Thread: Falling in love in dreams

Yeah....I've had two dreams where I've fallen in love with two different people, who were not the person I was with at the time. I'm now single.

Kissing in dreams is always really....dreamy.

In some ways, I want to intentionally have all sorts of relationships in dreams. I suppose that leads to the question: is that escapism? But then again, we all create our own realities. Just because an experience isn't real, it doesn't mean that the experience is harmful or unbeneficial. I mean, I've learned most of my knowledge about life from Zelda, for Chrissake.

I think people can learn about relationships (and life...and anything!) through their dreams. We shouldn't be afraid of the pain it can cause us, because we learn from pain. Always find new experiences and new realities. I can't wait to dream again.

I think, as someone who has been single for a long time, that it can help get out pent up emotions and get to be sensitive and close to someone as oppossed to keeping it all in 24/7. I don't think doing it every single night forever is a good alternative to real life, but when life turns out nothing but dissapointments and hurt it can be a good release.

Done unintentionally its a mandatory stress release and it should just be let to go on for a few days. I've had them where they were eparticularly strong and after a few days it fades to nothingness.

What never made sense to me is the dreams that had nothing to do with love and yet I woke up feeling like I was in love with someone or loved by someone.

anyone know how i could possibly induce such dream?

I fell in love in a dream last night with some girl I have only seen a few times around town. It was funny, I was worried if she was too young for me, but apparently she didn't think so. But it was nice. We were sleeping on some sleeping bags outside on the lawn at some kind of outdoor slumber party and we were cuddling. It was a sweet feeling. But it started to rain so everyone got up and went inside. I didn't see her after that.

But it got me to wondering about this girl. I never talked to her in waking life but in the dream I found out a lot about her. It would be interesting to talk to her and see if any of the things I learned about her are true.

Ushually about 2-3 times a month I will have dreams about Toph, from Avatar: The Last Airbender. I think I just watched the show too much, that's all. But Toph is my favorite character in that show.

Once I had a dream about Toph and she kept telling me she had to go and find her parents. We were both really sad about it and we kept hugging and telling each other that we will miss each other. I don't really care about 'love' personaly, but that dream was very amotional. When I woke up I almost cryed thinking about it and writing it down.

I don't think I've ever loved in a dream. One dream I had a long time ago I would totally love to have again, which I felt complete in it and after I woke up from it. Maybe that is what love is, I don't know.

I've had dreams lately about a girl I used to be best friends with who I always wanted to be with but who, for whatever reason, never noticed me in that way until right before I moved out of state. Now every time I go back and visit her (like I did a few days ago) I keep thinking about her for days after and it bleeds into my dreams...I guess I feel sort of bad because I also have a girlfriend right now, but can it be helped? None of the dreams were lucid anyway. They just happened out of my control. But at the same time I know that if I became lucid in a dream with her I would stay with her forever there. I don't know if that's bad or not. I don't even know if I really care. It's still a curious feeling.

It sounds like you love her rather than your girlfriend. I think you should follow your dreams.

Originally Posted by Dannon Oneironaut

It sounds like you love her rather than your girlfriend. I think you should follow your dreams.

I'm inclined to agree. I'd also be inclined to rectify the situation if she didn't live 550 miles away =\ The dreams trouble me for that reason, though.

that's a good question for me it just happens but with every happening comes a reason, so that reason is?? well idk, but I guess you must have very deep thoughts about love and feel that butter fly feeling you feel when you miss some sort of love, then alike your dreams should repeat such an event, em, I guess if you think about love and feel its emotion throughout the day after many days you should eventually have a dream about love and you will remember it, because, for e.g. if you think about basketball in the morning then you say wait I had a dream about basketball so think about love in the morning and say yes I did or did not have a dream about Love, try that for a few days if not, Idk unforutnatley.

I've had a couple of non lucid experiences with girls in my dreams (i say girls because i'm 17 and they are my age... so its weird to say women i guess). My dreams involving love or infatuation are always the most vivid. I 'feel' the most and sense the most. I always know the girl in the dream that I fall in love with... and I guess its normal, but usually it is someone that I admire in real life. I've had dreams involving random girls ... but I never 'fall in love' with them, and the dreams are much less vivid.
And yes... when I wake up, I definitely wish I was back in the dream.

I saw this thread and just thought I'd share some things from my journal. I don't usually write anything down, but when it's particularly distressing I might jot some quick things.

"Well I realize now I just keep having the same dreams.
They all involve someone who I love and loves me back.
I woke up crying after the dream. I couldn't take it. I don't usually cry because I just don't care enough. But it hit me when I woke up this time. It hit me hard. The moment I woke up. I just sobbed like a baby. For love.
I can't keep having these dreams. All it is is me and a girl. In love.
Well dreams can't get any more generic and sappy than that huh. It sounds that way, but the dreams really are deep. I love you. Whoever you are in my dreams. But you already know that.
Please come true dreams. Please.



Another dream about falling in love.
This time it was an old ex's sister.
But I realize the people I dream about are just people I've known being tools for the essence of love.
We were making music together outside. It was a game where you put together samples and make your own music. The interesting thing is we were in bed, outside in a fantasy world, playing it. Basically, everything I love about everything was contained here. Falling in love, beauty, music, and fantasy.

It took a little turn though. While staring at the clouds together, her mom (played by an ex ex's mom) showed up, but it was her dad (no one I know) who ended up driving us both to some exotic location that he wouldn't say.
We ended up going up and up a large hill. Up higher, and higher. Where we were going was just on the other side of this last hill, but as he drove up it, the car fell off and we all fell very far down to our deaths.
I remember then, seeing the news that me and the girl had died together while her dad barely made it out alive.

Can someone make these dreams stop. Please. I can't stand only living in my dreams. It's the only place I actually live anymore.
I want them to be true and all I can do is cry when I wake up."

2 years ago I had this dream me and this guy from my science class were walking through a snowy forest holding hands on a date or something
and the next few days I liked him in real life, it was like a weird feeling I had
but it only lasted around 2 days
is this sort of the same thing this is talking about?

just woke up from this dream i had, where i decided it was a good idea to a lot of painkillers before class (no idea why). its interesting because in a way you feel the effects from certain substances consumed in dreams, but anyway i was having trouble taking a test or something and this girl offers to help me with it, at first i didn't take notice thought she was a teacher or something but when i made eye contact with her i don't even know how to describe it other than felling intensely euphoric, i have never felt anything like it. i hid my eyes behind my hat ( i never where hats? ) then she started singing lol it sounds pretty cheesy typed out but it was legit in the dream she just got more and more beautiful. after class ended she asked me to pick her up later.

then i woke up.. it was 9 and i had realized id been dreaming so i went back to sleep in hope to see her again pick her up maybe. fell asleep lot of it i don't remember until i pick her up she seems completely different person and i end up getting rejected. wake up again, go back to sleep to see her as she was before no luck. wake up for good now feeling heartbroken is the best way to describe it tho it seems to fade with each hour as memories of dreams do. does leave me to question what my subconscious was trying to express to me by making me go through this probably some deep insecurities i have about trying to get close to women and fear of being rejected... what a sucky way to wake up from a weird dream :/

I have...interesting dreams. A while ago, I had a dream(I will not give details). There was a girl in that dream, and I fell in love with her. Then, when I woke up again, I felt a loss the likes of which I had never known before. Then, I had another dream, but it was a continuation of the first. Same characters, same everything. I again woke up, feeling a great loss, but I decided to write it down, so that I can at least remember it. Also, this is a common occurrance, having dreams in which I fell in love with someone. However, I had never felt so connected to another dream, it made me not want to wake up, in fact, it felt real.

Gosh I know what you all feel. I have had for years a dream with a man I am in love with. It always takes place in an incredible city. I wake up from the dream like I have lost my best friend. It's painful to know I have to wake especially in the dreams I have with him where he is in danger. In one dream he was handcuffed and taken away. In my lucid dreams I have asked him if he was real. He got real offended from me asking him and was quite sarcastic with his answer of his reality. He has told me though in a phone conversation in a lucid dream that he was a real person. I have dreamed so much with him I have many drawings of him in my dream art journal.

I've woken from a few dreams with an intense feeling of love and it's pretty saddening as i've never been in love, don't know if I believe in it and am quite sure that this emotion doesn't exist in the real world.

I had a dream like this.
me and this girl called paige met during ww3 against Russia we were in love and nothing felt or since felt as brilliant as that. we were on the run from the invading Russians in France we took refuge in a supermarket I told her to hide and I went back t the entrance to defend her from the russains. I was armed with an m16 assault rifle anyway while fort of the russains she watched me crying as I was shot at that moment the British army came n fought of the russains. Paige ran to me and held me in her arms and said she she loved me as I was dieing the medics came said if I got to the hospital I'd live Paige was still with me crying then I woke up, I didn't want t wake up even though I was dieing

Here's something people have yet to post: I am currently single and in love with a girl. I have never dreamed of her, but I have had many dreams where I am in a loving relationship with someone who is not her. I think this is odd, but a mercy at least, since my everyday life bleeds significantly into my dreams.

I'm not a big fan of these types of dreams, though I have only had a few. At the time when I had them, I would wake up and the fading memory of the dream and the loved one would simply be a reminder that I had no one at the time. Now that I'm happily married, this dream never happens anymore.

I kind of fell in love with daughter of mob boss on some kind of party I was bartender at. She had some issues with father and nothing really happened between us because of the situation. I know it was mutual and I've tried to meet her during LD, but havent worked out :/ I only remembered it now because of the topic though.
It kind of sucks when you fall in love with imaginary person

I have had this happen to me several of times, I can't count how many times it has happen to me but It has. There are a few times where me and this girl are dating, and we keep holding hands, kissing, etc during school and at some point she just walks into another room and she ends up missing like she just disappeared. I've also had a couple more where me and some girl were flirting and everything was all lovey dovy and it was really annoying me. I always wake up really depressed when I wake up from those dreams like that. Most parts of the dream is where I hate it when the girl disappears and I can't find her any where. I wake up sad after that and hating my self because I don't have a girlfriend in real life.

That's happened to me. The worst is when I had a crush on someone that I'm just finally getting over then we share an intimate dream moment and bam, I'm all into them again.

Like fucking Emma Watson. I'll get over her when she leaves my dreams alone.

Originally Posted by Omnis Dei

Like fucking Emma Watson. I'll get over her when she leaves my dreams alone.

When I was young, I used to have the hugest crush ever on Cody from Zack & Cody (Cole Sprouse) and I had dreams about him mostly every single night. I was so obsessed.
I don't really dream of celebrities anymore, it's mostly just people I know/ex-boyfriends.
The most recent celebrity that was in my dreams was Naomi (Lily Loveless) from UK Skins.