I have been RCing for 2 years now and it's gotten very old and boring that I can't do it mindfully anymore!! It's not that I can't do it right, bcz in reality it's just a test like any other where you just do something and observe the result. You don't need to feel or think anything, or be excited or whatever. But, the problem is the part where I need to believe that I might actually be really dreaming and feel true doubt.
There’s a slight misconception here: reality checking and mindfulness are incompatible (I know this sounds like a contradiction, but keep up with me): mindfulness refers to passive awareness, and reality check is a very assertive action.
“But why do we tell people to take their time doing reality checks? Why do we tell them to really ask if it’s a dream?”
It’s not because you need to engage with belief and doubt, because you can’t choose your own beliefs or doubts! What’s the point of reality checking if I know I’m not dreaming? It seems redundant, even more considering the fact that when I suspect I’m dreaming, it won’t be the reality check that will give me lucidity.
The real deal is “automaticity”. The goal is to apply an exercise (or as you call it, a test) in order to habituate you to a principle. And that principle is lucidity, or as people call it these days: awareness.
But it's like I almost always instantaneously become lucid when I doubt if it's a dream. I should mention that i was very good at this cultivation of this critical thought of "I might be dreaming at any given moment", and it really paid off bcz when something weird happened and I started feeling doubt, the first idea that would come is "this might be a dream", then I would RC then become lucid.
We’ve talked about this in the other thread: it’s simply automated association, unconsciously perceiving the meaning of cues. And like we’ve talked in the other day, it happens pretty commonly with another cognitive demanding task: driving. At first, you need to do stop for a second to think “what does that circular sign mean?”, as since you’re not used to it, it takes more attentional resources. But the more you repeat this specificy “cue-answer” throughout the exercise of driving, the more unconscious it becomes: your brain has learned to immediately associate the cue to its meaning, and now it’s free to do other things: this results in you not needing to think “okay, this is a circular sign, red borders…”; instead, you change direction because the sign forces you to. Does this mean you didn’t wonder about the meaning of the sign? Of course not, it just means that such exercise was automated enough that you unconsciously perceived its meaning and acted without having to “think” about it.
Exactly the same for reality checking, and many, many other cognitive tasks: the reality check, even before you the action, is you thinking “Might I be dreaming?”. At first, of course people will do few per day, they’re not used to the amount of cues that could signal that question! But as you improve, as it’s your case, you’re already feeling the effects of this “automated association”: you become lucid because in the background, unconsciously, you’ve already questioned yourself whether you’re dreaming or not.
Folks, this is learning: loads of research dwindle on how we achieve this. There’s even explanations why reality checks are a behavior harder to automate than, for example, reading a light sign: simple conditional theory which states that the pairing of the unconditional reward with the conditioned stimulus strengthens the association, but this association is influenced by things like emotional state, number of pairings and their frequency/intensity, and even motivation.
(If you still didn’t get it, think about the nature of lucid dreaming exercises: you fail 90% of the times to achieve a 10% - made up numbers – aka, you practice all day for a shot of lucidity in a short period of time during REM…). Don’t forget that simple statistics shows that what we’d call expert lucid dreamers (imagine people who have 1 lucid per night) have LOW chances of becoming lucid.
This would inevitably lead to a 2nd part of the post “awareness, you got it wrong”, something that Sageous said but it’s probably forgotten: (he said something along the lines of “awareness is not something you do, it’s a state not an action”), or: lucid dreaming exercises are designed to reach awareness, the state. You don’t practice awareness, ADA/Mindfulness is not awareness. Instead, these are all tools to reach the state of lucidity…you simply don’t call it lucidity because you’re not dreaming (more correctly, lucidity is a more refined type of awareness, there was also a discussion on this on the past, with the “mirror-test” and other mentions). But this post is already too big 
In the end, this might lead you to question: “but what is the use for reality checks if I reach lucidity just by suspecting I’m dreaming’”…well, as much as I hate myself for introducing new terms, think of them as “awareness checks”: if you’re doing a reality check, is because you’re aware of the possibility that you might be dreaming; they are a quantifiable way to measure the moments that you weren’t simply passively going on through your day, but you were actually admitting the possibility.
Some people might disagree, but just like the red-sign when driving, as long as you internalized the meaning of the reality check: the more, the better (although there are a few other factors that also influence it, I’ll name them if you’re curious).
Of course there’s a difference since most times you’ll reality check and see no results (cause you’ll be awake), but the goal is to strengthen this cue as much as possible, make it as automatic as possible. After all, this is pretty much habit formation, something every lucid dreamer has to go through.
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