365 days w/o Jerking Off: A self control challenge

**Spyguy** · 03-06-2012 04:58 PM

Originally Posted by Supernova

I think a few people might be taking this a little too seriously. Time will tell.

Well guys, I think I'm going to go ahead and join Spyguy and Solarflare. It interests me as a test of self-control; I want to see what it will actually take to get myself to do this. And if it really does have any of the other supposed benefits, well then all the better. For now I'll say a modest 30 days, but if I really feel like being a pro I'll extend it to 60.

starting tomorrow.

I'm sure you can make it. Good luck either way! Even though I've abstained for more than my current amount of days (I am officially in day 7, though it is actually day 8

), I am really feeling the effects this time. Perhaps it's because of my determination to make it, rather than it just being a tryout. It's easier to communicate with girls now. Could be the confidence, but perhaps they have some kind of '6th sense' for it, lol.
As for girls, here is a tip everyone (it may seem obvious to some, but I'm certain it will help others): don't approach girls as a sex object. Really, don't. They are persons, so appreciate and respect that. For the metaphors: look them in the eyes, not the nipples. They appreciate that. View it from their perspective. What's better: a guy that only wants sex or a nice guy to talk with? And confidence ofcourse. Confidence but not arrogance. You got to show them 'Look at me, I am awesome', but DEFINITELY NOT 'Look at me, I am awesome and I know it'.

Day 6 was a succes again. It's funny how I keep posting how the previous days while I have almost finished the one in which I type it. Day 7 is almost over at the moment of typing this, lol.

Anyway, I think anyone can do this, you just have to be motivated. Not like 'I probably can't, but perhaps I should try'. Know that you can do it if you really want because you CAN. And you'll be glad you did it afterwards. Just know that it´s going to be difficult, and may even be like mustnotfap.jpg at a point in time, but you CAN and WILL go through with it no matter what may happen.

But again, good luck to Supernova who will be joining the challenge

**Carrot** · 03-06-2012 05:54 PM

Originally Posted by Spyguy

I'm sure you can make it. Good luck either way! Even though I've abstained for more than my current amount of days (I am officially in day 7, though it is actually day 8

), I am really feeling the effects this time. Perhaps it's because of my determination to make it, rather than it just being a tryout. It's easier to communicate with girls now. Could be the confidence, but perhaps they have some kind of '6th sense' for it, lol.
As for girls, here is a tip everyone (it may seem obvious to some, but I'm certain it will help others): don't approach girls as a sex object. Really, don't. They are persons, so appreciate and respect that. For the metaphors: look them in the eyes, not the nipples. They appreciate that. View it from their perspective. What's better: a guy that only wants sex or a nice guy to talk with? And confidence ofcourse. Confidence but not arrogance. You got to show them 'Look at me, I am awesome', but DEFINITELY NOT 'Look at me, I am awesome and I know it'.

Day 6 was a succes again. It's funny how I keep posting how the previous days while I have almost finished the one in which I type it. Day 7 is almost over at the moment of typing this, lol.

Anyway, I think anyone can do this, you just have to be motivated. Not like 'I probably can't, but perhaps I should try'. Know that you can do it if you really want because you CAN. And you'll be glad you did it afterwards. Just know that it´s going to be difficult, and may even be like mustnotfap.jpg at a point in time, but you CAN and WILL go through with it no matter what may happen.

But again, good luck to Supernova who will be joining the challenge

I still don't understand how this challenge made it easier for you to approach girls.

**ty4TheAdventure** · 03-06-2012 06:05 PM

Originally Posted by Carrot

I still don't understand how this challenge made it easier for you to approach girls.

More time + more motivation = More proactive habits

PS. I wouldn't let the whole idea of masturbation torture you if you do it. It's really not bad at all. What's bad is if you get so into it through constant porn stimulation that your brain begins to mimic the addiction effects that are usually induced by actual substances because it craves those dopamine surges; then there's the inevitable desensitization that comes with this. And on the other end of the spectrum, if you end up putting such a negative connotation on it, repression has its own huge slew of negative effects which can be seen all around our culture today x_x

Anyway, good luck to everyone in the challenge!

**ShadowOfSelf** · 03-06-2012 06:06 PM

Originally Posted by Carrot

I still don't understand how this challenge made it easier for you to approach girls.

Dunno, I guess if you're not wanking over them you will feel more comfortable talking to them! lol!

**RemoteVicinity** · 03-06-2012 06:53 PM

Originally Posted by Carrot

I still don't understand how this challenge made it easier for you to approach girls.

It is as if girls have a sixth sense that tell them whether you're wanking or not, lol. I think they somehow see that you're more confident (and happier), but you may not notice it yourself.

**Carrot** · 03-06-2012 06:55 PM

Originally Posted by RemoteVicinity

It is as if girls have a sixth sense that tell them whether you're wanking or not, lol. I think they somehow see that you're more confident (and happier), but you may not notice it yourself.

Lols? Really.

Haha. Not like it matters. Most people probably doesn't know I am doing it.

**RemoteVicinity** · 03-06-2012 07:02 PM

Originally Posted by Carrot

Lols? Really.

Haha. Not like it matters. Most people probably doesn't know I am doing it.

Well, at least that's what I feel

I don't mean they seem to directly know that you're doing it, but if you're doing it, they won't be as attracted to you.

**Carrot** · 03-06-2012 07:11 PM

Originally Posted by RemoteVicinity

Well, at least that's what I feel

I don't mean they seem to directly know that you're doing it, but if you're doing it, they won't be as attracted to you.

Haha. Look at my gender... <---
That's why I'm a less likely suspect. And I believe some girls my age from my country have no idea what is that too.

But anyway I like girls too.

**Spyguy** · 03-06-2012 07:00 PM

Originally Posted by Carrot

I still don't understand how this challenge made it easier for you to approach girls.

I'm not sure it did. Perhaps it has some relation to THEM wanting to approach ME more. Or perhaps it's just placebo. Don't know, nor does it really matter. What works works

And it just feels good to suppress such a habit. Kind of makes you (or at least me) feel alive. Also, what I forgot to mention, is that I enjoy sports more somehow.

**RemoteVicinity** · 03-06-2012 07:06 PM

Originally Posted by Spyguy

I'm not sure it did. Perhaps it has some relation to THEM wanting to approach ME more. Or perhaps it's just placebo. Don't know, nor does it really matter. What works works

And it just feels good to suppress such a habit. Kind of makes you (or at least me) feel alive. Also, what I forgot to mention, is that I enjoy sports more somehow.

Same here, I don't really care how it works

if it is just placebo, then so be it. It still rocks!!

I've started working out a lot too after this, I used to think that I didn't have time for it because of school.. which was of course entirely wrong. Now I haven't been able to do it in several days, so I'm really itching to go to the gym now!

**Spyguy** · 03-06-2012 07:11 PM

Originally Posted by RemoteVicinity

Same here, I don't really care how it works

if it is just placebo, then so be it. It still rocks!!

I've started working out a lot too after this, I used to think that I didn't have time for it because of school.. which was of course entirely wrong. Now I haven't been able to do it in several days, so I'm really itching to go to the gym now!

I don't go to the gym, but I do a few workouts myself. Pushups, situps and weightlifting. I don't do them every day though, especially not pushups. My wrists aren't very strong and I'm quite heavy (not that I'm fat, but I'm 1.92 m, so that explains it

), so pushups cause pain in the wrists. But I do feel like working out more often. I went for some jogging a few days ago, which I usually never do

**RemoteVicinity** · 03-06-2012 07:29 PM

Originally Posted by Spyguy

I don't go to the gym, but I do a few workouts myself. Pushups, situps and weightlifting. I don't do them every day though, especially not pushups. My wrists aren't very strong and I'm quite heavy (not that I'm fat, but I'm 1.92 m, so that explains it

), so pushups cause pain in the wrists. But I do feel like working out more often. I went for some jogging a few days ago, which I usually never do

That's good, keep doing that

And it's a good thing that you don't do strength training every day because the muscles need at least a day to rest (depends on the intensity of course, but it's a good general rule). One day of strength and one day of cardio right after each other is ok though, that's what I've been doing. I just love that feeling you get after finishing the workout and take a shower. And when I eat an apple right after training it tastes like heaven, lol. If you want to start more serious exercise, I recommend visiting a gym in your area. You might even get to know a couple of new people there (and there's often girls there as well..

). Try figuring out some goals for your training (become better at doing pushups?) and get help from an instructor at the gym to help you set up a training routine

At first you may feel a bit tired from exercising, but when you get used to it, you really get a lot of extra energy!

**SpaceCowboyDave** · 03-06-2012 07:48 PM

Originally Posted by Spyguy

I don't go to the gym, but I do a few workouts myself. Pushups, situps and weightlifting. I don't do them every day though, especially not pushups. My wrists aren't very strong and I'm quite heavy (not that I'm fat, but I'm 1.92 m, so that explains it

), so pushups cause pain in the wrists. But I do feel like working out more often. I went for some jogging a few days ago, which I usually never do

You probably have tried this or know of this already, but my wrists hurt when I do pushups too, so I use weights (or you can use pushup bars) and just grab onto those so you don't have to have your hands flat on the floor.

**Spyguy** · 03-06-2012 07:54 PM

Originally Posted by dave1701

You probably have tried this or know of this already, but my wrists hurt when I do pushups too, so I use weights (or you can use pushup bars) and just grab onto those so you don't have to have your hands flat on the floor.

Haven't heard of that one before. Will try it in the evening, I'll let you know how it went tomorrow

But don't the weights get in the way when going back down?

**melanieb** · 03-07-2012 03:58 AM

Originally Posted by dave1701

You probably have tried this or know of this already, but my wrists hurt when I do pushups too, so I use weights (or you can use pushup bars) and just grab onto those so you don't have to have your hands flat on the floor.

I read this as "push-up bras"

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