Thread: Do you keep your interest in lucid dreaming a secret from others?

I love to talk about lucid dreaming and I usually get one of two replies:

You're crazy
OR
Oh I do that all the time

and more often then not, it's the latter. I know a few naturals, and I was the one who made them realize that full control of all of your dreams doesn't happen to everyone. They were quite shocked.

I find it strange how people can not be interested in lucid dreaming, or dreaming in general. But i have told many people about my experiences and too many are totally uninterested or just think im.. weird. Its a little sad, but at least my family is slightly more interested

Originally Posted by notHuman

I find it strange how people can not be interested in lucid dreaming, or dreaming in general. But i have told many people about my experiences and too many are totally uninterested or just think im.. weird. Its a little sad, but at least my family is slightly more interested

Gah. I know, right? I don't understand how someone can learn about the practice of regular lucid dream induction and not be fascinated by it. It's such an absolutely wonderful, amazing and otherworldly idea! Well... I suppose the otherworldly part is what turns some people off to it. I'm generally a nonconformist who's attracted to otherworldly things (always loved the fantasy genre of fiction), so that adds to the appeal for me; but it's also just a really, obviously awesome and fun and even productive thing to do and how can you be disinterested in it?? Some people are so drawn to the ordinary and have such a boring, closed-off view of the world. They would even call you crazy just for having an unusual interest.

Okay, enough with the pretentious tirade. I generally don't keep it a secret from anyone but also don't make it a point to mention it to most people without instigation. Just explaining it to a new person is kind of a hassle; and I kind of enjoy the feeling of having this secret side that's into this relatively underground thing that most people don't know about. But I also like talking about it sometimes, for social release. So I talk about it with my best friend a lot (he thinks it's really cool but that he's too busy to try it himself) and sometimes, another buddy/good acquaintance in my school. But other than that, I don't mention it to many people. Eh.

I do keep it to myself, at least for now, that I still don't have lucids frequently. I first knew about this almost a year ago and I have never talked about it with anyone. The people around me don't take the slightest interest in dreams, so I guess it's normal I don't expect them to know about lucid dreaming.

I plan on sharing all this once I'm more experienced, I guess I would sound like a fool to some people right now. It's been my little secret so far and I like it this way. In any case, I think most people are too close-minded to understand, so I'm not in a rush to share it with anyone yet.

Happy dreams!

Originally Posted by notHuman

I find it strange how people can not be interested in lucid dreaming, or dreaming in general. But i have told many people about my experiences and too many are totally uninterested or just think im.. weird. Its a little sad, but at least my family is slightly more interested

Everybody I tell does the same things. .-.

I really think they either think its fake, or that its not all that. Infact this one kid was like "whats the point of doing the things, you know its a dream and won't feel like real life"

Yes, it will you dumbo.

Originally Posted by TwitchLucidity

I really think they either think its fake, or that its not all that. Infact this one kid was like "whats the point of doing the things, you know its a dream and won't feel like real life"

I guess your right, it doesn't feel like real life. Not at all. IT IS WAY BETTER! I CAN FLY SUCKERS!!

My family knows and they think it's cool. My mom tries but my sister barely cares.

I've found I tend to get one of two reactions - which are either that I'm a bit weird, or that it's in some way wrong or dangerous. I don't tend to admit to it too people any more. Even at home, I'd like to tell the latest stories of either vivids or Lucids, but I get a cold reaction generally, so I just keep it to myself now - except on here of course!

Depends on the person.

I told my group about it, very briefly, and it didn't go well.

One of them said, "You talk to people about your dreams online? That's creepy."

I only tell certain people now.

Originally Posted by Tygar

I guess your right, it doesn't feel like real life. Not at all. IT IS WAY BETTER! I CAN FLY SUCKERS!!

Aww yeah, we can fly like Superman! Still a shame that a lot of people don't want to know about lucid dreaming though. I actually feel a little sad when reading the negatives on this thread.

I have only told a friend of me, but hide it from even my family. Why I am on DV and someone comes I quickly switch to something else. I feel stupid but I will feel even more stupid after explaining LDing and they say "Hey, you are into lucid dreaming and stuff. But why don't you just focus on your homework first" Or some bullshit like that. So yeah, I hide it because no one will probably care.

I tell whenever I can. It doesn't really matter who. It's not a forbidden thing! If it's possible to start a conversation about it, I give it a try at least once, because of I think I can find another person who experience the same, then we can share experiences and so. If they are not into it, they will forget about it in less than an hour. If they show some interest, we can have a very nice conversation at least once. My lucid pupils so far, were two. Now they do it by their own and we have really fun talk when we meet from time to unfortunately very long time now.

It depends. I usually keep it to myself, until I get excited again and start asking everyone I know, "Have you ever heard of lucid dreaming?"

The interesting thing is that a lot of people at my school have heard of it one way or another, though their idea of LDs vary (awareness vs. vividness vs. control, etc).
They either:
1) find it interesting but not *that* interesting,
2) don't see the point to it

And just now I posted on FB about it and found out that one of my friends is a natural lucid dreamer. Going to bombard them with questions ...

I've told my family and they're fine with it, they even think it's interesting. I also told an online friend and she thought it was interesting, I mentioned it to another internet friend and he'd actually tried it before and wanted to try it again.

One time though, I told this group of people I sometimes talk to online and their reactions were basically:

Person one: "I've heard of it, sounds tiring"
Person two: "Yeah but it's for people with boring lives"
Person three: "Why not just do drugs?"

Originally Posted by Mismagius

I've told my family and they're fine with it, they even think it's interesting. I also told an online friend and she thought it was interesting, I mentioned it to another internet friend and he'd actually tried it before and wanted to try it again.

One time though, I told this group of people I sometimes talk to online and their reactions were basically:

Person one: "I've heard of it, sounds tiring"
Person two: "Yeah but it's for people with boring lives"
Person three: "Why not just do drugs?"

Well, the first response at least sounds reasonable, even if we disagree with it and find it's worth the effort. But the other two? Dang.

Originally Posted by AstralVagabond

Well, the first response at least sounds reasonable, even if we disagree with it and find it's worth the effort. But the other two? Dang.

Haha, I was thinking about using that gif!

Yeah, the first one is understandable but I thought it was odd because like me that person is also learning Japanese, which I think requires just as much patience and determination. That's also why I was thrown by their responses, they are usually open minded about things like that because they get made fun of for learning Japanese.

I've told quite a few of co-workers about it. They find it very interesting and are always asking me complex questions that I don't know I've also got a few friends that are into it. I just started getting into it about a month ago. Haven't been able to dream for the past few years, but ever since I started getting into LDing, although I haven't had one yet, I'm dreaming more frequently and I love it!

Depends on who it is of course. Like say a lady I work with who likes to attend theme'd parties, I talk to her about dream stuff now and then. But like my brother who thinks life is all about working, I dare not tell him I even have ANY type of dreams.

Originally Posted by notHuman

I find it strange how people can not be interested in lucid dreaming, or dreaming in general. But i have told many people about my experiences and too many are totally uninterested or just think im.. weird. Its a little sad, but at least my family is slightly more interested

Some people are just WAY too grounded in reality and the daily grind. Reality sucks. It is no shock that those same people are pretty boring.
No discussing dreams is not weird. If not for dreams and fantasy - Hollywood, music, novels, and games would not exist. ENTERTAINMENT would not exist.

To Mismagius and AstralVagabond, I feel compelled to add:



I'll tell people once in a while, and I usually get 0 interest from them. The hippies like it, though, so I talk to them. My dad thinks it's really odd, but has recently been forced to come around a bit since my daughter also started LDing. Now he accepts it as possible, but he doesn't really get it.

In general, I find that people get really uncomfortable if you tell them about any sort of dream you have had. It's not polite conversation or something.

Originally Posted by Plashanko

I'm dreaming more frequently and I love it!

You know, everybody dreams at least 5 times a normal sleep period. You just don't remember it.

Originally Posted by AstralVagabond

Some people are so drawn to the ordinary and have such a boring, closed-off view of the world. They would even call you crazy just for having an unusual interest.

I can't agree more. People are like a flock of sheep and they're all interested in the same things. If you come up with an unusual interest, they either don't even listen or just think you are weird. And then everyone claims to be "different" than the rest of the world. Well, it's up to them, I choose to take profit of the third of my life that I'll spend sleeping

Keep it a secret? What difference does it make? Most people won't care one way or another, and if they get judgmental then the jokes on them because they've revealed to you just how little they know. Besides with all the research and studies done on lucid dreaming, it's become almost mainstream with movies like Inception getting attention.

Yes and no.

At first I told family. Not well recieved. So I slowed down. Then I couldn't resist any more, told some friends, and even worse reception. So I told myself "I'm not telling no more". Just last week, a coworker asked me if I believe in ghosts. And that opened the floodgates. I said "yes, because I have been a ghost in my OBEs". Turns out he had a LD before as well.

So, I'm still not telling, but if someone seems like he is "worthy", I'll give it a try.

I typically allow people to bring up the topic as well. But that's how I am about most things, I wait for the topic to present itself, wait for an opportunity to weigh in, and blow everybody away with my extensive knowledge of said topic. And then they're all like, "Damn sometimes I forget you're actually smart and not just a total fuck."