Ex invading my dreams

I hope this is an appropriate location... I dated this guy for a few months over a year ago. He was obsessive over his last ex before me, and since I broke up with him I've had to change my passwords several times. What's weirder is I feel him invading my dreams occasionally. I would say he has invaded them over 10 times since the break up. Usually the same thing. He says he still loves me, and I have to remind him I'm in love with my current partner. He proceeds to try to seduce me, and uses things to emotionally manipulate me. For example, last night after I turned him down, all of a sudden we apparently had a sickly son together; and he threatened to take my son from me if I didn't comply to his desires. In each dream I keep trying to explain to him we would never work out, but he refuses to leave me alone. The son ended up dying close to the end of the dream and it was very upsetting. I don't know what to do anymore, and tired of dealing with it.

I just remembered another example of his manipulation.. I have a baby girl with the man I'm currently with, and in one dream where I turned my ex down he threatened to harm my baby and me. He didn't end up doing it, because like I said he says he loves me. I don't think he really wants to physically hurt me, because he wants to be with me. However it doesn't stop him from emotionally/mentally hurting or frightening me. I try to tell him I'm sorry for hurting him, but it never makes a difference. Once he invades my dreams he refuses to leave until I wake up.

Your dreams sort of reminds me of the ones I use to have but with a sort of obsessive friend. After telling him how i felt about the situation nicely and avoiding him though he eventually stopped texting me. A year is a long time. Are you sure he isn't over you? Or that what you feel isn't just you feeling sorry for him at times?Since hes popping up in your dreams though I think the best way to deal with it is to keep in mind that your in control of your dreams, to think of him as moving on and his dream figure as not really him and remember that he can't harm you for real even if he somehow managed to share a dream with you. Since you moved on, I think deep down he should know eventually he will have to move on too. If you love someone so much you still have to move on or become stronger with dealing with it regardless. If not its unhealthy and stressful. I don't think someone would be able to handle that kind of obsession for a year.

Hmm...Are you sure at times your not even slightly worried or curious about how he is now? It could be that him popping up is past feelings he probably felt that you took note of and your mind is bringing it up the same way a random violent dc pops up. If so stay positive and try not to pay much mind to the dream you had.If you became lucid you would also be able to change the situation with dream control.

Hi, sorry about your bad dreams.

I was in a bad situation before. And after it ended, I still had dreams with that place, people and feelings. It took few years (more than one for sure) for these dreams to stop. Also, I had to sort it out in my head. You know, leaving a bad situation doesn't mean we are free and clear of it. Sure, we are geographically not there anymore. But we still have feelings. And we will have them, until we let them go in our mind. Which is easier said than done. But if we make peace with our decision, or why we didn't leave earlier, or why we did (didn't do) something, dreams will keep happening.

Dreams normally reflect our daily lives. Our thoughts, feelings, fears, regrets... So until we dissolve them by making peace with whatever we did, they will keep happening to help us solve it.

If I were you, I would sit down and do some thinking. About what happened, how it wasn't your fault and now you are free from there and ready to move on. If you did some things that you regret, acknowledge them, make a decision to learn from your mistakes, file them away and set intent to move on.

Also, if you feel any anger at your ex, stop. Anger is a strong emotion and keeps us tied to people, even when all we want is to forget them. Until we forgive, we won't forget.

Hope this will help a bit.

Well if your ex is not wakingnomad(which im sure of) , then its just your subconscious screwing up your dream.
For all we know , a part of you may still love him , and that manifest in your dreams. Or there may be any other reason.
Look within yourself, you need to find out whats the truth about this situation.

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Originally Posted by Nefets

Well if your ex is not wakingnomad(which im sure of) , then its just your subconscious screwing up your dream.
For all we know , a part of you may still love him , and that manifest in your dreams. Or there may be any other reason.
Look within yourself, you need to find out whats the truth about this situation.

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Dream sharing is more commonly practiced than people are even aware of. Some people are unconscious dream travelers. My advice, try drawing a map of your dream home then draw a shield around it. imagine our dream house is the one you always dream in and intend for your dream shield to keep him out .