– So for the first job, I’ve been a little uneasy because they’re doing a test phase for a new position to be done overnights where I might get shoe-horned into. There apparently are options I can take to transition if I don’t want to do that, but, it’s the fact that the company is putting it under the rug, and not informing us to prepare for our livelihood in the event that bothers me. There are so many people in the community for the position that are having it way worse than what I’m going through as they already have familial ties to consider; I just have to worry about keeping two jobs, so I’m job hunting in the meantime while I milk out however long this other job will last. It’s when that new CEO that came and starting trimming the fat is when the restructuring, cutting of hours, reaching the bottom line, and catering to shareholders that shows the fake empathy they pull off is just unbearable.
So for the second job, they made someone else a manager with less experience than me. I’m not mad or jealous, but she herself admits the job isn’t worth it, and she’s only doing it because her first job she quit bullied her. It was a higher paying job, but with her back problems and all, and her struggle with keeping her children happy and being single at the time (before her husband finally came back, fortunately) was stressing her out, I guess. I find it funny they made her a manager, but she’s asking me for help on how to make co-workers productive. You’d think the trainers would be able to coach a little better to not make an associate end up doing that? Even the manager that I was paranoid before (but we’re awesome work buddies for the longest time now) was wondering why they chose this individual. But, in hindsight, I’m actually glad they picked her because I can see what I may need to work on if they still want me to move up. Apparently, the new General Manager of the restaurant is considering me to be one in the future as well, which explains his casual questions about my first job.
Speaking of which, said new General Manager rose an ant’s nest by trying to push his misogynistic tendencies by bullying the manager I work within the mornings on Sundays. It got to the point where she started to cry during the job (while the GM is off on Sundays). I couldn’t really let her feel defeated and gave her some of my experiences in assessing things like this. She appreciated the advice, and it actually helped her prepare when the boss of our bosses pulled them into a room and gave them a chance to spell out their issues. I told her the new GM is just trying to pan out how to increase the morale but is getting advice from the night time crew that is honestly despicable (and I work both morning and night shifts, so I know the contrast), and clearly has hostility towards her. He even reduced which shifts she’s a manager, but she still gets her usual hours. Just 1 day at first as manager, and now 2 days. Seems like a dick move, but I told her with his new power (since he was a regular shift manager), to just let him exhaust his emotions until he burns out. From the talk they had with their boss, the boss said they’ll both get fired if they can’t work it out, and that they wouldn’t be having that conversation if they didn’t care about them. Anyway, they’re trying, and they both stated they are committed to trying to be better. The new GM though had to give one last rebuttal, though, which shows a lot of his character to get the last word.
You’d think, that’s none of my business, but when the manager that feels bullied can’t take it anymore, they can become passive-aggressive to their co-workers. So, I felt inclined to offer advice since I had a much worst situation than that with my own peers from my old job. She ended up hugging me before they had the talk, and she appreciated it, which was kind of a shocker as I felt it was just basic advice. I guess she just needed someone to talk to as she felt cornered most likely. I told her the new GM will be a fox in a corner if he keeps things up. And, his misogynistic disposition isn’t exclusive to her, he’s doing it to the other co-worker that got promoted with less experience. He wants to be the top dog in the house, but I know outside of this, he means well for the company. He just needs to get used to the bigger-picture scale with all of that money and power, and just tone down the prejudice just a notch, or two. I also assured my manager that when new stores open when the company branches out, they’re going to obviously consider her to be a GM someday. I told her she knows this place like the back of her hand, and if, metaphorically speaking, the place was falling apart, she knew what resources and who to call that she had to exhaust.
She admitted she had more favoritism towards me, and I just kind of lightly chuckled it off. I’ll still do my due diligence for the 2nd job as usual, and I won’t be begging for the position. If it comes, it comes. If they can match the pay for the first job, and the first job seems shaky, I’ll take the offer. The worst case scenario is I just step down. She’s already talking to me as if I’m her boss at times when we discuss this strife she has with the new GM. I guess you can’t really keep things low-key when it comes to managerial stuff and trying to assure others at work for too long.
What bothers me though is my attempts to care about this stuff while trying to sort out the situation with the first job, and juggling both jobs altogether. It’s not the actual day-to-day practices of both that bothers me, it’s just the job security of one over the other. Things are a blank canvas, and I need it to be like that to frame myself to jump ship if one job is just not catering to my livelihood. To privately experience all of this without an outlet, but letting yourself be someone’s sponge…I need to be careful of how I portion myself out. Otherwise, I start questioning what value is there to take more damage while I’m trying to pull myself together.
