I haven't actually achieved WILD (Wake Induced LDing), but I heard that the vibrations are a clear sign that you're going into an LD or are already there. As to taking control, try using verbal commands and put some force/conviction behind your words. For example, if the little girl tells you you won't get out of that house, say something like, "Go away!" or "Exit!" or something. I find that IRL I work harder and have more focus if I'm pretty angry. I hate being angry, personally, but it can also be a useful emotion.

That's just my advice.

-Amé

BTW: Welcome to DV!!!