Quote Originally Posted by limoguy333 View Post
Just wondering if it would be safe to start LDing again because a LD where he was in it would probably be pretty sad and awkward. Just wondering how long if at all you people waited before LDing after a family death.
limoguy333, my husband's mom died of cancer on 3/15/07. The doctors had ONE WEEK earlier had stopped all treatment (as they were futile) and simply made her as comfortable as possible while we waited for her to die. To say that it was hard on my husband and his family would be an understatement.

I was on very good terms with my mother-in-law and was able to say "goodbye" to her (tho she couldn't respond).. so I wan't concerned with anything left "unsaid" or "undone".

I usually try for LDs via WILD using the WBTB method but I found that once I woke up in the middle of the night.. my mind instantly went to her and I couldn't body asleep/mind awake (the thoughts were simply too strong). Plus I almost at times felt slightly "scared" for lucidity to occur (tho I knew this was irrational).

I am a very spiritual person (believe in heaven/hell/afterlife, etc.) which is why this might have been so hard for me.

I'll also say it took about 5 months before I felt comfortable WILDing again.. but you will know when it's the right time for you.

I'm very sorry for your loss.