I NEVER dream of him BUT...

So, I have this crush since the autumn of 2009 (when school starts)
That guy has talked to me like 4 or 5 times but I didn't pay any attention to him, actually, I was not talkative at all because I am too shy :/ and he looked stoned xD He looks like a weird - but in a good way - person.He seems distant, but when you talk to him, he is very friendly and funny.He gets into trouble, he is adored by his friends.

Well, most people, when they have a crush on someone,they dream about him/her.I don't.It's really annoying, I just want to have a "nice time sleeping".Don't think about anything dirty and stuff, I just want to see him.Talk to him, even in my dreams.I know I'll never have him.
But this week, I've dreamed about him like...3 times?Which seems weird to me.We just talk.I remember a dream where I was texting someone and he was above me, looking what I was writing and who would receive it. Great dream xD

* something kinda irrelevant : when i rarely see him, he is leaving or I am leaving.When I tried not to think about him, 3 things happened in 24 h.
1. my friend was calling me to tell me that he was at a gas station next to her house
2. I was searching photos of a cafe in fb, where I saw him.
3.I was sitting late at night in a park where exactly where it was written "I LOVE U ___" his name and surname. -.-

The next day, I spotted a photo of one of my friends, on a orange motorcycle.It was so eye-catching.Then I realised that HE was standing behind her.
Too bad for me, he finished school this year.
I am such an unlucky freak.


I know it's huge.I just wanted to share my crush-dream-problem with someone!

Wait, whats the problem?

You are right.I am so silly xD
I understand it was confusing.
Actually when the whole universe is like telling me to forget about him (I didn't dream of him, everytime I see him he suddenly disappears or I have to leave) I try to forget him and he gets in my life (I was creeped out when I saw the I love you thingy) and now he is even in my dreams.
I am just trying to understand why my brain is so messed up. :/

Well dreams mostly consist of memories, so the more you think about something through out the day, the more likely you are to dream about it. Freud says that dreams are a combination of memories and an aspiration. If you think about him, and want to be with him, most likely your going to dream about him. Just try to let it happen, nature normally sorts itself out. It may seem like the whole universe is telling you to forget about him, but it sounds like you dont want to. :)

Thank you for replying.:)
I guess I don't want to forget him, you are probably right.I wish I could, I feel so stupid when I like someone I don't even know.Like a fangirl or something.
It's kinda ironic that when I'm thinking of him I cannot dream of him, but when I don't, I do dream of him.

How about this twist of thought on the subject?

When you think about him in waking life consciously you lay out your desires and thoughts and whatnot of him to your hearths content and then don't have to dream about it as you went through it in waking life but when you then don't go through that which you want by thinking of him in ways you want your subconscious reveals those things to play out in their way you want in your dreams instead.
IE you don't need to ravel through things that are clear to you twice both in waking and dream. If one is gone through it in either it's settled and other things maybe are more important to be assorted in mind?

That seems pretty logical :shock:
Thank you!
I should find a way to stop both. :roll:

Some claim that dreams contain a message from your greater self. I wouldn't recommend trying to get rid of the dreams, but instead try to dechiper the message of the dream.