Thread: A rant about all things female.a

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I wish period blood made better lube.

Um ouch?

Originally Posted by Abra

I wish period blood made better lube.

I think it's pretty adequate.

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I feel funny.

Why?

Both dream and female-related: I've started dreaming about sperm banks when I ovulate. -_- In waking life, I don't care very much about sex and also don't want to be a parent. Apparently the first point has sunk into my subconscious, but my ovaries still want to negotiate on the second one.

Wish women were up front about things and said what they meant, it does a better job of getting you what you want, at least if you're dealing with men. Sorry, I didn't realize the dishes were left out specifically because you wanted me to do them, if you wanted me to do them all you had to do was ask.

Women are atomically designed to be repeled by me

There are tons of things about the female anatomy that bother the crap out of me. But I don't think they would bother me as much if I was dating one. I know that barely makes sense, it's just stuff I think about a lot. For example, I wouldn't want to have periods, but I wouldn't care if my girlfriend did.

lol, Snoop. Do you have eyeballs? Did you see the dishes were out? If so, put them away

ColdCrisis. I'm sure that's not true.

Mr. Monthly is currently paying me a visit. But it's all good. I've been taking my Celexa as I should be so no cramps or anything.
I do wish I was on it for the full 5-7 days instead of this start/stopping crap.

That's understandable Ophelia and Zhaylin. So do I Snoop, I'm a female and I really wish others would be more up front and just ask if they want something.

Originally Posted by snoop

Wish women were up front about things and said what they meant, it does a better job of getting you what you want, at least if you're dealing with men. Sorry, I didn't realize the dishes were left out specifically because you wanted me to do them, if you wanted me to do them all you had to do was ask.

Can I complain about stereotyping like this?

I get upset when men say women do a certain thing, with an implied 'all' which is usually ignored. I swear I encounter a case of this at least a couple times a week, and I seem to be the only one who cares. If the person making the claim is pressured, they'll usually admit that there might be some exceptions. But I get the feeling they don't really take the exceptions seriously. In their minds, they actually believe that all women do it. The fact that not all women do what you're saying might be a little negligible fact to you, but I am actually in the group that you're accusing of having this extremely negative trait, so it's important to me that you don't have this false idea of me and other women who might not have it.

I'm extremely up-front about things like that, unless I've already said it so many times that I'm sure the person already knows that whatever it is bothers me.

This is one of my personal triggers, people making gender-based claims which apply to me. I just wish that people would judge people for negative traits individually, and not blame their entire gender. I'm sure there are some patterns, and maybe more women do that than don't, but at the very least, say "I don't like when women ..." or "I don't like women who ...." rather than "[I] Wish women were ...."

I've never brought this up without being told to chill the fuck out or something equivalent. Can this be the first?

To be fair, and in Dianeva's defense, dudes aren't always upfront either. I didn't mention it before in this thread because I assumed it was a "well duh!"

The dishes thing was probably just supposed to be funny like the phone in the purse thing. That said, not being upfront about things is a human trait, not a gender specific one.

I don't like engorged breasts. Lactation shouldn't be yet another obstacle for the female body. They just popped a watermelon out ffs.

I like all things female... except for the fact that I'm trapped in a female body. But women are simply the best.

About the period thing, Ophelia, I'm with you. I'm taking a pill, so I haven't had mine in over a year, but I've never cared at all if a girl I was with was having hers. I mean, it happens, it's normal, life goes on, I don't stop during the day to think about it, you know?

About women not speaking up their minds, it's totally a personality thing, not a gender thing... obviously. I like it when people tell me exactly what they're thinking, but I'm not open at all, so I don't have the right to judge. I still judge, but I don't have the right. Life is complicated that way.

I was going to say something about the engorged breasts comment, but now all I can think of is boobs. Boobs. I love boobs. Boobs.

Originally Posted by Dianeva

Can I complain about stereotyping like this?

I get upset when men say women do a certain thing, with an implied 'all' which is usually ignored. I swear I encounter a case of this at least a couple times a week, and I seem to be the only one who cares. If the person making the claim is pressured, they'll usually admit that there might be some exceptions. But I get the feeling they don't really take the exceptions seriously. In their minds, they actually believe that all women do it. The fact that not all women do what you're saying might be a little negligible fact to you, but I am actually in the group that you're accusing of having this extremely negative trait, so it's important to me that you don't have this false idea of me and other women who might not have it.

I'm extremely up-front about things like that, unless I've already said it so many times that I'm sure the person already knows that whatever it is bothers me.

This is one of my personal triggers, people making gender-based claims which apply to me. I just wish that people would judge people for negative traits individually, and not blame their entire gender. I'm sure there are some patterns, and maybe more women do that than don't, but at the very least, say "I don't like when women ..." or "I don't like women who ...." rather than "[I] Wish women were ...."

I've never brought this up without being told to chill the fuck out or something equivalent. Can this be the first?

I understand it was a sensitive example to pick but in this case I was talking about something that actually happened to me today. I can see how it could easily be taken otherwise, but it's important to know that I didn't mean it as a joke to put down women. I apologize for the misunderstanding, it should have occurred to me. There are plenty of other examples of women expecting men to be mind readers or to pick up on things that other women do, which is fine on its own but I just don't think or operate this way, I am very straightforward and need things spelled out for me if there is an expectation to meet, which is a quality I see more in men than in women. With that knowledge, I wish the women who are guilty of this would realize or care that guys just don't do things based off of unspoken hints, clues, bread crumbs, body language, or tone of voice. We say what we mean and ask for what we want. I realize this must be frustrating to said women, but it can't be any more frustrating than the man you're giving clues to not noticing them and you thinking his is simply ignoring you. Spelling it out, even if it is annoying, is very helpful--at least to me. I am usually more than happy to do what it is that you want from me, but I am just too oblivious to hint systems to be able to do any of what you want. For both our sake's, please just ask.

edit: I reread your post and realized I misunderstood you, at first I thought you were upset that I had stereotyped doing the dishes as a woman's job. Anyway, I think it goes without saying (or it should) that what I said was a generalization, but I overwhelming have experienced this with most of the women I know more than an acquaintance. I'm very glad that you are not guilty of this because honestly it is the root of a lot of arguments and unhappy feelings and men and women both that are guilty of this aren't helping out by making it a habit. Really though, I appreciate it. I definitely could have avoided this problem by being more cautious with my wording and probably still can be, but I am saying now that I don't actually mean that all women are guilty of what I am saying and I did not mean to put off that front.

Originally Posted by Zhaylin

lol, Snoop. Do you have eyeballs? Did you see the dishes were out? If so, put them away
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I know you are joking, and don't think I'm picking on you, but this is actually what happens to be what the women I'm talking about think. I understand it is a reasonable expectation, but I'm just a big dummy and don't pick up on things like that. If I am asked to do it, I don't have a problem doing it and then we're both happy. Yes, it's not very thoughtful but my head is in a different place. Actually, specifically I am terrible at seeing things that are right in front of me, even if I'm actively searching for something. Half the time it is literally staring me in the face and I don't see it.

I'm the same way dude.

They got people who like to surprise you with their ability to be ingenious and read between the lines. Then they got people who would like that clear direction. I'd prefer to be the former, but I'm actually the latter.

Spoiler for Dianeva's post:

Originally Posted by Dianeva

Can I complain about stereotyping like this?

I get upset when men say women do a certain thing, with an implied 'all' which is usually ignored. I swear I encounter a case of this at least a couple times a week, and I seem to be the only one who cares. If the person making the claim is pressured, they'll usually admit that there might be some exceptions. But I get the feeling they don't really take the exceptions seriously. In their minds, they actually believe that all women do it. The fact that not all women do what you're saying might be a little negligible fact to you, but I am actually in the group that you're accusing of having this extremely negative trait, so it's important to me that you don't have this false idea of me and other women who might not have it.

I'm extremely up-front about things like that, unless I've already said it so many times that I'm sure the person already knows that whatever it is bothers me.

This is one of my personal triggers, people making gender-based claims which apply to me. I just wish that people would judge people for negative traits individually, and not blame their entire gender. I'm sure there are some patterns, and maybe more women do that than don't, but at the very least, say "I don't like when women ..." or "I don't like women who ...." rather than "[I] Wish women were ...."

I've never brought this up without being told to chill the fuck out or something equivalent. Can this be the first?

I also hate stereotyping, generalizations, and sexism. Sexism goes both ways though, I hear sexist things about both men and women all the time. I also don't get why making fun of and bashing another gender is fine on TV, whenever someone on a talk show does this they're always applauded.

Um. ...sorry if I offended anyone.

Originally Posted by RedFaye

Um. ...sorry if I offended anyone.

Lol you're fine. We always work stuff out this way.

Originally Posted by snoop

I know you are joking, and don't think I'm picking on you, but this is actually what happens to be what the women I'm talking about think. I understand it is a reasonable expectation, but I'm just a big dummy and don't pick up on things like that. If I am asked to do it, I don't have a problem doing it and then we're both happy. Yes, it's not very thoughtful but my head is in a different place. Actually, specifically I am terrible at seeing things that are right in front of me, even if I'm actively searching for something. Half the time it is literally staring me in the face and I don't see it.

You're just like me! I've had so many problems with my ex-roomie. She expected me to read her mind or something. If she'd simply tell me what she wants me to do, instead of sulking all day and making miserable faces, things would have been a lot easier. I suggested making a time-table to divide the chores so that I don't have to play this guessing game of who does the dishes on which days, and she rejected the idea. That kind of attitude annoys me a lot. I appreciate directness.

How comfortable is it to use «open clothes» in a cold day ? I think that's not an intelligent trade-off many people ( specially women ) do