Canis: See, the problem is that I don't think this is a purely subconscious simulator. I think it is more of my subc saying "Hey! Don't want to think about this stuff while you're awake? Let me dump it all on you while you're asleep!" Whenever I feel these things IWL I just shove them down and try not to think about it. And that's the thing. I know I am a brutal person, I know I lack a lot of sympathy/empathy for people, I know I can kill and totally wreck someone, I know part of me wants to sometimes. Knowing all of that and knowing that it is unacceptable and awful bothers me. I know that's not the right word for it, but I don't know how else to say it.
I'm a really physical person. Basically if it feels good it is good. That's caused me trouble before, but it's still pretty much true. Then I'm a thinking person, whatever is logically correct is correct. The smallest piece is the emotions. I usually just try to disregard those. That pretty much just leaves me being a person driven by animalistic desires tempered by rationality. That's not the way that people are supposed to behave. I guess that's the root of all of this cognitive dissonance. When I'm sorry for something, I'm hardly ever sorry for doing the action, I'm sorry that I got whatever consequences I did. And there's another thing. There are a few times in my life where I'm still thinking "Wow. I really wish I could have repeatedly bashed that person's head into a wall." Not to kill them, mind. Just to beat them up. And whenever I wanted to do something like that it goes like this:
Start: Is this problem worth getting upset over? Y/N
Y > Is this problem pretty much entirely this person's fault?
Y > Will I regret beating this person up?
N > Will I get in more trouble than beating up this person is worth?
N > Beat up person.
Most everything stops at number one, because some things are just life. Most everything else stops at number two, because I've usually had a hand in the way things turned out. Number three kind of gets skipped because if I would regret it then I wouldn't be considering all this (number three is personal psychological pain resulting from my actions). So far everything has stopped at number four because I don't want to get in trouble.
Now that's great and all, but then I've got all this rage and pent up desires and even if I don't occasionally I just need to beat something up. I don't know why. I wish I did. Everything is going great and I just want to hurt something.
I think my dreams are acting out in the way I
wish I did everything. I don't feel remorse in my dreams except on the very rare occasion that I hurt someone defenseless or if I hurt someone in an unsporting way (like shooting them in the back. That's not fair at all.) I guess then the question is if I just like the fighting part or if I actually like the hurting part. (I know I'm a bit sadistic, but I think I have more fun fighting, at least in my dreams.) Violence being the norm in my dreams, the fact that I
didn't use violence in my dream from yesterday is stunning and really sticks out. I was upset and frustrated about the whole thing, then I want to just get away from it all and this old lady with papery hands follows me to the bathroom and can't walk another two feet to get to the next stall
and I let her have the one I was already halfway in. I didn't beat her up, even though I was super annoyed. I didn't tell her to go screw herself or any of the other stuff I was thinking, I didn't do anything but let her have it.
The question there is
why? Was it because the setting was church? Was it because I thought it was real? Was it because of all of the repression I feel the need to have at church? What exactly caused me to behave like I normally do and not the way I wanted to?
I don't want anyone to get the wrong impression here though. Yeah I'm a bit sadistic and sometimes I just want to let this whole "animal nature" thing take over and run its course, but I probably won't ever hurt anyone, and I'd never hurt someone innocent (or mostly innocent, cause who the hell is totally innocent?). I'm just very protective of myself and the people I care about, and I'd do anything for them. However knowing all of this does not change my desires. It just puts limits on them (so I'm not going to be one of those awful people that goes shooting tons of innocents, but I would be one of those people who wants to/does (if the situation calls for it) kill one of those shooter people.
Right. Finally done. I feel like I keep repeating the same stuff, but I'm just trying to clarify. If anyone actually reads all this, cookie for you

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