Thread: Gender Change Dreams

Usually I'm simply myself in dreams, or I'm non-existent as in watching a movie. But just once I had a slight moment of gender changing. Which was me being female, having sex and sitting up top and moving. But the dream was fairly undetailed, I barely saw or felt anything, it was short and I wasn't lucid so I didn't really care at all.
But in one of my lucids I definitely want to try out to be female. I have absolutely no problem being male in real life but I'm just so darn curious as to how different it feels being female.

I frequently have dreams where I'm different people, and sometimes that involves being the opposite gender, but I'm never just myself changed into the opposite gender like in yours. I usually become actors from TV shows but only in non-lucids, I'd really love to have some lucid dreams as other people though! I think it'd be really cool to do a concert as a famous music artist or something like that.

That would be awesome.

I have to say honestly what I find even more fascinating than the subject of your dream is the stability and plot structure of the dream itself. I've NEVER had a dream story flow so smoothly, that alone makes it seem like it would be an incredible experience. Maybe your mind was really trying to show you something. I think the world could be a better place if experiences like this were more common. Although I'll admit to being more than a little bit "out there", I consider myself to be very gender-free, though I am much more feminine than masculine, but that's genetics' fault, not mine. I'd live the rest of my life in an out-of-body experience if I could. I'll become one with the wind and the trees and the earth and the sea and I'll be every thought that ever goes through someone's head, every emotion portrayed, every sensuous moment shared between lovers.... Ah, if only. I wonder how long it'll take me to achieve that in a lucid dream? Back to daydreaming....

I totally agree with you. More people should experience similar things.
I myself feel not completely masculine. I took a test (not a quiz from a dumb quiz site) on a site that is based off of recorded observations of results of how both men and women do on each section. Oddly to my surprise my results are that of a normal female. Its called a Sex i.d. test.
BBC - Science & Nature - Sex ID

When I first posted the dream I was brand new to the site, as well as the term lucid itself.(not to mention new to forums period)
I didn't know how much detail to put. But I have learned a little about dreams and elements of them.
Since I was young there has always been a presence in my dreams.
Almost always so in my nightmares or bad dreams.
It protected me and could make good dreams out of nightmares.
After discussing old dreams and current ones I had a realization while in the chat room on this site which I find immensely helpful.
That this presence is my own subconscious or Dream Guide, as I believe them to be one in the same.
This presence is female, and when she is manifested in the dream world when I can see her, her appearance is that of a girl I knew from 7th grade up through my first year of Junior College.
I have a very strong bond with her. In many occasions in nightmares I lose control if she is in danger and my "spirit" if you will will jump from my body to hers and gain motor control of her body in order to save her from whatever the danger or threat is.
Three times I failed to save her and each time I awoke in the state of sleep paralysis.
When in her body so to speak, I have seen my own body standing there as if empty; often the jump causes me or my body within the dream to become attacked or killed/destroyed.
However even though my body has been destroyed in such occasions I still have a bond with her and am often jumped into a new dream or woken and oddly not even the slightest bit scared no matter how daunting the dream was.
I can sense her as well, as she does not always have a visible manifestation; but I know or can feel her presence.
When I was young I was plagued by a Bear that was in many of my nightmares.
On night in such dream she helped me over come the beast and the nightmares stopped.
She can almost speak to me, but at the same time I can't hear her, only understand her instructions as to how to avoid danger within nightmares. I can never make out what she "says", its hard to explain its like a connection.
This woman has intelligence unlike a normal DC and she looks out for me and seems to know more about me than I her.

Don't wanna stray to far but, she was in this dream. I left her presence out of the dream as it didn't seem important but I now know it has meaning. I will edit my post of the dream in my DJ.

Alright, I took that test. I scored at the middle of the spectrum, but I think it may have been thrown off a little bit by the fact that I'm a math nerd and still in school so I'm used to doing some of these lol. I scored generally higher than the average feminine value in most things but I got all of the 3D shapes and nearly all of the angles right. Still, it was an interesting test. I wouldn't have guessed that stuff like finger length would have made such a difference, although I have to wonder just what information they based that on.

That's pretty interesting about your Dream Guide, I've seen many people talking about them before but I honestly can't say I've ever had that feeling of presence in my dreams before. My dreams are very odd though, often when I have vivid ones I feel like I'm passing through another dimension, I frequently have dreams in two-dimensional worlds and third-person perspectives as different people and bizarre landscapes made up of vibrant colors and series of strange symmetrical structures and constantly changing terrain that seem normal at the time but really odd when I wake up. They barely ever pertain to real life but when they do the areas that they take place in are replaced by enormous (they're ALWAYS huge!) buildings with extremely wacky architecture that changes drastically almost every minute or so unless the place we're at isn't supposed to be a real place and then it's just something random, and if I stop and stare at anything for too long (even in a non-lucid) it begins to sway and melt or morph into something else and then the stability of the dream starts to crumble and I wake up, but sometimes first I pass through tunnels of light with waves that move like on a polar coordinates gird and have extremely strange thoughts running through my head, only to eventually realize that I'm just lying in bed, with eyes open and everything already having woken up, and as soon as that happens everything goes back to normal but I have a buzzing sensation all over my body for a minute or so. I know, I just made myself sound insane, but my point is my dreams aren't exactly "average" lol. I'd love to find my DG though, if I could learn from them how to control the things in my dreams more accurately there'd be no end to the things I could experiment with!

I'll have to look through your DJ soon, your dreams sound very interesting. I just recorded some dreams last night so I'm starting mine today!

I have never had things happen in dreams like that. No crazy changing architecture an unfortunatly the scenery is to realistic. I pay to much attention to detail in regaurds to my surroundings so I can't feet dream signs that way I have to look else were.
Although I do have some pretty carzy things take place and my dreams have a very strong plot structure so I guess it makes up for the loss of the neat architecture u get.

Don't ever feel insane. Dreams can't and shouldn't be compared on the same plane as reality in regards to sanity. U is not crazy.

Focus on the parts in real life that in the dreams are fuzzy or "unstable"

Give your self more to use. Look at buildings be concious of them when you are conciousas welll as scenery.
Try and work on that, it will help I promise. It's how I get ideas.

I would take your plot structure over my architecture any day, they're pretty awesome to see but my dream events are really short and random so very rarely do they seem to mean much. Yeah, after browsing around here for about a week now I feel a lot better about how bizarre my dreams are, I'm definitely not alone.

I'll definitely have to do that, because I'm already amazed that the building structures and the like don't immediately tip me off to the fact that I'm dreaming, I must not pay very much attention at all to that kind of stuff in waking life lol. Thanks for the tip!

Sorry ive been away for a while. I am totally down for a bizarre dream or to haven't remember one for a week to much travel and I'm jet lagged

Welcome back, abicus.

Thank you very much i have been away for a while. Keep having crazy dreams. Had another dream where i was a female don't remember much of it.

I've had a dream or two where I've been female. They were always sexual, but I never took them to mean anything. I did wonder as I'm a gay guy weather this had anything to do with it? Not that I have ever wanted to be a woman... but it just makes it more acceptable to have sex with guys if I was?

I had a dream once when I was younger that I was a male doctor. I lead two female nurses into a closet and we proceeded to have sex for hours. I came in a cup and the two nurses poured it all over themselves, rubbing it in, and licking it off. I have never enjoyed a sex dream as much as I did that night.

Originally Posted by isthisit

I did wonder as I'm a gay guy weather this had anything to do with it? Not that I have ever wanted to be a woman... but it just makes it more acceptable to have sex with guys if I was?

No part of that should make it "more acceptable"there is nothing wrong with being gay.

Originally Posted by Shaelyn

I had a dream once when I was younger that I was a male doctor. I lead two female nurses into a closet and we proceeded to have sex for hours. I came in a cup and the two nurses poured it all over themselves, rubbing it in, and licking it off. I have never enjoyed a sex dream as much as I did that night.

That is hot. I mean DAMN girl way to go.
I have never had such a steamy dream before definitely adding that to the list.

Originally Posted by isthisit

I've had a dream or two where I've been female. They were always sexual, but I never took them to mean anything. I did wonder as I'm a gay guy weather this had anything to do with it? Not that I have ever wanted to be a woman... but it just makes it more acceptable to have sex with guys if I was?

I wouldn't say it has anything to do with being more acceptable, just a matter of society's programming. Your brain creates dreams sequences out of random associations of thoughts, conscious or subsconscious, and it learns those associations from basically everything - real life, but also movies, books, TV, video games, essentially anything with a plot.... You can't really avoid seeing romance/sex scenes involving male-female couples, that's just the way society is right now. So I'd say much more than likely your brain has still absorbed more sex data from that than it has from male-male couples, even if you've whored around a LOT. It's probably not, then, very ridiculous to think that your brain was just trying to complete the situation in your dreams, and when it noticed that you were attracted to or having sex with a male it looked back through all that data and thought "Oh, I guess I'm the female in this situation." It doesn't necessarily mean anything, it's just the way dreams are formed.

what u said is very interesting and i would have to say i agree with u Alyzarin.
This whole gender within the mind thing is strange, very open for the abstract. Its odd, it fascinates me, how as you said that culture and media could be that strong of an influence as to effect the creation of our dreams. I mean having instilled into ones subconscious a set of so called norms in regards to gender and sexual relations. Its scary to think of that kind of power. Where would the limits be for this.
I have as of late had a few more of these gender bending dreams its i don't walk around thinking about it all day but bang, there they are.
The scariest thing to me was that i had commercials in my dreams in the background and noticed them 2 nites ago i was semi lucid and it weird-ed me out when i payed more attention to it.

I'm partially male in pretty much all my lucid dreams. I can't say I would want to be male in real life, unless I could be one for a while then switch right back. Which is basically what I do through my LDs.

Damn we're lucky to be able to do this

Originally Posted by abicus

The scariest thing to me was that i had commercials in my dreams in the background and noticed them 2 nites ago i was semi lucid and it weird-ed me out when i payed more attention to it.

Wow, really? What were the commercials of, do you remember?

I have had dreams where my gender was male or female, and a few where my gender was ultimately decided when I needed it to be. It's interesting to have this fluidity in dreams, though I suppose it's natural for someone like myself. I've experienced both sides of that coin.

I do have some of these dreams posted in my dream journal. I think you could find them from my tag cloud, though one is called Carnivorous Sex.

A few nights ago, I had a dream that I was a good friend of mine (a girl) giving my actual self directions. I was extremely lost in a city (I'm terrible with directions), and I asked my friend to help me. She said she knew where I had to go, but didn't have the time to explain it to me. I transferred my conscious to her body, and used her information to lead my actual body to the place I needed to be. This was one of the strangest experiences of my life not because I switched bodies/genders, but I was able hold an amazingly stable conversation with myself, even though I wasn't inside of myself... It was strange, but amazing.

Originally Posted by Ollie

A few nights ago, I had a dream that I was a good friend of mine (a girl) giving my actual self directions. I was extremely lost in a city (I'm terrible with directions), and I asked my friend to help me. She said she knew where I had to go, but didn't have the time to explain it to me. I transferred my conscious to her body, and used her information to lead my actual body to the place I needed to be. This was one of the strangest experiences of my life not because I switched bodies/genders, but I was able hold an amazingly stable conversation with myself, even though I wasn't inside of myself... It was strange, but amazing.

Oh cool, I think that was TOTM last month

Originally Posted by OpheliaBlue

Oh cool, I think that was TOTM last month

Really?!? Guh, I wish I joined last month :\

Originally Posted by Ollie

Really?!? Guh, I wish I joined last month :\

You had to take control of a DCs body

Originally Posted by OpheliaBlue

I'm partially male in pretty much all my lucid dreams. I can't say I would want to be male in real life, unless I could be one for a while then switch right back. Which is basically what I do through my LDs.

Damn we're lucky to be able to do this


Wow, really? What were the commercials of, do you remember?

A nike commercial and a shampoo commercial. And I agree with you I would stay the way I am unless I could be switched back when I wanted to.
I have had several dreams where i body jump to one particular dc when she is in danger in order to save her but its almost always involuntary when it happens.