Rant and Rave, Cry and Complain

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Originally Posted by Linkzelda41

You make thorough analysis of your complaints, which way more comprehensible than my rants Preserver :)

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I've learned from the best (my family). We are masters of the craft of arguing and complaining.

WHICH BRINGS ME TO MY NEXT POINT!

What ever happened to feeling "negative" emotions? I really like This site written by a psychologist (I believe working on her doctorate?) and discusses why we need negative emotions.

Everyone always says "Cheer up!" or "Stop being so gloomy." The website writer makes a great point; even though it may be well-intentioned, that's like saying "You're not supposed to feel that way," making their emotions "wrong." And then to me it comes down to a "Tao" of emotions; You cannot describe day without night, you cannot have dark without light, then why can you have happy without sad? All we do is try and hide our sadness, get away from it as fast as possible (and use drugs [although for some people the problem is VERY severe, but drugs are more and more common form of treating sadness and negative emotions, be they prescription or illegal.]) Why must we mask this?!

(I feel like this thread is serving a great purpose; getting us to express negative emotions safely.) Next time someone is feeling down, don't tell them to "Cheer up," ask them "Why do you feel that way?" (I noticed this when people tell me to "cheer up". It just pisses me off even more, because they don't care about my feelings... they are ignoring them.) /touchy-feely-rant

I fucking love you right now.

And your name is the epitome of the EPICness you're showing right now.

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Originally Posted by Linkzelda41

I fucking love you right now.

And your name is the epitome of the EPICness you're showing right now.

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I don't understand... my name? What? D:

You've kept your complaints safe from others, but now you've admitted them here, and they're rational complaints :P

"Preserver" someone who keeps safe from harm or danger

I saw the first clip a long time ago and it enraged me. Even more so, Mrs. Ozborn's (sp- the red head) false apology afterward was disgusting. I've never watched that show and after watching the clip, I never will.

Glad you're still alive Darkmatters :) Get feeling better and finish writing *cracks whip*

I am actually feeling pretty okay today. I went to sleep at 8:30 and woke at noon from the heat and the sound of snow and ice melting outside. I almost have full motion back in my neck.
I cut my itchy finger, so I have a great deal of relief there too.
Rocky is finally back outside (I fixed his chain), though Snuffanuff never came home :(

My little dog is driving me batty however. She has been so stinking restless. And for the last couple of days, she's been obsessed with the bathroom. The thinks something is under the tub and sinks. I open everything up and she sniffs around but she wont leave it alone.

Excellent post, Preserver. I've always told my kids "You feel what you feel. There is no right or wrong. Acknowledge your feelings but don't let them define you or your actions." In other words, just because they're having a crappy day doesn't mean they have to lash out at the world etc. I also tell them they don't have to focus on the negative. Learn from it, process it, then move on.

The video is terrible but doesn't warrant the conclusion made by the poster, as though all or even most women would respond in that way.

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And women expect men to care about RAPE and acid attacks and domestic violence and breast cancer and wage gaps and equality?

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Originally Posted by Zhaylin

I saw the first clip a long time ago and it enraged me. Even more so, Mrs. Ozborn's (sp- the red head) false apology afterward was disgusting. I've never watched that show and after watching the clip, I never will.

Glad you're still alive Darkmatters :) Get feeling better and finish writing *cracks whip*

I am actually feeling pretty okay today. I went to sleep at 8:30 and woke at noon from the heat and the sound of snow and ice melting outside. I almost have full motion back in my neck.
I cut my itchy finger, so I have a great deal of relief there too.
Rocky is finally back outside (I fixed his chain), though Snuffanuff never came home :(

My little dog is driving me batty however. She has been so stinking restless. And for the last couple of days, she's been obsessed with the bathroom. The thinks something is under the tub and sinks. I open everything up and she sniffs around but she wont leave it alone.

Excellent post, Preserver. I've always told my kids "You feel what you feel. There is no right or wrong. Acknowledge your feelings but don't let them define you or your actions." In other words, just because they're having a crappy day doesn't mean they have to lash out at the world etc. I also tell them they don't have to focus on the negative. Learn from it, process it, then move on.

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You made it even more awesome. :)

I love you too :D

if you know someone is intentional, don't call em out on it, stupid. let it happen, as that line only exists to be crossed

Finally finished drawing me and my parents. I couldn't get all the details, and it barely looks like me and my family, but oh well. I got it it over with. Now I can concentrate on exams and hopefully do well on the two I have to do on Tuesday.

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Originally Posted by Zhaylin

*cracks whip*

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Originally Posted by Dianeva

The video is terrible but doesn't warrant the conclusion made by the poster, as though all or even most women would respond in that way.

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Which is shown by the one rational, not fucking retarded girl on there (the one from Big Bang Theory).

So ummmm........ I was considering making a help thread about this, but I think I'll just say it here.

Last night I was just about to get off the computer and go to bed, and my mum says "I need to tell you something...."
My mind instantly fired up with possible things she could say, whether I'd done something or something bad was happening to someone.
Then she said "Dad and I are splitting up."


I literally just froze pretty much for a few seconds, then finally said "Really?" coz the only thing I could think of is that it was some
stupid joke or trick or something. And she said "Yeah...." I couldn't believe it, I did 2 or 3 RC's, unfortunately I wasn't dreaming.
I still checked a few more times through the conversation.

She said that they are basically not in love at all anymore and heaps of other stuff, she talked for almost 2 hours.

I really just didn't think this would happen. I think I've posted on here before that they basically aren't married anymore, don't
wanna get in to the reasons why, but I just didn't think they would actually break up. I thought that the way they were was just due
to how they are as people, not because of not loving each other. I think I came to that conclusion coz they still seemed happy
most of the time when they talk or whatever, plus they were together for about 25 years.
But apparently they couldn't talk about anything emotional or whatever, mostly because of my dad, who's shy and all that.

It's really fucking weird right now.... I feel really sorry for my dad, coz he said that it's the worst thing he can think of, and
he really doesn't want to be alone. He hates being alone.

I think I will stay in this house for that reason.

I couldn't sleep last night, was awake until 5:30 or something.... Not feeling the best lol

Yeah I don't think there's much advice people could give you. That sucks though. I don't really have any memories of my parents before they split, I just remember sitting out on the deck sometimes cause I didn't like to hear the yelling. When they split it was more of a relief than anything. They were so wrong for each other, my sister and I cannot fathom what put them together in the first place. Seeing what their lives amounted to, I promised myself not to get involved with girls that I wasn't positive I'd be compatible with. Of course I never followed through because I'd always be blind to the warning signs. I'm learning though. And I also promised myself that I would never give up, either. I just wish it wasn't so painful.

Sounds like a shame if they're solely splitting up because they can't talk. Maybe you can facilitate something, or encourage them to talk more.

If it really is the best for them though, I suppose you should just let things be and try to do the best you can. Staying with your dad sounds like a smart move. If there are no serious problems between them then you should probably try to work on maintaining an amicable relationship between them, for your sakes if anything.

I hope you're okay. It's not the end of the world, so try to stay optimistic about your life and the future.

Thanks Xei, I will try to keep your words in mind. As for getting them to talk more, I thought about it, I'm not sure if it's just way too late though. But I guess there's no harm trying.
You're oddly good at words of advice.

I've grown a sudden interest in taking the "Psychology of Woman" course at my university. Problem is, I probably have to request a force list to get it. I have all the per-requisites (just have PSYCH 107) and I'm a shoe-in. I'm really interested in learning what Psychology can explain for women, since it really helps me rationalize human beings in general to the point where I just have multiple thoughts that can all relate to many things.

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Originally Posted by tommo

As for getting them to talk more, I thought about it, I'm not sure if it's just way too late though. But I guess there's no harm trying.
You're oddly good at words of advice.

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Xei is a genius in every area of life of course. :)

It sounds like it's worth a try. Just don't start depending on it working. Even if they don't talk much, chances are that there's more to the situation than they're telling you. They obviously had to talk about it a bit in order to make the decision. They might have some core problems to their relationship that go beyond mere shyness and a difficulty in speaking to one another, that can't just be fixed easily.

25 years, wasted. i don't mean to be cruel here, but what the hell do they expect to find on their own that they couldn't find in 25 years together? happiness in solitude, is that what's going on here..

this is really bizarre

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Originally Posted by greenhavoc

25 years, wasted. i don't mean to be cruel here, but what the hell do they expect to find on their own that they couldn't find in 25 years together? happiness in solitude, is that what's going on here..

this is really bizarre

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One reason why I'm afraid of marriage in general, just that random confession that throws everything off.

And I hate when I try to love my parents, and they make me want to hate them more. I'm doing a drawing of them and me together, and when I'm done, my mother is complaining about the highlights of her cheeks.

They really think this shit is easy to do...and it's funny that my father would get jealous of me drawing other people, and use that bullshit mentality that these people are just using me to get what they want (Exactly how the fuck did you become an omnipresent being of what people think?) I draw those people because I need practice, it's better than just drawing celebrities.

Now that I made a "promise" to draw them, and I'm basically done with the drawing, I bet he's going to bitch about it, and I feel like making him taste his own medicine when he said I should stop drawing these people, and tell him that you'll have to pay me if you want the original. Because before, he told me to charge people to draw. (Always tries to apply an economic perspective for everything, but ends up inverting shit when it comes to this)

Parents can be so contradicting, especially when their hypocrisy becomes the epitome of what defines their incompetence as just people feeling obligated to stay together so they wouldn't look like a bunch of idiots to their friends. Pathetic, pathetic, PATHETIC....I do NOT WANT TO BECOME LIKE THEM.

And I hate how when my mother doesn't know something, she says "Oh I know, I'm just joking..." No you're not fucking joking...

I still speculate on my luck on surviving this long.

And I may look like I'm disrespecting my parents, but anyone can read these people like a fucking pop-up book that once I'm capable of living by myself (I mean I already am because my grades are basically fueling my tuition, and what's funny is that I basically got 93% of it covered, and that's because I PROCRASTINATED, which shows how desperate the University system is in getting new "slaves" for the market), they will just end up arguing with each other over petty shit.

I still wonder why luck decided to save me from death twice...guess it's for a reason, since no matter how much I underestimate myself, too many coincidences prevent me from being too negative (way too many that it should transfer to some other poor soul) . I don't think I'm anyone special, but damn, to live this long with such a fake family body bags is amazing.

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Originally Posted by Dianeva

The video is terrible but doesn't warrant the conclusion made by the poster, as though all or even most women would respond in that way.

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Yeah I don't agree with any of the words from the video person, I think the CLIP would have spoken for itself. I was looking for the least-biased version of that clip and unfortunately that was it. The one woman near the end DOES say "Well what if it were a woman?" but then it immediately gets turned into a joke again by Sharon Osbourne... Disgusting. And then she tried to apologize on a later episode and laughed during it... Really?

She will continue living like she can just pass everything off and half-ass it in hopes of justifying her reasons.

But when I see this peculiar demeanor of hers, I think she's hiding something. I think she has an superiority complex.

She has to be hiding something...otherwise she must be paid to act that way.

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Originally Posted by Linkzelda41

She will continue living like she can just pass everything off and half-ass it in hopes of justifying her reasons.

But when I see this peculiar demeanor of hers, I think she's hiding something. I think she has an superiority complex.

She has to be hiding something...otherwise she must be paid to act that way.

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Or she's just a crazy bitch. (Not that I'm one to judge, although she did have a reality show with her husband in which she was constantly drunk and belligerent...) Normal, rational people don't typically earn money for having talk shows. People are more likely to watch crazy.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature...&v=GGBA-q7zG6E

LOL, this video makes me feel better about myself.

Irritated with my grandma. She blames me when anything happens to her computer, complains when I don't talk and gets frustrated with me when I do, tells me I need to eat more and then tells me I need to exercise more, insults my father's side of the family, is obnoxiously impatient and more than a bit racist, and other unimportant things that don't really matter but annoy me nonetheless.

And I found that as nice as paper mache smells, it doesn't taste good. Made me sad.

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Originally Posted by redisreddish

Irritated with my grandma. She blames me when anything happens to her computer, complains when I don't talk and gets frustrated with me when I do, tells me I need to eat more and then tells me I need to exercise more, insults my father's side of the family, is obnoxiously impatient and more than a bit racist, and other unimportant things that don't really matter but annoy me nonetheless.

And I found that as nice as paper mache smells, it doesn't taste good. Made me sad.

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Originally Posted by Linkzelda41

I've grown a sudden interest in taking the "Psychology of Woman" course at my university. Problem is, I probably have to request a force list to get it. I have all the per-requisites (just have PSYCH 107) and I'm a shoe-in. I'm really interested in learning what Psychology can explain for women, since it really helps me rationalize human beings in general to the point where I just have multiple thoughts that can all relate to many things.

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Hah! You think psychology will help explain women. I've taken plenty of psychology courses and let me tell you, they hardly manage to explain men, let alone women...

Not to mention that every psych class, while interesting, is another shape of hammer that thinks everything is a nail. I've seen things from a developmental perspective, clinical (abnormal) perspective, and evolutionary (and damn that was a depressing class) perspective. But we're all still people, right? I'm waiting for it to all filter down to one "psychology" science, but each discipline is trying to be the one to do that. Wonder what psychological lesson you can take from that one... :P