Thread: 365 days w/o Jerking Off: A self control challenge

Originally Posted by Carrot

Good luck Chicken! But I'll think a No Fap and No Sex challenge for you will be good. The whole purpose is not to reach orgasm for a month and of course restraining yourself too!

I don't think my boyfriend agrees

Also the challenge is about me and has nothing to do with him. Sex is important to keep your relationship healthy and happy so I see no benefits in having no sex.

Originally Posted by Chicken

I don't think my boyfriend agrees

Then you should probably try it when it's possible to do so. Because you might not feel the effect of the challenge if you had sex every week while having this challenge.

Originally Posted by Carrot

Then you should probably try it when it's possible to do so. Because you might not feel the effect of the challenge if you had sex every week while having this challenge.

I was wondering about that, what were the effects on you, as a woman?

Originally Posted by Chicken

I was wondering about that, what were the effects on you, as a woman?

My obsessive-compulsive disorder was severe at that time when I first started it, so I believe the challenge had helped me in making it better. Because one of the symptoms I have was sexual images/thoughts. I'll start doubting that whatever I type to contain sexual words, and pictures I see to contain sexual images. Having the challenge helped me to cut down those thoughts.

Other than that, I like the idea that I was refraining myself from doing something because I want to. There are many things in life that we're forced not to do because we don't have a choice, regardless we want to or not. It makes me feel helpless with situations. But the challenge gave me the thought that I'm capable to be in control of my life because I can stop doing something I like because I want to. Maybe some kind of reverse psychology?

And because of that challenge, I have ideas of having one month challenge too. I haven't decide on what to challenge for a month yet. But I'll say this challenge is by far the best we have. Now I'm keen on testing my limit, like taking away items of comfort for a month, to stop eating something I like for a month, etc.

Originally Posted by Chicken

Maybe we will have to find a new word for girl fapping because it just sounds wrong, any ideas?

Rubbing? And fapping your bf shouldn't be a problem, as you are not the one reaching the orgasm. Then again, I don't think it is necessary to refrain from having sex with others. If you have the chance, just grab it (pun intended)

Originally Posted by Chicken

Maybe we will have to find a new word for girl fapping because it just sounds wrong, any ideas?

I believe the internet slang is 'schlicking'

Originally Posted by Pensive Patrick

I believe the internet slang is 'schlicking'

Schlicking it is!

The challenge comes down to no schlicking during the week and one time sex in the weekend (I'am only with my bf in the weekend) for a month.
Almost one week down (the easiest because my hormones have been on a low level)

Wish me luck

*Wonders about the purpose of Chicken's challenge*

Oh well. Good luck!

Still succesful, less than a week to go. Then I'm going to take a break from the challenge

Originally Posted by Carrot

*Wonders about the purpose of Chicken's challenge*

Oh well. Good luck!

Guess to make the 1 weekly sex better... ;p

Originally Posted by Wolfwood

Guess to make the 1 weekly sex better... ;p

True enough.

But she might not learn anything psychologically. It's the abstaining that's giving one new thoughts.

Originally Posted by Carrot

*Wonders about the purpose of Chicken's challenge*

Oh well. Good luck!

The purpose of my challenge is to get real sexy, naughty dreams

Originally Posted by Chicken

The purpose of my challenge is to get real sexy, naughty dreams

Scince you are a girl you should have no problem getting the real thing

But then again, you have a boyfriend. Which i presume is best in the end anyways.

I've been inspired by this thread. Especially by those who saw an improvements in their life.

DAY 1: SUCCESS

Wish me luck as i know it will not be easy for someone who has been masturbating daily for the last 2 years or so

I think setting small goals is the best way to go about this.

Originally Posted by Blazer

I've been inspired by this thread. Especially by those who saw an improvements in their life.

DAY 1: SUCCESS

Wish me luck as i know it will not be easy for someone who has been masturbating daily for the last 2 years or so

I think setting small goals is the best way to go about this.

So how many days are you setting for your goal?

Originally Posted by Carrot

So how many days are you setting for your goal?

2 weeks, after that I will see how I'm going and decide whether I want to continue.

Originally Posted by Blazer

2 weeks, after that I will see how I'm going and decide whether I want to continue.

Good luck!

Originally Posted by Blazer

I've been inspired by this thread. Especially by those who saw an improvements in their life.

DAY 1: SUCCESS

Wish me luck as i know it will not be easy for someone who has been masturbating daily for the last 2 years or so

I think setting small goals is the best way to go about this.

Good to see that you've found inspiration to do this. I had been masturbating for six years, and I'm currently at day 74 of abstaining. In other words: "yoo can do it!!" Good luck!

Originally Posted by Freda

Scince you are a girl you should have no problem getting the real thing

But then again, you have a boyfriend. Which i presume is best in the end anyways.

LOL

You are right about the boyfriend, it is the best. On the other hand, I have nothing to compare it with because he is the only one I had/have sex with, for 14 years now!
Lucid dreaming is great because I can have sex with other people and not feel guilty or do harm to my relationship.

Succes to you Blazer

14 years? And still dating?

Originally Posted by RemoteVicinity

Good to see that you've found inspiration to do this. I had been masturbating for six years, and I'm currently at day 74 of abstaining. In other words: "yoo can do it!!" Good luck!

Bloody hell, mate. That must be difficult.

Originally Posted by Wolfwood

Bloody hell, mate. That must be difficult.

I think he has seen the light.

To add on, I still haven't fap yet since the end of my challenge.

I think my electricity wasn't working during the darkness of my abstinence. No light for me in there - only when I go back out the door I came in.

Originally Posted by melanieb

14 years? And still dating?

Yes and very happy We don't live together and it is working out great!
No fights over doing the dishes and stuff