Thread: Very strange lucid sexual experience (recurring)

So it is pretty common for people to have sex in their lucid dreams and in their regular dreams as well.

For as long as I've been lucid dreaming (off and on for several years) I've never successfully had sex. Every time I try to do it (I am a male), the female parts are closed, no matter if it is someone in my dream from real life, a dream character or whoever. The outside of the vagina feels the same, but there is no inside opening, it's almost like there is a labia with a rock or something behind it.

I'm 24 I have had real sex plenty of times with different girls and I will say that I do have some intimacy/female issues but it shouldn't be to the point where my subconscious stops me from having sex in all of my dreams.

I was just wondering if anyone else has had an issue like this where their is a clear mental block happening over and over in their dreams. I just decided to make a post about it today because it happened again this morning. I even flew into the sky and called Aphrodite to ask her about it lol but I didn't really get any answers.

Yes I have had similar situations. Most include not being able to remove clothing. But then I learned I can simply "will" the clothing to disappear. Or, not being able to find privacy. But then I realized that privacy isn't necessary in my dreams.

I have 2 other issues with sexual activity in lucid dreams: 1. It wakes me up, & 2. I lose control of my LD to my sexual urges, then rush off to find a sexual partner…which then wakes me up.

Lucid dreaming is about your expectations. For some reason you (probably subconsciously) expect that you will not be able to have sex in your LD. You have to “know” that you can and the issue will go away. It is your dream, your level of control is based on what you believe is possible.

Next time you are in a lucid dream, and have the opportunity for sex, just believe it is possible and the avenue will be open (figuratively speaking). But, don’t be surprised if the level of physical excitement caused by sexual activity causes you to wake up prior to crossing the finish line (figuratively speaking).

Try to vividly imagine the sensation of 'real' sex just before the act, then once you are near enough that imagination will morph into the real (lucid) thing. I hope that made sense haha.

Basically, i find thinking things like "i know i can do xyz because im lucid" doesnt really help, you have to affirm it eg "I am doing xyz" and try to counjure all the relational sensory attributes of what you want to acheive in your mind (whilst lucid dreaming of course) this requires a high level of lucidity, which can be difficult to acheive when on a hormone fuelled quest for sex, but definitely achievable!

Better to use your lucid dreaming as an opportunity to learn more about your intimacy issues, than use it to have self-indulging "sex." That way you can better learn how to honestly love a real person, than pretend to in your dreams.

It seems to me that she's the one with the most immediate problem; try to ask her, why her body is closed up like that - and what she thinks you can do about it.

Other than that there is always "Open Sesame!" (But remember to believe in it!)

Originally Posted by Voldmer

there is always "Open Sesame!" (But remember to believe in it!)

LOL! What makes it so funny is that it will actually work!

Originally Posted by AD0123

So it is pretty common for people to have sex in their lucid dreams and in their regular dreams as well.

For as long as I've been lucid dreaming (off and on for several years) I've never successfully had sex. Every time I try to do it (I am a male), the female parts are closed, no matter if it is someone in my dream from real life, a dream character or whoever. The outside of the vagina feels the same, but there is no inside opening, it's almost like there is a labia with a rock or something behind it.

I'm 24 I have had real sex plenty of times with different girls and I will say that I do have some intimacy/female issues but it shouldn't be to the point where my subconscious stops me from having sex in all of my dreams.

I was just wondering if anyone else has had an issue like this where their is a clear mental block happening over and over in their dreams. I just decided to make a post about it today because it happened again this morning. I even flew into the sky and called Aphrodite to ask her about it lol but I didn't really get any answers.

I have a simular problem . When i am able to get to the penatration part, it dosent feel natural. It feels rough, dry, or thr DC morphs into some strange object. Now when it comes to everything else ( BJ, DATY, TF, HJ, fingering), its very vivid and realistic. So my soultion is to avoid intercourse and do everything else. Oh, i have recently learned to make my penis very big ( 2 feet or so ). That makes for some interesting encounters.

Originally Posted by AstroFlyer

I have a simular problem . When i am able to get to the penatration part, it dosent feel natural. It feels rough, dry, or thr DC morphs into some strange object.

Wow! I though I had it bad by waking up when I attempted sex. What kind of strange object???

Originally Posted by Tygar

Wow! I though I had it bad by waking up when I attempted sex. What kind of strange object???

Imagine an inside out cactus.

Originally Posted by Lucidordie

Imagine an inside out cactus.

I really don't want to!

The strange objects are anything from a pork shoulder to a piece of pipe. Oddly enough that's the times that it feels realistic, but most of the time it's an unnatural feeling. I do however share the common problem with waking up but having LDs 2-3 nights a week , I get plenty of chances. All that said , 90% of my LDs I'm looking for and summoning random female DCs to hook up with. I have found that limiting myself to mild sexual contact to start out with helps me stabilize