Hi guys

my husband has a degree in Philosophy and has read loads of books about the tao, buddhism, the mystics (you get the general idea anyway, the book shelves are stacked with them), and has practiced meditation as well as experimenting with various mind states. He was telling me that (and the book I have backs this up) if I follow LD or meditation to their natural conclusion, I would probably end up "breaking set" and kind of "giving up" on my life as it is now, which obviously includes him, our dogs and cat, our house (and we're also trying for a baby). I also need to complete a PhD and make some sort of success out of myself for the future.

Is there a way that I can prevent myself from taking this too far, or getting to that point which I have read can be compared with some pschizophrenic states, anti social or introverted character etc.?

I hope I'm not offending anyone here, it's not just my husband, the book also carries such warnings.

Several years ago I achieved 2 lucid dreams then lost the dedication, so I don't know how far I could take it.

I tried to recall my dreams (tell myself to remember before falling asleep etc.) last night, and I do remember SOME (and wrote it down) and this could be rubbish but I recall hearing, or imagining, a voice of an old man down in the living room (I was dreaming that I was in my bed waking up and doing morning things). He was saying "I just don't know where to go" OR someone was telling me that he just doesn't know where to go. This is an old farmhouse with a history of at least 2 suicides when farming was in trouble. Having said that, I don't easily believe in ghosts plus, I've never felt unsafe here. Also, my dog (who is ill and has been sick) could have been crying or being sick in the living room at the time. He may have felt that about being sick on our rug.

Don't mean to sound ridiculous, just sharing that!! Hey, maybe I'm losing my mind already!