Well personally I wouldn't go so far as to say you need to see a shrink, but I will agree that it's your irrational fears that are making it impossible for you to enjoy the lucid state.

And I'm afraid that unless you can gt those fears under control any lucid dreams you have will become nightmares - your dreams reflect your inner state, and if that state is fear then you;ll have nightmares. A lot of people use lucid dreaming as a sort of therapy - because in dreams you can face your fears with no real danger - you know if you fall off a cliff or get eaten by a bear nothing is REALLY going to happen to you, and you'll wake up and everything will be fine, and then because you were able to face those fears in a dream you begin to get over them in waking life as well.

But since your fear seems to be about sleeping and dreaming, that makes things tricky in your case. And unfortunately it seems becoming lucid only makes it worse for you. We can't stress enough that it's all about your attitude - you need to go in with no fear or at least prepared to face your fears. If you bring a phobia in with you that you're not prepared to face squarely then you'll probably keep having the same kind of experiences you did.

If on the other hand you're ready to face it, or maybe soon you can work up the courage to face it, then you should be able to make some headway and beat it eventually.

Does it really not help at all to realize that you sleep every night ,and dream several times every night, and so far nothing bad has happened? Nobody has crept into your room to kill you - your house hasn't burned down etc.

And on top of that - nothing bad happened when you had your lucid dream. You were afraid - that was all. But you woke up to find that there was nothing to be afraid of. It was only a dream.