Hi! New lucid dreamer here that can't get past his baser instincts

Hi everyone, new lucid dreamer here! I'm a 37 year old man, I've been interested in altered states of consciousness for some time. I was into hypnosis and neurolinguistic programming since my late 20's and for the past few years have been really interested in learning about or practicing shamanism, shamanic journeying, meditation/mindfulness and mysticism in general for healing through trauma and increasing consciousness. I recently also started experimenting with psychedelics, which I had no interest in for most of my life as I naively saw them as party drugs and not something much more.

With that being said I had my first lucid dream in January, and have since had half a dozen more. Before I experienced my first, I thought the whole thing was bogus and never really gave it any attention at all. But since then I've been putting a lot of work and effort into gaining more mastery of lucid dreaming. I'm at a point now though, where I have all these things I would like to do and say and experience for growth in my lucid dreams, but every time I become lucid I throw them out the window for the most part and just try to have sex with the most gorgeous women I can conjure up. Each time I get better at focusing and keeping myself from getting too excited and I get farther along than the last time, so I guess this could be seen as a way to practice stabilizing my dreams. But I also feel kind of stupid because I'm past the age where all I think about is having sex, and I'm practicing lucid dreaming for something much more than just banging it out.

I'm wondering if anyone here has experienced something similar and would love some advice from people with more experience than my own.

Also side note I searched 'sex' in the searchbar and it comes up empty. That seems strange to me, since from what I understand it's commonly the first thing new lucid dreamers gravitate toward.

I'm disappointed that the post has 100 views so far but no one wants to say anything. :silent: Why don't three letter words work on the search function? Is anyone there, it's so lonely..

I'd say that experience is pretty natural. I'm not the most experienced lucid dreamer in the world, but I've been told that once you mess around with dream sex enough you can get over it and move on. Once you've got a better command of lucid dream induction, you won't feel the need to use your lucid time for this because you'll know you can reliably induce another lucid dream soon. Not saying it goes away forever, but basically you can enjoy other stuff as well.

Or maybe I just need to get more :buns: in my waking life. Hey thanks for responding it means a lot!!

No problem!

Welcome! Also don't be too upset if it takes a little while to get a response around here. Lucid dreaming is a niche topic and these forums are pretty small (in a good way) so while the responses might not be immediate the quality of discussion is very good from what I've seen so far. Hope to see you around!

In my experience lucidity is the practice of waking up the logic center which is usually less active at that time. Rather than like a light switch, personally, I feel this is more like a gradient or spectrum of awareness. This is why we can have the sudden "ah-ha" moment of realizing we are in the dream, but still be subject to dream logic and lower faculties than in our waking state.

Like others have said, it is a fairly common occurrence even for seasoned onironauts. But as your practice develops all those things you mentioned become easier and more natural (stabilization, recall, summoning) if you keep with it.

Singular goals can also help with task orientation when trying to condition your dream self into more productive habits.

Instincts are a strong beast that is for sure. But desire is the moving power of every lucid experience, we just learn to ride the beast.

Cheers