Thread: Rant and Rave, Cry and Complain

So my ex-friend broke up with her boyfriend today... I can't say I didn't call it. Apparently he got mad at her over something, and from the way things looked, apparently he was mad at her over relationship stuff that "he didn't know about". I posted "I'm sorry to hear about that; just learn from your mistakes and move on" on her facebook wall, but I didn't really expect to get this:

"Hah, at least I'm not a complete bitch like you. Simple as that. Now please I kindly asked you to never, ever speak to me again and that is still what I want."

She never told me that.

So, my (lengthy) response:

"So... You criticize someone I know for hugging others - his FRIENDS, and being a "creep" and a "fag", while you flirt and hit on other guys, heading off with a certain someone during bowling, therefore being a total hypocrite?

And when you say that I don't see my boyfriend enough, and insist that I'm in a "bad" relationship, whereas you couldn't stand being away from your boyfriend for a moment? You always had to check up on him?

Your insecurity is not better than my relationship. Your comments already make you below what I thought you were. You made me feel bad and even if I told you nicely to stop commenting on my boyfriend's weight, stature, personality, you'd continue to say you hated him with total lack of respect for my own feelings. You never stopped your sly comments that you'd give to me when you walked past me. I was a punching bag. That continued for two weeks; the first week I put up with it but the second week it started to really get to me, so I pulled you aside and said, "[name], please stop"... And you didn't. You said everything that I was doing with my sweetheart is wrong and I should break up with him.

Is it still a wonder to you why I never spoke to you since you got mad at me that day? Is it really a wonder why you shouldn't be more open to other peoples' ideals and opinions? Maybe being so controlling and certain that you're doing the right thing, calling someone out and being rude when they disagree, is not in your best interest? Think about that. Have a nice spring break. My phone is always on if you want to talk."

Wall of text, but yeah. My psychologist actually told me I have his permission to call her off on everything - rage at her - in front of people at my school because of this. That is, if she mentions anything or vents at me during school. He said it's good to let her know about how I feel in this sense, because she's been so nasty to me, and take her down a few notches. This is for mutual equality and not revenge, although he said it wouldn't hurt to think of it like that as well.

Also, her boyfriend (along with 4 other people in the past hour or so) liked my post. That's gotta mean something.

Originally Posted by Puffin

So my ex-friend broke up with her boyfriend today... I can't say I didn't call it. Apparently he got mad at her over something, and from the way things looked, apparently he was mad at her over relationship stuff that "he didn't know about". I posted "I'm sorry to hear about that; just learn from your mistakes and move on" on her facebook wall, but I didn't really expect to get this:

"Hah, at least I'm not a complete bitch like you. Simple as that. Now please I kindly asked you to never, ever speak to me again and that is still what I want."

She never told me that.

So, my (lengthy) response:

"So... You criticize someone I know for hugging others - his FRIENDS, and being a "creep" and a "fag", while you flirt and hit on other guys, heading off with a certain someone during bowling, therefore being a total hypocrite?

And when you say that I don't see my boyfriend enough, and insist that I'm in a "bad" relationship, whereas you couldn't stand being away from your boyfriend for a moment? You always had to check up on him?

Your insecurity is not better than my relationship. Your comments already make you below what I thought you were. You made me feel bad and even if I told you nicely to stop commenting on my boyfriend's weight, stature, personality, you'd continue to say you hated him with total lack of respect for my own feelings. You never stopped your sly comments that you'd give to me when you walked past me. I was a punching bag. That continued for two weeks; the first week I put up with it but the second week it started to really get to me, so I pulled you aside and said, "[name], please stop"... And you didn't. You said everything that I was doing with my sweetheart is wrong and I should break up with him.

Is it still a wonder to you why I never spoke to you since you got mad at me that day? Is it really a wonder why you shouldn't be more open to other peoples' ideals and opinions? Maybe being so controlling and certain that you're doing the right thing, calling someone out and being rude when they disagree, is not in your best interest? Think about that. Have a nice spring break. My phone is always on if you want to talk."

Wall of text, but yeah. My psychologist actually told me I have his permission to call her off on everything - rage at her - in front of people at my school because of this. That is, if she mentions anything or vents at me during school. He said it's good to let her know about how I feel in this sense, because she's been so nasty to me, and take her down a few notches. This is for mutual equality and not revenge, although he said it wouldn't hurt to think of it like that as well.

Also, her boyfriend (along with 4 other people in the past hour or so) liked my post. That's gotta mean something.

Sorry.... this might just be me, but I don't think it's a good idea to flip out on her. I might not be a doctor or anything, but damn. Telling her, in a nice way... is a good idea, but not raging. At this point, you're just putting salt in her wounds. I know she's been a bitch to you, but that doesn't give you a right to so the same. Explain politely, and tell her how she hurt you.

Originally Posted by OldSparta

Sorry.... this might just be me, but I don't think it's a good idea to flip out on her. I might not be a doctor or anything, but damn. Telling her, in a nice way... is a good idea, but not raging. At this point, you're just putting salt in her wounds. I know she's been a bitch to you, but that doesn't give you a right to so the same. Explain politely, and tell her how she hurt you.

I agree with you, but not wholeheartedly. There are cases where people just won't leave you alone - take a bully, for instance. They will continue to jab at you and tease you, even if you insist they stop. There is a point where you have to go further to ensure they won't bother you. I know a few people who have been bullied; one of them stomped on the bully's foot and yelled at them to "fuck off", while the other punched the bully in the nose. These were extreme measures, but they were the same concept: they were never harassed by that person again. I probably won't be doing anything at all unless she starts spreading rumors or jeering at me nonstop, but it's a very real possibility that I would get the motive to do something like calling her out.

Originally Posted by Puffin

I agree with you, but not wholeheartedly. There are cases where people just won't leave you alone - take a bully, for instance. They will continue to jab at you and tease you, even if you insist they stop. There is a point where you have to go further to ensure they won't bother you. I know a few people who have been bullied; one of them stomped on the bully's foot and yelled at them to "fuck off", while the other punched the bully in the nose. These were extreme measures, but they were the same concept: they were never harassed by that person again. I probably won't be doing anything at all unless she starts spreading rumors or jeering at me nonstop, but it's a very real possibility that I would get the motive to do something like calling her out.

Physical measures are different. She could be going through other issues at home that you don't know about, or her boyfriend could have have treating her bad. Just because they have been bad to you, especially if she's your friend, doesn't mean you can be mean to her. Again, that's just me. Act the way you want, I'm just throwing my two cents in.

Originally Posted by Zhaylin

Oh yeah, Ophelia... glad you can rave about your supplements!
I'm raving about my Green Tea with Hoodia. It's curbed my appetite a GREAT deal but I'm not at all anxious or jittery.
My son laughs though and tells me to stop taking Caffeine. He swears it puts me right to sleep.

It puts you to sleep, really?

I've always considered green tea, of any kind, drink or pill form, but never tried it.

Originally Posted by Peachie

My cat is always more than happy to jump into the shower with me. But now that he's dirty and actually needs a bath, he wants nothing to do with water.

-.-

I swore I read that as your "car". Then it didn't make sense and I have to read it again.

Originally Posted by Puffin

I agree with you, but not wholeheartedly. There are cases where people just won't leave you alone - take a bully, for instance. They will continue to jab at you and tease you, even if you insist they stop. There is a point where you have to go further to ensure they won't bother you. I know a few people who have been bullied; one of them stomped on the bully's foot and yelled at them to "fuck off", while the other punched the bully in the nose. These were extreme measures, but they were the same concept: they were never harassed by that person again. I probably won't be doing anything at all unless she starts spreading rumors or jeering at me nonstop, but it's a very real possibility that I would get the motive to do something like calling her out.

I get your point. We all have bullies in school. I met one when I was 7/8, he tried cornering me at the stairs and I aimlessly kicked in self defence. I kicked at the perfect spot and he didn't give me trouble ever since.

So... How did you get to meet that friend of yours? I categorised friends in different categories, as long as they are not my close friend and they're not treating me nice I don't see the point of being nice to them too. If they didn't consider that you might be hurt with their actions, why do you have to be the considering one. And to add on I've lots of suppressed emotions inside me so bleah. Suppressing any more and I'll just explode.

Originally Posted by OpheliaBlue

It puts you to sleep, really?

I've always considered green tea, of any kind, drink or pill form, but never tried it.

Caffeine are supposed to put you to sleep? Shouldn't it keep you awake instead? Aish... It's all in the mind.

The Green Tea and Hoodia gives me a bit of energy. The Caffeine on the other hand I'm so immune to that stuff I don't know why I even bother.
It's all a roll of the dice... sometimes it works, and then sometimes I go right to sleep lol, so I keep taking it hoping it will energize me.

Once I get back on my Minipress I'll start sleeping better. There for a while though, I was taking an allergy pill before going to sleep and I don't like to take too much stuff that will sedate me. I have a hard enough time waking up and staying awake the way it is!

Puffin. Sorry to hear she's being such a Grade-A bitch to you. While I agree that you shouldn't go out of your way to make her miserable, I think what you've done so far is perfect. If she's lashing out, speak your mind. You also left communication open, which I definitely applaud. After all she's put you through, I don't think I could have.

My rant is that I didn't sleep last night so I'm going to look like an old hag today. I swear, skipping one night of sleep makes me look 10 years older But, Runescape was having a Bonus XP weekend and I missed most of it, so I wanted to level a couple things while I more easily could.
I also ripped up a nice sized rectangle of carpet and I spray painted my floor green. I'm going to continue going slowly like that so I don't overwhelm myself. The carpet is also MUCH easier to handle in smaller bits lol. It started out a square, but after I rested I tackled some more.
But now, of course, everything is sticky because I don't know how to cover stuff up. My keyboard and mouse are sticky, my arms and the inside of my nose is sticky
I moved the birds beforehand and the dogs have been avoiding the room, so I don't have to worry about them at least.

I'm working around the furniture for now. It'll probably be a month, at least, before I can finish it, so I'm starting with the areas I traverse. I only have 1 can of green left, then 2 of black for my walls...
In about an hour, I need to start making phone calls... Destinee's party and my scripts, plus DHHR to see why the worker was such a witch to my youngest. The worker laughed at her when my daughter asked if she could go to her friends moms funeral. The worker also told her she will most likely NOT be coming home EVER- not for a visit, and definitely not to live. I thought I made it clear to them that they were not even to SUGGEST she go into Foster Care until 1) we see how my daughter does with her treatment 2) My daughter becomes more stable. Right now, the main thing keeping her going is the thought of coming home. And as far as the Court has ever been concerned- REUNIFICATION is the goal of all this BS.

Originally Posted by Peachie

it is kinda cute cause I share a towel with him ^___^

How's that toxoplasmosis goin?

good luck with everything puffin!

Puffin, I'm sure you'll sort things out. You sound pretty sensible and rational anyway, so you'll come out on top no matter what.

My rant is that I'm gonna have to meet the woman my dad has been having an affair with in the spring break. I just don't really want her to be a part of my life, since both her and my dad have torn apart two families with their relationship. I just don't feel like I need to know her. I'd rather just see my dad occasionally.

I know it sounds really immature, and I bet all people whose parents break up feel like this at first. I guess I just have to get over myself.

@Patrick,

By the way, I liked it because of the comment you made for Puffin.

I'm sorry you have to deal with meeting that woman. I don't know how it is to feel the pain and gap you're feeling right now, but I know you're mature enough to deal with it, even though you think that wanting only to see your dad is 'immature.'

The thing about parents is that when you want them to be together, it sucks when they decide to go beyond the scope of trying to stabilize for the sake of their children, and I'll probably never understand how you feel about this, but don't think about it being immature of only wanting to see your father.

It's hard, especially for me to understand, that parents do not necessarily have to feel obliged to try and sustain a tangible conscience in their minds.

It would make sense to not really care about the other lady, and you're a cool person overall Patrick, you have to deal with your own problems, and yet you still do your best to be a good person anyway (at least here on Dream Views). And that's not immature at all.



Sorry for intruding on your rant there, you probably didn't really need anyone to talk about it, but I just had to give what I think about what you're going through right now.

Patrick

I'm ranting because I had forgotten what it's like to sit in a waiting room full of strangers. My appointment was for 12:30. I was seen at around 1:30. I had to fill out a crap-ton of paper work even though it's stuff I had already filled out at the hospital... then I had to pretty much repeat what I had just filled out to the Nurse. I saw the doctor for less than 5 minutes. He looked at my stomach and told me I was good to go... that vitamin e could help the scars and the bump would go away on its own.
Before I left for the appointment, I weighed myself and found I gained back those 6 pounds But once I was weighed at the Dr's office, the scale said 148. But they weighed me in my shoes and clothes. I came home, re-weighed myself and my scale was only a pound off from theirs when I'm fully clothed. *whew*

I got the Doc's okay to resume all activities, so I'm going to start exercising in earnest.
I leave in just under 2 hours for my daughters dinner. I was unable to get ahold of the DHHR worker
Since when is "ahold" not a word... time to consult the almighty Google...

**EDIT**
HA! Take that http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/ahold oh faulty spell-checker

Thanks so much linkzelda for your comments, it means a lot to me

I think I'm coping fine with the divorce, but I've surprised myself at how much I just don't want to meet this woman. My mum has a new boyfriend and I can't wait to meet him, and he sounds like an awesome guy. I just would feel happier if I didn't have to meet my dad's girlfriend. And it's probably because he actually had an affair with her, rather than him just moving on (as is the case with my mum), but still. I didn't think I'd be so irrational about it.

Anyway rant over, and thanks for the hug Aly

I side with you Patrick. I mean, didn't you all JUST find out about all this? I wouldn't want to meet her either! It would have to be a long time later, if they looked like they were going to stay together. Otherwise, it was just some tawdry affair, and there's no reason why you should have to meet her at all until you are ready. Hard to trust people after something like that anyway.

My dad cheated on my mom with her best friend when I was 3. Lucky for me I was too young, and didn't know about until I was in my 20's. My mom wanted me to be older before giving me that news of course, but she also didn't want to bash my dad in front of me while I was still young and impressionable. My mom is a pretty cool lady. Anyway, I guess the point I was making there, is the relationship between my dad and that other lady didn't last, so I never had to be a part of her life in any way. Thank god. I have a step-mom now and she's ok.

You should be able to make the call on when to meet her. I hate the thought of your dad being like "Well, she's in my life now, so you guys all have to meet her." Yeah, if it looks like it's gonna stick. Or are you going to stick it in another woman down the road, dad? Yeah, I think I'll pass for now. I'll wait until you figure yourself out.

I just need to type this, not targeted to anyone in DV.

Spoiler for Unreadable Rant:

You suck. You faggot bastard banana (banana?) pineapple watermelon apple juice I don't know what I'm typing basket bunny boomerang arse-hole donkey piece of shit everyone telling me to ignore narcissistic people pecan nuts crazy ran out of innovative replacement words water bottle going to say everything I can see pillows watch mouse laptop no mouse pad I don't know why more pillows pillows pillows pillows suck big time I am a kid all alright I freaking get annoyed if someone hurls insults at me I do not care if it is virtual life or real life I am the same everywhere I do not take insults in my stride you big big ass-hole you holy cow holy unholy flower ring who are you to call me butch and act all lofty thinking you have a higher sex appeal than me arrogant egoistic puny being blah blah blah blah comes another guy who told him you are better than this and he decides not to reply any more lalala wonder so two men leave a kid here after thinking they have got the better of her wonderful and to claim you hold a friendly forum as a tagline mods shutting you up because they do not want flame war to go on so you going to leave the hurt behind by shutting people up no freedom of speech you stupid forum...

Come to think of it, it isn't worth getting mad over people I don't even know in real life. They don't even mean anything to me. Why was I mad for? It must be something they said like "butch", "bimbotic", "sober up", "[I'm] better than this", "ridiculous", "you are not making sense with your lengthy dribbling". I'll kill myself to be friends with people like them in real life.

Let's end this with a fuck.

The above rant in the spoiler is not meant to be readable.

Basket bunny boomerang arse-hole donkey piece of shit.

You remind me of someone who JUST learned curse words. Like that lady from the movie Paul. "That was the best titty-farting nap I ever had!"

Originally Posted by Carrot

I just need to type this, not targeted to anyone in DV.

Spoiler for Unreadable Rant:

You suck. You faggot bastard banana (banana?) pineapple watermelon apple juice I don't know what I'm typing basket bunny boomerang arse-hole donkey piece of shit everyone telling me to ignore narcissistic people pecan nuts crazy ran out of innovative replacement words water bottle going to say everything I can see pillows watch mouse laptop no mouse pad I don't know why more pillows pillows pillows pillows suck big time I am a kid all alright I freaking get annoyed if someone hurls insults at me I do not care if it is virtual life or real life I am the same everywhere I do not take insults in my stride you big big ass-hole you holy cow holy unholy flower ring who are you to call me butch and act all lofty thinking you have a higher sex appeal than me arrogant egoistic puny being blah blah blah blah comes another guy who told him you are better than this and he decides not to reply any more lalala wonder so two men leave a kid here after thinking they have got the better of her wonderful and to claim you hold a friendly forum as a tagline mods shutting you up because they do not want flame war to go on so you going to leave the hurt behind by shutting people up no freedom of speech you stupid forum...

Come to think of it, it isn't worth getting mad over people I don't even know in real life. They don't even mean anything to me. Why was I mad for? It must be something they said like "butch", "bimbotic", "sober up", "[I'm] better than this", "ridiculous", "you are not making sense with your lengthy dribbling". I'll kill myself to be friends with people like them in real life.

Let's end this with a fuck.

The above rant in the spoiler is not meant to be readable.

Rough day?

Originally Posted by OpheliaBlue

Basket bunny boomerang arse-hole donkey piece of shit.

You remind me of someone who JUST learned curse words. Like that lady from the movie Paul. "That was the best titty-farting nap I ever had!"

No one ever taught me how to curse properly so I guess that's the best I can get.

I was trying to cheer myself up though, that's why it got funny.

Originally Posted by Taffy

Rough day?

I guess so.

It was fine till my thread got locked up and people telling me to ignore, chill, have a break, etc. I just felt things were not sorted out and they want me to bury things. I don't like the idea of ignoring if I know it will lead me into an outburst in the future.

I'm sorry your thread got locked bummer.

PM me sometime if you ever want to hash something out. I won't tell

Hate it when my threads get locked. I feel you there.

Originally Posted by OpheliaBlue

I'm sorry your thread got locked bummer.

PM me sometime if you ever want to hash something out. I won't tell

Originally Posted by dave1701

Hate it when my threads get locked. I feel you there.

That forum has a liking for locking threads if they see people "fighting". Sucks to get shut up.

I was in a perfectly happy la la la mood, then I talked to one of my friends and now I feel as if life is trying to rape me...

T____T

@Ophie

Thanks for your comments, it's nice to hear that someone would feel the same way as I do.

Yes, this all only just came out in the open so it still seems very fresh. And although my dad's relationship with the woman seems serious, who knows. Like you said, I would rather wait until I can't avoid the fact that it's going to be a long term relationship, before I have to meet her. And again, like you say, it should be up to me when I meet her.

Only problem is, my youngest sister (14) has already (reluctantly) met her, so I feel like I should meet her as well just to support my little sister a bit.

@carrot

Yeah that's happened to me a few times where a thread has been locked mid-argument and it was kinda unnecessary.

Gotta respect the mods though!

Patrick, if you aren't feeling too comfortable about the meeting but you feel obliged to meet her, you can probably come up with an excuse saying you need to leave early. No point making yourself unhappy especially if you have already done what your father wants you too. I know of a friend who never got along well with her step-mom and eventually she decided to move out, which probably shows forcing two unwilling people to stay together doesn't mean you'll build a bond.

I wanted to comment on your post previously but my mind was too preoccupied with getting mad over strangers, it's a stupid thing to do but I'm made up hugely of my emotions.

I'm not in a loving family too but I'm really close with my mum. Mum and dad isn't close. And I feel that my dad is almost a stranger to me. I don't live with my parents any more and I'm living with my grandma (mum's mum) now so I haven't seen my dad for a really long and he refuses to come to any of our family gatherings. Mum probably isn't going to get married and I'll definitely choose her over my dad because anyone can tell I mean the world to her. I think my mum's becoming asexual after the failed relationship with my dad. I'm not sure if my dad has an affair or not but even though they stayed under the same roof, they barely talk and they are sleeping in separate rooms too. Dad's addicted to gambling and he barely has any savings. Money became their point of conflict.

And yeah, how did I go on to the rant about my family instead.