have naturally dominant personalities.
Is there any way to tell that they like being the taller and stronger one in a relationship?
And is there any way at all to tell if they may like guys who are clearly shorter than themselves?

Man, I can't stand tall girls. Especially if they are taller than me. The idea of being with someone bigger than me seems weird. My wife is 5'3 and I am 6'1 and every girl that I am attracted to seems to be 5'6 or shorter. haha. It is interesting that it is opposite of me. Always strange to me that people can be similar to me and think completely differently. Basketball is good, volleyball would have more though, all the gals that I know that play college volleyball are taller than me.

Not sure how you would be able to tell BEFOREhand if they were into 'shorter' guys. Hit one up and see. I wouldn't slap one on the buns and run though, because she would catch up for sure lol

Originally Posted by OpheliaBlue

Not sure how you would be able to tell BEFOREhand if they were into 'shorter' guys. Hit one up and see. I wouldn't slap one on the buns and run though, because she would catch up for sure lol

Haha well I wouldn't really do that anyway, because it seems slightly dominant to me, and I want to be the delicate and submissive one.

I actually think this kind of feeling is really strange, I have no idea why I am this massively attracted to girls who appear taller and more powerful and all.
It's hard to describe, but basically as soon as I see a reasonably attractive woman who is at least 3-4 inches taller than me and appears athletic and robust I just have to hang around close to her, but I try to do it in a way that's not too obvious.
It's really funny how a woman can make me feel so hyper just by being noticeably taller than me, haha.
Sometimes I wonder if any other guys even feel the exactly same way, because even the guys who like tall girls seem to want them to be shorter than themselves, rather than taller.

Like I said, it doesn't really have anything to do with sexual games like bondage or whatever, it's all about a lifestyle among other people.
I would really love to be one of the tinier guys around some alpha woman amazon why is in charge naturally without even trying to, I guess I should make that an LD goal or something.

There's doubtlessly guys that feel the same way you do. I'm not one of them, but I'm sure it's not as uncommon as you think. Louis Theroux did a lil special on dudes that are into body building chicks.

I like dominant girls, but not taller girls. I still want to be the one to protect her, I just don't mind at all when a girl takes charge and goes for what she wants. That kind of confidence is really attractive, especially if she's attractive. But I'd find it weird if she was taller than me. Granted, I do have gigantism.

Seems most of the men that flirt with me are shorter. I am 5'9". WHICH, BTW, is the perfect height for a human

Usually attraction to the opposite sex has it's roots in your early years, mostly what your mother was like and how she treated you. Perhaps she was either tall or dominant, and you might associate being tall with being dominant. Trying to keep it short and simple here. Do you watch porn often? Fetishes or sexually preferences that you would normally not develop can have their roots in a bad pornography/masturbation habit as well. And I am speaking from personal experience here, I used to watch it often and I had fantasies like that where a female would dominate me (however only sexually) but it's gone since I stopped watching that bullshit.

As for me, I'm not one who you should dominate over. I honestly would not want a partner like that, I'd rather have an independant woman who can rely on me if she needs me and the other way around, but she also has to be good in the kitchen. I often get called crazy and unpredictable, which usually happens when people try to walk over me or be dominant. I'm generally very peace loving though so no worries.

One more thing, it would be hot for me if a woman would take charge sometime and seduce me, however I wouldn't want that too much and I don't consider that dominant. Do you, OP?

Hope that helps a bit!!

Originally Posted by Athylus

Usually attraction to the opposite sex has it's roots in your early years, mostly what your mother was like and how she treated you. Perhaps she was either tall or dominant, and you might associate being tall with being dominant. Trying to keep it short and simple here. Do you watch porn often? Fetishes or sexually preferences that you would normally not develop can have their roots in a bad pornography/masturbation habit as well. And I am speaking from personal experience here, I used to watch it often and I had fantasies like that where a female would dominate me (however only sexually) but it's gone since I stopped watching that bullshit.

As for me, I'm not one who you should dominate over. I honestly would not want a partner like that, I'd rather have an independant woman who can rely on me if she needs me and the other way around, but she also has to be good in the kitchen. I often get called crazy and unpredictable, which usually happens when people try to walk over me or be dominant. I'm generally very peace loving though so no worries.

One more thing, it would be hot for me if a woman would take charge sometime and seduce me, however I wouldn't want that too much and I don't consider that dominant. Do you, OP?

Hope that helps a bit!!

This is a little misleading, fetishes rooted in early childhood don't develop necessarily to mirror those conditions but to cope with them. E.G. when a child is conditioned to believe their private parts are dirty and stigmatized, they'll often move their center of fixation from the privates to, say, the foot. Or when a child grows up in a abusive home, they won't develop a fixation on abuse but rather an inability to trust adults and thus move their fixation to children. This type of conditioning is mostly irreversible, it occurs so early that it becomes part of their identity and while other patterns can be developed and habituated, the old patterns remain dormant. This is different from getting into kinky porn.

Being into tall, dominant girls may be something else entirely. People have multiple levels of attraction. For example, we have sexual, romantic and companion levels of attraction, and they're occasionally disoriented so that the person is sexually attracted to one sex and romantically attracted to another. As far as we can tell, this is not based on early childhood conditioning but is, instead, simply how they're born. Life thrives through diversity, not all mutations must make perfect sense, it is diversity itself which grants our species a whole anticipation of the future. We adapt to the future not because the future presents itself and we change accordingly, but because members of our species are already changed so when the future strikes certain individuals are already prepared to thrive. This is why seemingly ineffective mutations continue to crop up. My advice is to embrace your uniqueness, for you dance the dance of life the way you are designed to, not because your design necessarily fits into the world as it exists now but because anything could happen, the future is open, and your design is part of the process of anticipating it.