Thread: Rant and Rave, Cry and Complain

Originally Posted by Tradl3s

Yeah that kinda thing happened to me too. xD my cat wouldn't leave me alone. i let it in my room to sleep with me, but instead it was walking around,
pushing things off shelves, etc. then i put him out of my room, and he wouldn't stop scratching at the door. sleep was never possible on that day. -_-

(we might offend gab by talking about cats in this way.)

The same thing used to happen to me all the time and still does occasionally. I love my cat, but he used to scratch at my door multiple times per night. On an average night, only about half of this would happen, but at the worst it was all of the following:

- Almost asleep, cat scratches at door.
- I don't want to get up so I wait for him to stop, but he doesn't stop.
- Finally I open the door, he leads me downstairs.
- I open the back door, he sits right inside and stares outside for a while.
- I'm cold and tired and impatient, I finally close the door.
- He meows at his food bowl, I give him food and go back upstairs.
- Almost asleep again, cat scratches at door.
- I wait again for him to go away, determined to teach him he can't control me like this.
- Finally I can't stand it anymore so I follow him downstairs again and let him outside.
- But he doesn't want to go outside, he just stares outside with the door open.
- I go back to my room and I'm trying to sleep again.
- Cat scratches at my door AGAIN.
- I let him in, and try to sleep.
- He climbs onto furniture and starts playing with invisible prey or pushing items down to the floor (don't know why he does this, but it's good to know it's not just my cat).
- I pick him up and bring him out of my room because I can't sleep like this, determined not to let him in anymore.
- I fall asleep, he scratches at the door again.
- I wait again, really pissed off now.
- Finally I let him in again. This time he just goes in my room and sleeps.
[A few hours later]
- I wake up and see him sitting right next to my head staring down at me, purring creepily, lightly pawing my face (how considerate of him not to use claws).
- When he realizes I'm awake, he meows and runs to the door, I let him out again and go back in bed.
- He scratches at the door a few minutes later.
- I open it and he meows at me go to downstairs.
- I go downstairs and let him outside, go back to bed.

I finally got it to stop by spending a few nights not attending to him at all.

Originally Posted by Wishfulthinker

Had more nightmares whilst I'm away. Now they alternate and always change. I can't turn them lucid. I'm going insane. I can't cope.

Do you use any sleep supplements like melatonin? It has antidepressant properties in addition to putting you in a deeper sleep which usually helps, and if you take a high enough dose you can probably just sleep like a log and not really dream at all.

What exactly are you supposed to do when most of the sexually attractive and emotionally attractive qualities you look for in a person are like polar opposites? I feel like there's some kind of major design flaw here....

Originally Posted by Alyzarin

Do you use any sleep supplements like melatonin? It has antidepressant properties in addition to putting you in a deeper sleep which usually helps, and if you take a high enough dose you can probably just sleep like a log and not really dream at all.

No I on't but I suspect I shall be searching for some of this next month.


I have 50 quid to my name in the world. I don't get more money until next month. I may drop to 0 this month.

Originally Posted by Alyzarin

What exactly are you supposed to do when most of the sexually attractive and emotionally attractive qualities you look for in a person are like polar opposites? I feel like there's some kind of major design flaw here....

It's pretty simple, something called limerence. When we find someone that's enticing when we only scratched the surface on their character, it's easy to idealize the image we have of them, and it's just a rush of emotions and feeling lovesick for that person where we want to get to know them better. Maybe, it could be a subconscious way of reaching out to people because you as a person want diversity, people with different views, belief systems and personalities, because in the long term, the experiences with those people will help teach you who you are as a whole and how you interact with the situations and individuals presented to you; it fuels your progressive way of improving in life.

It's only when a person gets to know someone else better, finding what makes them tick and humanized, that's when the infatuation starts diluting, and the image we have of them becomes more realistic (and unfortunately, we get bored of it, seeking new people; generally speaking). However, if a person is similar and you don't take for granted of that, it can make them even better than the image you made of them before, but most of the time it ends up with people realizing that person isn't really compatible with what they think and act.

The less often you meet a person, the less chances you get to know them obviously, which means the more the mind starts filling in gaps with fantasy to increase the idealism behind that person, ergo, higher attraction to that person that's intense (which also means that when you see less of your friends after going around finding other people, the need to get the deep level of closure that only can come from someone who knows you well, and you know well enough as well starts kicking it).

It's simply a matter of how scarce a person makes themselves to be towards others, and you as a person speculating on the wonders and intricacies of them. I guess this is why the most intense types of loves are things that are taboo, since people engaged in that focus on the most idealistic possibilities before getting to know each other very well. The taboo may actually be a precursor to a longer-lasting relationship, but that's when managing and compromise and all sorts of things that relationships comes in play after the rush of idealism and lovesickness, and that's a whole other story.

Last night, as the night progressed I found myself fixating on a particular personal issue. The worry escalated until it became horrible. I didn't even feel like I could sleep even though I was tired. I just sat on the floor for like an hour because I felt like I had to resolve the issue before I went to bed. In the morning, I woke up and realized it didn't matter at all. I could hardly remember what I'd been worrying about.

Tonight, a similar thing seems to be happening but with a different issue. This 'Google glass' thing - I'm worrying over the possibility of a Google or government take-over. (my rant is in ED: Google Glass but it's pretty long). I keep worrying about it more and more. It's hard not to think about anything else. But I'm extremely tired. And I have a feeling that I'll wake up tomorrow and not care about it at all, and I'll want to delete that post I made because I just sound like some crazy conspiracy theorist.

I don't know if the worries have been a coincidence. It could be PMS... it's about time for that to happen but I've been feeling pretty great during the day, so maybe the emotional turmoil is being concentrated at night on particular issues for some reason. It could also be from taking melatonin. Which brings me to another issue... I've been taking melatonin for a long time now before sleeping. They're 5 mg pills and I take one or two. Every night for about two months. Except, about three days before we moved, my mom packed up the melatonin, unaware that I took it regularly, so I didn't take it for a few days. I just started taking it again yesterday. I felt very, very weird when we moved into this new house, even a bit high, like I was in a dream or something. It's big and spacious, and in a different city. I felt like I'd traveled through time somehow. But I couldn't really explain how strange I felt. I assumed it was the moving change, but perhaps it was really the fact that I'd stopped taking melatonin. I don't know. I need to sleep now, as I"ve already taken melatonin like 45 minutes ago.

I've also noticed I've stopped trying to type everything perfectly, over the last couple weeks, gradually I've started to care less and less about how I type. I don't know whether it's good or bad. I've been getting the feeling I sound like an idiot. Like it's necessary that I think a long time and take like 5x as long as most people would to write a post, since if I just write it with whatever the first words that come to mind are, it will sound stupid and perhaps not even understandable. But it gets frustrating. I don't like taking so long to organize things in my head. I'm pretty much just a really slow perfectionist, and I hate it.

How the fuck did this become so long? I hate creating tl;dr posts and never mean to, then I write so much that almost no one reads it. I just need to sleep now or I'm going to keep feeling more crazy and keep typing.

If someone ask you to stop being mean do you argue that you aren't being mean? That doesn't make sense, clearly you are hurting my feelings. Whether you meant to or not. And you can't even apologize.

I'm really just hating most of my life right now.

I'm usually a neutral party when it comes to posting on facebook. I never help in political or religious arguments and I never post anything if it seems like it might offend someone. It's not something I do in person either. I...may have made a mistake. But I couldn't help myself, and I don't want to take it back. I chose the worst possible subject to comment on, and I chose the exact opposite side of the person who posted first. >.< I DON'T WANT TO GET FLAMED. At the same time I think it's important to leave my counterpoint there. Damn. Why am I so stupid?

Originally Posted by Dianeva

How the fuck did this become so long? I hate creating tl;dr posts and never mean to, then I write so much that almost no one reads it. I just need to sleep now or I'm going to keep feeling more crazy and keep typing.

I enjoy reading your big posts, and I'm sure I'm not the only one

I'm really just hating most of my life right now.

Sometimes striking back works better, the person actually sees that she can't act like you don't have feelings

Why am I so stupid?

You're not, I also have to work pretty hard to not respond to religious comments on youtube, and sometimes I still fail

I have had an insanely huge crush on a girl since the 7th grade and she barely knows that I exist. Life is getting harder and more scary every day...

Feeling sad. :-(

Shit day at work today won't go into it at all as it's pretty boring, but I think it had something to do with me drinking coffee today as well...

So I can't write with my broken finger as it's one of my writing fingers.

My exams start on Monday.... see the problem? I'm stressing. like. mad.

Originally Posted by Wishfulthinker

So I can't write with my broken finger as it's one of my writing fingers.

My exams start on Monday.... see the problem? I'm stressing. like. mad.

While just practicing, why would you need to write? Just type.
If you actually can't write during the exam then that's the type of legitimate problem you really could get a medical note for. The school would have to get you to write it some other time or compensate some other way.

Just.... FML, that's it. I have lost all hope.

Originally Posted by tommo

Just.... FML, that's it. I have lost all hope.

What happened?

That probably sounded worse than it is....

It's just everything combined, weighing on me. I basically have no hope of ever having a good life.

I can't write at all at the moment so I am typing in all my lessons but I have no idea how to do exams. Anything I /can/ write is extremely illegible because I have bad handwriting anyway. Little worried. :s

tommo, I'm almost certain you can find a way to have a good life. If you're someone likie me who messes everything up all the time I can assure you that for (at least) short periods of time things do go right. Things will getter better because everything is alright in the end, and if it's not all okay, then its not yet the end and you just have to hang on for a little bit more.

Originally Posted by tommo

That probably sounded worse than it is....

It's just everything combined, weighing on me. I basically have no hope of ever having a good life.

I feel like this, and I'm only 17. I see all of my peers planning their lives. Some plan on going to a good college and getting a career. Others plan on getting a minimum wage job and getting an apartment. Enjoying their freedom. And I'm like a lost dog. I guess this is the same rant I have put on here a hundred times. Sorry if you have actually read it.

I see myself distancing myself from everyone right now. Including my family and my best friend. I don't really know why. It's kind of a subconscious thing.

Every day I go to the park alone and depress myself further. I really hope that I have hit rock bottom. Because I don't want to get any lower.

I notice that, whenever someone says something negative on here about his or her life (or anywhere really) everyone assumes that they're wrong and tries to correct them. Whenever someone says something positive, on the other hand, it will receive a like and an agreement reply if anything.

If this is right, then it implies that either people think it's okay to try to make people feel better through lies, or they really think that everything is that fantastic. We can correct people if they're mistaken about something. Like if there's a 25 year old who thinks it's too late to return to school - that's bs. But telling someone that everything's going to be okay... that's just bs. We have no idea whether their life is going to be okay.

I guess I've just noticed there's this social positiveness. It's taboo to be negative, and if someone is negative, the person they're talking to immediately tries to convince them that everything will be okay. It bothers me because it's fake. If the person believes it, then it's a false comfort. There's no karma, the world doesn't magically make your life super easy
once you've experienced something terrible. The real world is not like a story; its ending doesn't necessarily have to be good, or even significant in any way.

[kind of talking to myself in this paragraph]
And no one accuse me of being uselessly pessimistic. I'm simply being realistic instead of fake. It's good to be happy and everyone should strive for that state. But don't delude yourself into thinking that complete satisfaction with your life is ever going to be achieved. This isn't some fantasy story. You don't go through difficult stuff in your life for some purpose, so that you can come out a wiser, stronger person. In fact most of the time that shit barely changes you at all. Or not in any positive way, at least.

Sometimes I really can't stand myself.
=/

Originally Posted by Dianeva

I notice that, whenever someone says something negative on here about his or her life (or anywhere really) everyone assumes that they're wrong and tries to correct them. Whenever someone says something positive, on the other hand, it will receive a like and an agreement reply if anything.

If this is right, then it implies that either people think it's okay to try to make people feel better through lies, or they really think that everything is that fantastic. We can correct people if they're mistaken about something. Like if there's a 25 year old who thinks it's too late to return to school - that's bs. But telling someone that everything's going to be okay... that's just bs. We have no idea whether their life is going to be okay.

I guess I've just noticed there's this social positiveness. It's taboo to be negative, and if someone is negative, the person they're talking to immediately tries to convince them that everything will be okay. It bothers me because it's fake. If the person believes it, then it's a false comfort. There's no karma, the world doesn't magically make your life super easy
once you've experienced something terrible. The real world is not like a story; its ending doesn't necessarily have to be good, or even significant in any way.

[kind of talking to myself in this paragraph]
And no one accuse me of being uselessly pessimistic. I'm simply being realistic instead of fake. It's good to be happy and everyone should strive for that state. But don't delude yourself into thinking that complete satisfaction with your life is ever going to be achieved. This isn't some fantasy story. You don't go through difficult stuff in your life for some purpose, so that you can come out a wiser, stronger person. In fact most of the time that shit barely changes you at all. Or not in any positive way, at least.

Here's a realistic (and honest) reply.

If anything, life is a series of events that will influence your outlook. Some people get luckier than others.

Satisfaction is a very personal thing. It can only come from within.

The choices a person makes can affect luck and satisfaction.

Personally, I like my pain. It keeps me from giving up.

I feel like I'm stuck in this game between wanting people to like me and not really liking people. It's often if I get to like someone, eventually they'll annoy me and fall into a barely tolerable range. Meanwhile I often deal with the fear that other people don't really like me, or talk shit behind my back, and what not. I suppose I could escape this game by loving myself unconditionally, however the fuck you do that.

Originally Posted by Dianeva

I notice that, whenever someone says something negative on here about his or her life (or anywhere really) everyone assumes that they're wrong and tries to correct them. Whenever someone says something positive, on the other hand, it will receive a like and an agreement reply if anything.

If this is right, then it implies that either people think it's okay to try to make people feel better through lies, or they really think that everything is that fantastic. We can correct people if they're mistaken about something. Like if there's a 25 year old who thinks it's too late to return to school - that's bs. But telling someone that everything's going to be okay... that's just bs. We have no idea whether their life is going to be okay.

This is because you keep sustaining this paranoia that people are out to lie and not try to wish the best in a person. The same logic applies to someone saying "Good Luck," or "Wish you the best!"

I think this thread is just an example that some people just want to be heard, but they don't necessarily have to follow anyone's advice. People need an outlet, and this is one example of that, and sometimes how people respond might not really help, but only damage a person's perception of a conflict they're going through, but people do tend to be more empathetic here at least compared to other forums.

(I know that a site related to a certain fetish that has a Rant thread would completely demolish what you were saying, just from personal experience)

I guess I've just noticed there's this social positiveness. It's taboo to be negative, and if someone is negative, the person they're talking to immediately tries to convince them that everything will be okay. It bothers me because it's fake. If the person believes it, then it's a false comfort. There's no karma, the world doesn't magically make your life super easy
once you've experienced something terrible. The real world is not like a story; its ending doesn't necessarily have to be good, or even significant in any way.

Actually, you're using the concept of karma wrong here (but I do know you're saying there's no karma. It's presumed (the concept), that how you make certain decisions in your life (whether good or bad) will affect a person's reincarnation of the next life. So that means it'll either be one or two grades higher, several grades higher, or several grades lower.

But it seems the whole "what goes around, comes around" is a misconception people use a lot as if it's used to measure justice and pick out the bad and the good. Empathy can only go so far, and some people just can't find the right words, so the pretentious declarations is just trying to console subconsciously, even if it may not be practical. It's what happens when you just want to help someone, to be there for them, people tend to try to be the Hero.

It would be a pretty degrading thread if people wouldn't give two shits about what a person ranted about. And we already know people in the past that are practically begging for consolation, no matter how pretentious it is. You on the other hand, are someone that easily sees this flaw and tries to be realistic (which is good), but again, it's just emotions conflicting with logic, it's just complicated.

You remind me a lot like people on Facebook that want real friends. They never realize that friends are going to naturally want to be there to support you and only true friends can be realistic and give you the truth (but people don't really like them, thinking they're two-faced, ironically)

[kind of talking to myself in this paragraph]
And no one accuse me of being uselessly pessimistic. I'm simply being realistic instead of fake. It's good to be happy and everyone should strive for that state. But don't delude yourself into thinking that complete satisfaction with your life is ever going to be achieved. This isn't some fantasy story. You don't go through difficult stuff in your life for some purpose, so that you can come out a wiser, stronger person. In fact most of the time that shit barely changes you at all. Or not in any positive way, at least.

There's a difference between a person denying themselves of accepting reality and pretentiously exhibiting happiness, and someone that understands reality, that shitty things happen to people, and it's a matter of who sustains themselves by battling through those shitty messes.

When people are trying to help, of course they don't know that person's lives, and even if people give a decent amount about themselves, it's not all that they stand by, but that doesn't mean that there shouldn't be an intention that people are trying to wish others the best. Some people use this thread to vent and ignore any responses to it, and some people use it to just get some input from others.


I understand that you're tend to be irritated to those who are being "fake," and what have you, but ironically, being realistic tends to give off a negative vibe, so the only option in a forum like this (that tries to have a balance) is for people to positive intentions for that person. For a person to actually take someone's advice and let it be the sole factor in changing their lives that it'll be all just fine and dandy, you're right, it is truly bullshit.

Ultimately, it's the person that's going through the problems to hopefully settle down a bit, think through their problems, and try to find other options.

It's a flawed system that forums try to sustain with not trying to be too cruel to someone (even though realistically it would help). If being realistic (even if it meant being slightly cruel) was allowed, I'm pretty sure this thread would be locked in a heartbeat (or the user being banned and/or given an infraction).

Anyone that tries to console someone should know that everyone is going to have pain, they're going to have to understand it to make themselves stronger, but to make the concept of trying and encouraging a defeatist mentality towards anyone that apparently gives "lies" and "false comfort," that's one thing, but it doesn't mean people automatically disregard that pain and bullshit are going to happen in their lives.

A person without scars has a shallow life, you're completely right, but people are at least trying.
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Also, I'm starting to notice that you accept people who apparently are genuinely happy (in your starring role in your stage of reality) to be more credible to console others. I think it's because most people you see on DV are more realistic and tend to be apathetic at times, so you probably think they don't have authority to console others. Again, this is a presumption, and forgive me if I'm wrong, but whoever you think can genuinely show happiness (especially in your responses to who can show a genuine smile in that pictures thread) obviously aren't telling the bad parts of their lives. (Or you're already good friends with them, so you disregard them from this). I think that and other aspects I rather not go through about you is the kind of a double standard in itself.

Which brings me back to my comment about Alyzarin's post with Limerence, but eh, you already know that.

*shrugs*

bracelet-baroque-7-chakras.jpg Patiently waits for this in the mail....i really need this 7 Chakras bracelet!

1. Root Chakra - Red -
Grounding, Body - Red Jasper

2. Sacral Chakra -Orange-
Relationships, Sexual, Emotional - Carnelian

3. Solar Plexus Chakra -Yellow-
Power, Confidence - Yellow Aventurine

4. Heart Chakra -Green-
Unconditional Love, Self-Worth - Green Aventurine
(can also use Rose Quartz)

5. Throat Chakra -Blue-
Communication, Creativity - Blue Agate

6. Third Eye Chakra -Purple-
Intuition, Awareness - Amethyst

7. Crown Chakra -White-
Consciousness, Connection to the Universe and Afterlife - Amethyst (Can also use Crystal Quartz)