Question about sex dreams [technically lack there-of]

**SleepyLala** · 01-30-2011 04:39 AM

Hi, i'm new to the forum and really wanted to ask this question, I guess to get it off my chest, because i've always wondered about it. But in any of my dreams, if things start to get a little hot, it never goes anywhere. And it's not just that I wake up before anything happens, actually I don't think that happens much. But I never have sex in my dreams because it's always interrupted by something else in the dream. Usually someone coming into the room. I even feel inhibited in the dream because if anything starts to happen i'm constantly worried that someone will find us, and that not even locking the door or anything will keep that from happening. It always feels like people start looking for me when it starts. Does anyone else experience this? Or maybe have some idea why this happens?

**Caden** · 01-30-2011 05:04 AM

I even feel inhibited

Yes that's it you do feel inhibited. No matter what you will bring something into the dream to kill the sexual part. So why, well you need to ask those questions of yourself but there is one thing that you should also think about. Maybe you are either more interested in other things or that you are satisfied sexually enough to do other things.

**SleepyLala** · 01-30-2011 05:25 AM

Between the two it must be that I'm more interested in other things. I can't be sexually satisfied, I've never done it ^.^;; Could that be it too though? I've never had sex, so I don't know what it feels like and so I can't do it in dreams?

**spareohs** · 02-01-2011 12:04 AM

I've had that happen in dreams too. Recently, I had the first dream where a naked woman was actually on me. It was pretty boring though.
I was only ever physically intimate when I was young and it was with my best friend of the same gender. I liked it and we actually did it many times but my dreams about men, which I've had more often, are boring too.

**Astral Traveler** · 02-01-2011 01:50 AM

This happens to me ALL THE TIME and its sooooooooo annoying

Happened to me last night actually lol, i met this really hot mature redhead and we were going to go somewhere to fuck but then these 2 ugly mexicans jumped outta nowhere and attacked us and i had to fight them off and by the time i was done the woman was gone and i woke up

**~~DeletePlease~~** · 02-01-2011 04:07 AM

Just go with it, other dream characters usually leave once you get into it. Although, I'm only speaking from personal experience, it may be different with you.

**Caden** · 02-01-2011 04:57 AM

I can't be sexually satisfied, I've never done it ^.^;; Could that be it too though? I've never had sex, so I don't know what it feels like and so I can't do it in dreams?

Don't think so, I can honestly tell you that I have never breathed under water or flew like Superman but in dreams I have done it a lot.

**SleepyLala** · 02-01-2011 06:21 PM

Originally Posted by Caden

Don't think so, I can honestly tell you that I have never breathed under water or flew like Superman but in dreams I have done it a lot.

That's a really good point, thanks : ) I've flown a little too, and no way I actually know what that's like

**Caradon** · 02-01-2011 06:52 PM

I have the same problem as you whenever I try to go to the bathroom in a dream. It's a good dreamsign that I usually fail to recognize. Probably because when it happens I usually have to go pretty bad and I'm just overall too frustrated about the interruptions to remember to RC. It's probably just as well. It sucks having to piss really bad in a Lucid Dream.

Anyway, try making it a Lucid goal to get over your inhibitions. Practice doing it right out in public in front of everyone. Maybe if you do that you will start having less problems with it in non Lucid Dreams.

**NrElAx** · 02-01-2011 05:22 AM

Yea this has happened to me many time. I wake up and am soo mad. I realize the less sexually active I am in real life, the more likely I actually get to have full sex dreams or sexual acts that pull through.

**SleepyLala** · 02-02-2011 02:50 AM

That's a great idea, thanks : ) I'm not jonesing to have a good sex dream or anything, but it does leave you feeling frustrated in the dream and when you wake up. It'd be nice to get over it.

**NrElAx** · 02-02-2011 07:49 AM

Originally Posted by SleepyLala

That's a great idea, thanks : ) I'm not jonesing to have a good sex dream or anything, but it does leave you feeling frustrated in the dream and when you wake up. It'd be nice to get over it.

I'm curious. What do you mean by it would be nice to get it over with. Do you mean just getting over having sex? I didn't quit understand that lol.

**SleepyLala** · 02-02-2011 08:33 PM

lol, I just meant get past my problem with having sex in dreams, that being it's always interrupted

**Different** · 02-02-2011 08:49 PM

Hi there,
I heard this one tip
if you are..err..in the act of flagrante delicto, and an annoying dream character ever does come, you simply tell them 'go away or you'll never be in my dreams again!' and they leave, feeling very guilty and apologetic.

Hope that helps

**voipmathew** · 02-04-2011 06:11 AM

Lol. I'll surely try that if ever I do dream about something like that.

Originally Posted by Different

Hi there,
I heard this one tip
if you are..err..in the act of flagrante delicto, and an annoying dream character ever does come, you simply tell them 'go away or you'll never be in my dreams again!' and they leave, feeling very guilty and apologetic.

Hope that helps

**SleepyLala** · 02-06-2011 06:50 PM

Originally Posted by Different

Hi there,
I heard this one tip
if you are..err..in the act of flagrante delicto, and an annoying dream character ever does come, you simply tell them 'go away or you'll never be in my dreams again!' and they leave, feeling very guilty and apologetic.

For anyone who was curious about this...it totally worked : ) The result may be odd, but they leave you alone

**RecklessDreamer** · 02-06-2011 11:51 PM

Well it may be you are to excited, if you are you may wake up. If you have a thought or feeling that someone might walk in on you then they probably will. You have to not think of those things, but only that you are there and it's happening in your dream, pretty much you just have to let it continue without thought of someone coming or you being interrupted by someone.

**Raspberry** · 02-02-2011 09:10 PM

Or they could join in... Could be kinky...

**SleepyLala** · 02-02-2011 11:43 PM

Originally Posted by Different

Hi there,
I heard this one tip
if you are..err..in the act of flagrante delicto, and an annoying dream character ever does come, you simply tell them 'go away or you'll never be in my dreams again!' and they leave, feeling very guilty and apologetic.

lol! I think that would be hilarious, I wonder if it would actually work...

Originally Posted by Raspberry

Or they could join in... Could be kinky...

xDD woah now, let's take it one step at a time lol

**Caden** · 02-04-2011 05:30 AM

Well one bonus to having thousands of recorded dreams that I have recently been looking through of mine, is that I can clearly see less and less sexual dreams the more lucid I become!
It is obvious why just looking at my last LD, when you are lucid the universe is at your finger tips, all of a sudden the big O, ain't so big any more.