I feel there's a problem with the word "habit" we tend to use everywhere because plenty of habits don't make their way into dreams.
Dreams themselves seem to be combined from "significant" events during the day / week or even something that strongly came to mind before you fell asleep. I once spent 20 minutes mentally rehearsing Tai Chi movements as I was falling asleep and one of my dreams that night involved me using Tai Chi moves. Or something that came to mind the other night during my WBTB was a thought about Dreamviews and my next dream involved me doing something on the forum mixed in with something I was contemplating the night before.
Whereas things I've been doing for years, let's say sitting on the computer, almost never happen in my dreams, I'd say that dream about Dreamviews I just mentioned was the only exception in I don't even know how long. You could call me doing everyday things on the computer a habit, brushing your teeth is a habit etc... but you don't get dreams out of them. When you get into the habit of something it seems to actually
disappear from your dreams.
So I think the word "habit" comes along with the connotation of something done automatically, mindlessly or with minimum thought. Something you just got into the "habit" of doing, something you just
happen to do every day, or every now and then.
So would mindfulness of chaotic situations as a habit go into your dreams? I'm not so sure.
I think the key here is
in reaction to a specific situation, but to react to a situation you need to be mindful in order to notice when it occurs, so essentially I'm thinking without mindfulness you don't see the situation and thus you don't use your habit of being mindful in that situation. Your habit is actually triggered by mindfulness!
In dreams we seem to be least mindful, so even if something happens in the dream to which we normally react to habitually, we just go with the flow of the dream, the habit doesn't get triggered.
From my experience of dreams the things that are in dreams tend to be:
- The things that our minds are currently contemplating; sometimes obvious like our last thought before we fell asleep, sometimes less so like the one movie scene from several days ago that has left a deeper than usual impression. Dream incubation is all about contemplating something before falling asleep so that it's on our minds during the night and enters one of our dreams. So perhaps if you actually actively pondered on one of your habits before sleep it would in fact enter one of your dreams, like if you thought about your hands then in a dream you might use your hands, if you think about how you hands look as you fall asleep you might end up studying your hands in a dream (this may trigger lucidity), MILD and many other techniques are basically based around this.
- Our emotional state; if we are upset or otherwise unstable in some way we tend to have nightmares, when sad we tend to perhaps more uplifting dreams of the things we wish for since sadness normally comes from something we don't seem to be getting, when excited or impressed we might have more impressive dreams of grandeur. It probably depends on the person but I think it probably boils down to similar types of things, depending on how you currently deal with certain emotions that will probably be how your dreams deal with them
- Our thought process; how we actually see, interact and decide what to do with in the world; this is a bit more subtle I suppose, the simplest way to describe it is if you see a maths problem inside your dream you will try to solve it the same way you would in the real world, you "work things out" the way you normally do, if you easily get frustrated when something doesn't go your way then if something doesn't go your way in a dream you will likely also be frustrated etc...
Personally I find the last dot point the most interesting, see back when I had heaps of DILDs there were probably two significant factors as far as actually being in a dream was concerned:
- My dreams were more realistic, I had a lot more dreams taking place in my actual house or some other places I've actually been to, I also had plenty of FAs. Nowadays my dreams are almost all fantastical, there's little in common with reality and I don't remember the last time I even had an FA.
- I was very much aware of all the dream "laws": electricity doesn't work in dreams, shadows go the wrong way, RCs fail, your hands look weird, you feel "light" etc... in fact I kept finding new things every dream like that my dreams are frequently darker (as in amount of light) compared to the light level of my day activities and so on.
I was highly aware that dreams worked by slightly different rules and since my dreams had more realism in them it was easy to tell reality from dream reality. So I would be watching TV and I would realise I was dreaming because I was actively comparing reality to dreams, it wasn't a "habit" (like see a TV, do a reality check) it was a brand new way of seeing the world, it was a thought process.
I can't seem to do this now that my dreams are works of fantasy, I have nothing in the dream to compare to reality since barely anything there is based on reality as I know it in everyday life, it's all based on fiction and how do you compare fiction to fiction? Oh there's a dragon, well of course there is, I've read so many books and seen TV shows with dragons, why wouldn't there be a dragon. Basically from what I can tell my new thought process (I'm okay with whatever comes up, since fiction is fiction and it's all fun) is not adequate for realising I'm in a dream. In fact I enjoy my fantasy dreams, which probably makes it even harder to realise I'm dreaming since I'm too busy having fun and there goes any mindfulness I might have had...
Maybe if I started criticising fiction works.... hmm my own post seems to be giving me new ideas now. =P
Time to try some things out.

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