Thread: Old lady calling you HANDSOME when Women your age don't even look at you

Hey guys.
So this lady at the bus stop said "Hey handsome"... It was weird. I don't even know her and that's what she said when i got to the bus stop.
I went "Ah?" she said "you're handsome. very good looking. you should be proud about it. be confident"

hehehe. that was interesting. and she kept looking at me and talking to me. thank god the bus came and she wasn't getting on that one.

She was in like her 40's or who knows maybe even 50. And she was not hot or anything. But what I'm saying is, why old lady's say that and young women never even look at me. Not even the confident ones. They never start talking tome.

I thought, young women my age who are confident, would talk to me but that never happens. Like at work, thre's nice women my age but even though they are talkative they never talk to me. Meanwhile, the old lady's at work always talk to me and say hi.

I"m a shy guy and I don't start conversations myself, but it's interesting Old women talk to me but young beautiful women never do. Maybe old women see young average guys as handsome. heheh

People tend to change as they mature and start saying whats exactly on their minds as they get older. Also you could have reminder her of a son, or some other younger relative she has. She could have saw your demeanor, and felt a little empathetic.

Have you tried talking to any of the women at your place of work? "Hi" is a good icebreaker.

Yes i have. But i'm not talking about htat. I'm saying that it's interesting that old women think i'm handsome and young women think i'm not. Just funny

Originally Posted by giogoMoget2

Yes i have. But i'm not talking about htat. I'm saying that it's interesting that old women think i'm handsome and young women think i'm not. Just funny

Have girls actually said to you that you're ugly? As you pointed out yourself, older people are not as afraid to speak their mind. You really shouldn't be expecting people at your age to walk up to you and say "Wow you're handsome!". Usually girls expect guys to be ones to open a conversation.

Women your age are interested in more than good looks, especially the confident ones. They want someone else who is confident as well. This older woman is not interested in you, she just saw two things about you; that you are fairly nice to look at and are not confident (otherwise she wouldn't have told you to be more confident) and decided to let you know. I would say, take her advice to heart.

Same situation as you, I know exactly what you mean. I've found over the years (i'm only 18, even though that sounds like an old person comment) that I've noticed it was maybe my attitude, a lot of people have told me (my age or older) that I'm very good looking but have a really serious neutral facial expression, which can create the look of being bored, depressed, or angry. Try smiling and saying hi, that's what I've learned to do and you're bound to end up with at least a few awkward moments but you'll have more good ones than bad ones. Hopefully. Anyways, good luck - keep your chin up. As a rule of thumb I try my best to not care about what others think.

giogo, please stop making threads like these. There is a difference between forums and chat rooms. Although the Lounge is indeed for Off Topic, it is also intended for proper discussions, not fleeting questions you might have. I'll leave this thread open, but from now on, can you please either post further things like these in your thread here, or in the Help forum (although you should be aware that if your thread is not important enough it may not be approved).

As for your question, it seems to me like you've never actually received any input from people your age, and these questions are just stemming from concern about how attractive you are. If you want some input from us then I suggest posting your picture in the thread in the Favourites forum; otherwise we can't really tell you any more than what you already know.

Thank you!

Yeah, old people say all kinds of shit.

"you're handsome. very good looking. you should be proud about it. be confident"

Apparently you don't look confident or she probably wouldn't have said that. Look more confident, women pick up on that. Be borderline cocky even Besides, older women are a LOT of fun if you know what I mean

50 isn't old. I agree with ninja. Just wait for an attractive older woman to say something and start talking to her.

I have a similar experience except a bit different. With my glasses on, older women always say I'm attractive or are just really really nice to me. If I don't have glasses on, girls my age and sometimes younger are attracted to me.
It's handy sometimes.

Ironically, the older woman might have given you the answer to your own question.

What is the most telling about the first things she noticed about you? That you were not confident. People pick up on that. Girls, especially pick up on that. It's been my experience that most girls are looking for a confident guy, and - as was said - just being good looking is not always enough to have women flocking to talk to you. If you are the type that often avoids eye contact, or reacts awkwardly when receiving a compliment (as you did with the older woman), it can prove to be a major turn off.

Women ONLY like men with confidence.

For men, looks don't really matter so much to women. It's about confidence. If you were average or even ugly looking, but confident, women be naturally be attracted to you.

How'd she notice you weren't confident? Probably your poor posture. Work on that and see a natural burst of confidence come as a result. Either that or maybe you were looking at the ground or something and shuffling your feet. Stop looking at the ground and stop shuffling around. Stop that.

Become Alpha. Stop being lame.

Originally Posted by Invader

Become Alpha. Stop being lame.

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is courage wolf male or female ?

Originally Posted by greenhavoc

is courage wolf male or female ?

Both

You guys place way too much confidence in confidence.

Well what gos where -

Not all women love confidence. Some women hate it. I know a LOT of women who think confidence just makes the person look like an egotistical bastard. Of course you have to be able to talk a little bit at least, most of the time anyway. But I agree that you shouldn't look like a hopeless piece of shit. All you have to do is not look at the ground.

Well, there's a difference between confidence and arrogance (though the line is very thin, sometimes). I know plenty of women who can't stand arrogance, but I don't know a single one who would say she doesn't like a guy to have confidence in himself.

What O said, tommo. Women generally can't stand arrogance (who does like an arrogant bastard?) but there is a decided difference between arrogance and confidence. It can be a thin line, but learn to stay on the right side most of the time, and you're golden.

Also, on a totally unrelated note, while I was walking through the college campus this morning wearing my Aussie drovers hat, this quite cute girl smiled at me and said, "Nice hat," as I walked by. I don't think I've ever had that happen before. Unfortunately for her, I'm quite happily taken.

Your perception of yourself is different than how others see you. Be arrogant, it'll come off as simply confidence.

I don't care what women say about not liking arrogant guys, that's not true and both you and I know that. Don't be idealistic. Realism, friends.

Get in there.

Women do like arrogance, if it's not too much. Ideally, they wouldn't, but we all know that they do. I know plenty of my (female) friends say that a hint of arrogance "isn't bad." I think they are attracted to it. (Of course, personally, I can't stand even a hint. Modesty is admirable)

You need to build your confidence. The only way is first be completely comfortable with yourself, then talking to people (esp of opposite gender) frequently. The women at your workplace, for example.