Lucid Dream Control Issues

**animlucid** · 11-01-2015 03:41 AM

So last night I was dreaming I was outside in a parking lot during nighttime and I just had a random realization that I was dreaming, so I started to stabilize the dream, so I started to kneel down on the ground, but I couldn't seem to bend my knees for some reason, the feeling was like if my knees were magnets and the ground was repelling my knees so I couldn't reach the ground and start feeling the texture. I then gave up trying to feel the ground and started to feel my face, and it seemed to work, I could feel my skin and I was able to stabilize the dream.

But right when I was stabilized I suddenly heard someone say "smile" and then my vision went completely blank, and I started hearing loud static and feeling "static" or "fuzziness" and for some reason I started to feel extremely scared even though I was just hearing static and I started to scream. I then woke up.

So my questions are:

1. Why couldn't I kneel down?
2. Whoever said "smile" what did he say it for?
3. Why did I loose my vision, start hearing static and start to feel fuzzy?
4. Why was I scared, even though what was happening wasn't scary and I could stop it if I wanted to?

**dolphin** · 11-01-2015 05:36 AM

Judging from the dream, I can confidently guess that stress from your waking life is causing these issues. Specifically, you're taking on more than you can handle.

1.You feel that you're not able to yield or surrender from your stress.
2.The dream is telling you to take a break from your daily stress. Slow down and smile.
3.The dreams message wasn't being communicated clearly due to the lack of understanding.
4.You're experiencing anxieties in various aspects of your waking life.

**Sensei** · 11-01-2015 06:03 AM

Stress is the most common bringer of lucid nightmares. I have only experienced them when in a stressful life situation. Non lucids can be kinda random or from fear, but lucid nightmares means that even when you know that it isba dream you feel like you need to control it, but have no control of it.

Or, it could just be that you had the feelings of your waking body in the dream state. Pretty rare, but I have had it before and it sounds similar, sounds that aren't there, a buzzing that feels almost like you are being electrocuted without the pain, not being able to move because your body is connected to the waking one. Fear is a normal aspect of rem atonia for those that hit it the first time, or the randomness might have just scared you. I have been scared in lucid dreams before without it being a nightmare. Just because you know a movie isn't real and you can pause it when you want to, doesn't mean that it is impossible to scare you or that it has to bring a crippling fear (nightmare), it can just be a little sometimes too.

Once I actually fell asleep with my wife's arms around me and when I realized I was dreaming, she was standing next to me grabbing me (like she had her arms around me in waking), even with good dream control, flash steps, teleporting and the like, I couldn't get rid of her and it woke me up.

One time i woke up when my wife was on vacation, I felt like there was another person in my room, a dream feeling had made it's way into waking life. It wasn't a "scary feeling" it was just a strange one. I just felt like I was in a room with more than just me. The opossite can happen as well. There is not as clear of a distinction between waking and sleeping as we think. Waking feelings come into dreams and dream feels come into waking.

**Tradl3s** · 11-01-2015 07:23 AM

The above advice has all been really good, i'd say. On the aspect of dream control, you need to expect things to happen. If i want a fireball in my hand, i don't just put my hand up and try really hard. I just very much expect it to happen.

**Sensei** · 11-01-2015 03:08 PM

Originally Posted by Tradl3s

The above advice has all been really good, i'd say. On the aspect of dream control, you need to expect things to happen. If i want a fireball in my hand, i don't just put my hand up and try really hard. I just very much expect it to happen.

Yes, that can work, but expectation is determined by past experience, so with him already experiencing something unwanted, his expectation can lead him down the wrong road next time he lucids. It is like if I hand you a cupcake and punch you in the face the second you bite into it. Next time you eat a cupcake, you are going to be a bit wary, because you are consciously or unconsciously expecting something bad. Especially if the time I handed you a cupcake was one of the very few times that you had eaten a cupcake..