Thread: What is Your Dream in Life?

Good thread.

- Dissolve all tensions in the body with breath energy going through. Then feel rapture, happiness and peace.
- Be able to let go all of my attachments, at least the ones i recognize, and be left with contentment of unclinging.
- Become a monk, master virtue and meditation then live like a hermitage. Not interested in traditions or chanting, etc... just truth.

Clarity

Originally Posted by tropicalbreeze

I typed this over 4 years ago and i'm living it.

Some threads are just worth necroing...

My Dream in Life? To prove that all the proclaimed, imagined, and unknown potentialities of dreaming are real, doable, and can affect my world and my future.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KjhAKyiRL0k
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aLYWDYxuKSY

Create my own persistent dream world.

I really don't have any dreams. I guess you could say my dream is to actually be what I'd consider to be truly happy, rather than simply content or being indifferent. That, and if it isn't necessarily implied, to never get bored, or at least not often). Constant boredom doesn't seem possible if you're happy though, feeling bored on a consistent basis is something that makes one pretty unhappy, so I suppose it is implied with being happy. Otherwise, being famous or a celebrity in any way alienates you from the rest of humanity, you never really know if somebody really likes or loves you, the same can said if you're insanely rich or the most attractive person alive. Ruling over people would be such a hassle, and I simply don't derive any pleasure from controlling groups of people, so no aspirations of anything like being a king, emperor, president, prime minister, or anything to that effect. Basically, being to much of anything or having too much of anything has more downsides than upsides in my opinion, except when it comes to being happy. If there were dragon balls or something that grants wishes, for instance, I would most definitely wish to be a happy person for the rest of my life.

To be comfortably happy. Without any worries. To be healthy.

That's the problem for me: I don't really know.

I mean I have the usual dreams the same as everyone elses ( like health and happiness ), but besides that I don't really know. Maybe becoming a professional at something... like at lucid dreaming probably. Traveling sounds appealing too, and a few other things.

1: Fall in love

2: Make an amazing album in my home studio.

3: win the lottery

4: Become a master at lucid dreaming, shared dreaming, all dat supernatural shit.

5: Keep my good health.

6: Build a modular synthesizer.

I really want to retire in comfort. I think that it would be awesome to live in a place called Captain Cook Hawaii. The coldest it gets is about 66F and the hottest it gets is about 89F. There is a government protected reef there. I have been able to swim with dolphins in the wild there three times. I hear in the winter there is great whale watching. Tropical fruit grow every where all year long. The humidity is only about 65%. that is kind of humid but not really that bad.

With no real expectations about it, my waking life dream is to learn from lucid dreaming how the absence of pain in my lucid dreams works, so that I can carry that over to my daily waking life.

Originally Posted by DarkestDarkness

With no real expectations about it, my waking life dream is to learn from lucid dreaming how the absence of pain in my lucid dreams works, so that I can carry that over to my daily waking life.

<3 Hey, maybe you really can find something out about that. I believe in you, Dark. When you do find out, share the knowledge... I could use it, too.

I have 2 dreams. Very simple.

1. I want to write music, play and sing. I want the time to go be by myself, with my ukulele, surrounded by wilderness, without kids, without any deadlines or distractions... No pressure. I really feel like I have knack for this, and I want to use it in my life while I can. I don't want to waste my gifts. Being stressed at work makes it hard for me to want to be creative.

2. If I'm being 100% honest , I would like to find a partner in life. I want a relationship that is in that 10% group, at least, according to some books I've read. The kind that are actually connected, and actually stay connected. No pretense and going through the motions, I already did that for over a decade. For the longest time I didn't think this was possible, but I've read too many examples that it is. And if it is possible, then I'm going to do it.

Yep, that's it. Those are my dreams.

Originally Posted by MoonageDaydream

2. If I'm being 100% honest , I would like to find a partner in life. I want a relationship that is in that 10% group, at least, according to some books I've read. The kind that are actually connected, and actually stay connected. No pretense and going through the motions, I already did that for over a decade. For the longest time I didn't think this was possible, but I've read too many examples that it is. And if it is possible, then I'm going to do it.

I wish you the best luck with this dream. I think the best way to find that is to only date people you would be friends with if it was only going to be friends. Often we seek that rush that we think of as "in love" but that comes much more from mating instinct than from deep compatibility. That does not mean you should not look for both, but the person must be someone you would respect and like as a friend.

Assuming it's possible, I would definitely share it. I have known a fair few people who have similar living situations to mine and I know that if something like that could be taught, it would make a huge difference in their lives. When you're constantly hurting it's difficult to not be bitter about everything and the prospect of helping others through their own pain and difficulties can feel relieving in some sense for me, I think.

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Not knowing anything about supposed statistics on this, I do hope you will find your partner in life MoonageDaydream, I feel I have found mine, though it has felt accidental I sometimes think; what I learned from it was also that like sivason says, there has to be some deep compatibility... And besides that, we had to be willing to learn from each other and part of that was taking the positive attributes of the other one and trying to integrate those into ourselves.

What I also ended up learning about even only recently, and I think this is related to what sivason is saying; that who and why you feel attracted to someone isn't necessarily going to match on all levels; physical, romantic and mental levels. I realise now that over the years I had many "crushes" over some people, but I see now that most of it was about physical attraction. Many times, they were people who I would have been incompatible with at an emotional level and we would likely have disagreed on too many things at a core level for us to be able to properly get along.

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Mostly speaking from my own experience and a bit from what I know of. Stress does impact on creativity. It can have beneficial effects too such as driving you more toward making something, but if things are particularly overwhelming it can feel somewhat paralysing, like nothing can come out at all.

Sometimes I really can't get anything out of a creative session, but other times I may realise that it's the actual expectation of wanting to do something that is keeping me from actually getting started, too. In a way, wanting to do something so much can have just the same effect as other stressors, since it creates temporary issues with confidence and self-expectation.

That's probably why I've found it helpful over the years to (at an unusual time) just pick something up and not try too hard and just do something, not caring too much; sometimes I get something out of it, sometimes I don't; many times I get ideas, at least, if nothing else.

I almost got away with typing only one paragraph... and then wrote much more.

Thank you both very much for your advice, and I agree 100%. I think my biggest hurdle is that I am very introverted. I don't get out a lot, and I don't have large group of friends. The people I do know, at work, or in my gaming group, they are all married. I need to get out more.

Hey Dark - I appreciate your long post!

Originally Posted by MoonageDaydream

Thank you both very much for your advice, and I agree 100%. I think my biggest hurdle is that I am very introverted. I don't get out a lot, and I don't have large group of friends. The people I do know, at work, or in my gaming group, they are all married. I need to get out more.

Hey Dark - I appreciate your long post!

If the love of your life is introverted like yourself, do you think that person will be out there, where people go, when they do get out. Or might that person also not get out a lot ... Of course, if you are looking for an extroverted person, then the situtation is probably very different.

I'm drawing a blank. Perhaps keeping my family in good health. Or moving next to the beach. Though after Covid I'm content just getting out of my damn house. Being slightly more sociable again.

Ever since I was little,I've loved drawing. Overtime,I also learned to sculpt and write. But my dream is to become a famous artist,sell my art,get the needed money and live a rich life in my own decorated house,with my own decoration ,where nobody can tell me what to place and what not to place in my house. It may not seem easy to do,but hey,who said dreams are easy to achieve?