Meeting "Perfect" Guys/Girls in Dreams - Thoughts?

Expanded from what I was starting in another thread...

Meeting breathtakingly amazing girls in dreams (or members of the opposite gender, or whatever floats your boat!), and the concept of love in dreams... your thoughts?

I've met a few "perfect" girls in my dreams over the years. And by perfect, I mean absolutely perfect. They weren't even the most beautiful people I could imagine - don't get me wrong, they are quite stunning - the main thing was the feeling.

The feeling of love I've had in dreams with these people was as strong as love gets in real life. Maybe even stronger: you know how dreams have a strange sense of time? It's always like I've known the girl forever and that I'll love her forever. It's pretty amazing stuff, but it's very sad when you wake up and you realise that the love you felt is not in real life, and it's all the worse if you can't remember the girl's name (happens to me every time!)

A couple of days ago I had one of these dreams, and the experience is still bothering me right now. She looked like Ellen Page and had an English accent; need I say more!? The dream made no sense (even less sense than the usual dream) and it felt like about half a minute, but it was just insanely powerful and moving. God, I there wasn't even any sex and it was still pretty amazing. Like I said, the whole thing's still bothering me because of how real it was, and this is at least the third time it's happened within a few years.

Dreams are, in themselves, pretty fascinating, but when your mind can convey such realistic representations of fear and love in your subconsciousness, it becomes all the more amazing. I can't imagine how it's possible for love to be so well recreated all in one's mind.

Anyway, sorry to go on a rant there (I'm actually not the loved-up type in real life at all). This isn't really about interpretation - obviously I've been single for too long and it's getting to my subconscious! - I was just interested in your thoughts on the whole concept of meeting "soulmates" (for lack of a better name) in dreams, because of how much this makes me think.

I know exactly what your talking about. I have two of these dreams recently in the past week haha. Its amazing how powerfull these dreams can be. I've actually never fallen in love with a girl or even felt love with a girl, but these dreams about these girls feel what I believe love would feel like. And I get that same feeling when I wake up and it has lasted all day before.

The feeling lasting all day I suppose sounds quite nice, but for me I would just get annoyed that it wasn't real! Ok, flying in a dream then not being able to fly when you wake up is one thing but it's harsh to feel love like that then wake up and it's gone.

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Originally Posted by Psychonaut1992

The feeling lasting all day I suppose sounds quite nice, but for me I would just get annoyed that it wasn't real! Ok, flying in a dream then not being able to fly when you wake up is one thing but it's harsh to feel love like that then wake up and it's gone.

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I too have experienced this a few times and it is amazing! Everything seems so perfect ,but then waking up and realizing it was not real at all is pretty depressing.

The worst part about these dreams for me is not ever knowing their name! I remember once after such a dream I just laid in my bed all night awake just trying to remember her name...still don't know it..

I always wonder if these girls are actually out there somewhere in the world haha.

Well, I've read that (and this actually makes a lot of sense to me) every face you see in dreams is actually that of a real person, not some face invented by your mind. Think of all the people you've ever seen in the streets or on TV. Your brain must have a loose collection of faces, so technically, these "perfect girls" sort of exist! Their faces, anyway. Their personalities in our dreams are obviously generated by our subconsciousnesses. (Is that even a word?)

Yea that's probably true. I had another damn love dream and its like third this week. This was about me having a wife and she wanted a divorce and I told her I love her too much and I never want to be without her. And me and her hugged while we were both crying haha. But I felt that love feeling again. I think I had it because I meet this super cute chick at a party last night and I didn't get her number uhh.

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Originally Posted by NrElAx

I think I had it because I meet this super cute chick at a party last night and I didn't get her number uhh.

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That's just plain unfair! Like you needed another reminder of it? Interesting, though.

I had a very unique dream about a girl in august of last year. What made this particular dream unique was that I became lucid during the course of it. Every other amazing girl dream I've had has been non lucid. Because I was lucid in this dream I asked the girl what her name was. She said her name was "cassara". When I woke up I looked up the name and it turned out to be a real name. Its meaning is "what will be". I was like :eek:

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I think I had it because I meet this super cute chick at a party last night and I didn't get her number uhh.

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Sorry to go little OT, but wouldn't it be funny to get a phone number in a dream and then call it in real life? Of course, wait three days so as not to seem desperate... :cheeky:

Ok, now on-topic. I haven't experienced this but I think it's interesting and plausible from a pseudo-psychological point of view. I've been exploring the idea of a Dream Guide and I find that I have a strong sense of friendship and trust with a character that is an invention of my subconscious. It's not too different to consider love instead of friendship. And if you consider that these characters are projections of parts of our own self, then maybe they are really manifestations of genuine self-love (or perhaps narcissism on the other end of the spectrum).

I've never had such a strong or compelling dream like that (oh boy but I can tell just by thinking about it that I'm gonna dream about this sometime xD), but I can definately see how strong your emotions can get in dreams. Oh, actually maybe one time I had a dream about this guy at my school, saying that I loved him and all (lol how cheesy), but I had a really strong sense of apprihension or embarrasment or something, but it was still a really strong and vivid feeling .__. Interesting to see what other people have to say about it...

You're damn fortunate to have not only been given a name, FortressForever, but remembering it is something else! Nice one. I only ever seem to somehow "know" their names, then only have vague ideas about them afterward (once I remembered that the girl might have had a name beginning with K... then again recently I thought another girl's name was Katie or something beginning with a C.)

The idea of getting a phone number sounds like a cool (and crazy...) film script concept. One problem... have you ever tried reading written letters or numbers in the dream world? Interesting thoughts on the psychological aspects, too.

Good luck on getting that crazy love dream, Minako.

Well I myself believe that love is one of the most powerful emotions that we can possibly feel. And I also believe that in dreams emotions are amplified greatly.

I have had some of these dreams. They usually don't last long for me, but the feeling I get from them is so real and intense that they are impossible to forget once I wake up. The strangest part about these dreams is that I can't ever remember what the guy's face looks like, but I know I've never met him, or even seen him in real life. It's almost like I'm dreaming someone elses life, and feeling their emotions toward each other, which happens to be a very intense love. Like I said the dreams are usually really short, so I don't get to see much but even without kissing or even being right next to each other, I still get that extreme feeling of love for this guy I don't even know ...

Whatever it is, I really love these dreams and the way they make me feel during and after them. Just wish I could will myself to have them more often :?

What, you think there is a stronger emotion than love/hate? (I think the two can be pretty hard to separate at times...)

This is not the kind of thing you'd usually talk about in real life so it's nice hearing very similar accounts from other dreamers.

Mind you, I still need to find something else in dreams to distract me from this kind of thing when it happens. Yeah, it's great, but even with the "after-feeling", at least with me, you're dazed the rest of the day trying to work out their exact face and name...

I just wanted to start by saying that I have had a couple of these dreams myself, and indeed they are quite wonderful. I would have to agree that they do feel a bit more real or intense than love felt in life. That's not to say this is true though. The reason it feels that way from what I've gathered is because dream emotions and experiences are not clouded by things that distract and detract from feelings normally. In dreams, the content of the dream is all there is, whether it be sex, love, pain, exhileration. That's all there is, while in life you have a song in the back of your mind, worry about how you did on a test, all the smells, sounds, sights, tastes, and textures that are present always and constantly fighting for your attention. In a dream, your attention is focused. But dreams are experiences just the same as any other in your life. They are just as real as in "real life". I usually try to refrain from that term, as I believe dreams are just as real. Experience is experience regardless of the circumstances. I use the term "waking life" as an alternative. But we all have our individual beliefs, and I am by no means trying to change anyone else's. So if a dream is a dream, and life is real life, then that's your thing. This was just my two cents. Now I really want a love dream again. A completely different satisfaction than sex. Better in ways.

I've always felt that emotion fuels these kinds of dreams. We don't meet a dream girl who is perfect, and then fall in love. Instead, we begin with the feeling intense love, and automatically generate a character to fill the needed role.

It is similar to a nightmare. The scenario is not necessarily frightening. The fear permeates the entire dream, making even mundane things frightening.

Great points there, guys.

Real life might not be the best term, but I suppose waking life is more real than dreams since it's a commonly shared experience, whereas dreams (as far as we know...!) are psychological experiences of the individual. I'd say "waking life" is probably the preferable term. Dream love is certainly very different than dream sex, and great in different ways, too.

Also, the concept about real-life feelings of love permeating our subconsciousnesses to generate "ideal" DCs is definitely interesting to consider... it makes sense, too.

Cool dreams. I hope to have them someday.

It's always amazing to meet that person and for me every since the first time i had it and she has never changed i looks and, is so gorgeous It's amazing in my dreams i always have the urge to travel the whole world as far as i can feel it but when I run into her nothing else even seems to be out there anymore like as if its been searching for a soulmate all this time. truly for me its the best reason to dream for now and is only equal to zombie dreams but, both together I'm gonna hate waking up.

Something weird I've notice is she only appears when i suppress my ability to love or when I feel in love. I believe her to be the embodiment of my love.

I've had dreams like these. It definitely leaves me waking up with a feeling of longing for the person in my mind, though I never really feel sadness for their non-existence.. they clearly do exist, just in my mind. I'd guess the reason these people seem so perfect is because our minds know exactly what would make the perfect 'other', so they just fill those attributes into someone.

A dream like this is actually how I found this forum, and began my research into lucid dreaming. :) I've had several dreams like this over the years. Two of the dreams (including the dream 2 nights ago that prompted my interest) involved two totally different men, neither one I knew or recognized from waking life. So far, they have been one-shot deals, with no reappearance of the characters (unfortunately for me). All of the others have featured an old classmate, who I still have regrets about not kissing years and years ago when I had a chance to (pretty obvious why he keeps showing up, haha).

I really love these dreams, despite the sense of longing and loss once I wake up, and despite the fact that in waking life I am happily married to my high school sweetheart who I've been with for 7 years.

I'm curious if anyone else in a committed relationship also has these dreams, or if it is mostly single people and I am just an exception to the rule?

I've read that it is normal if you've been in one relationship for a long time, and despite the fact that in my dreams I always acknowledge the fact that I am taken/married, I can never resist the other person, I don't feel guilty, since I would never cheat on my husband in waking life, and I have read it is common that in dreams we have less self-control/impulse control.

Hmmm... from what I hear soul-mates exist. It is possible to meet your soul mate in your dreams, however finding them in waking life is quite the challenge. Both people usually need to seek the other out. If you find your perfect match, pursue it... live a dream life for a while, at some point it could very well move to waking life. Unless of course you're dating the 'twinner' of the waking life version of your soul mate, then it that case it could be a while... but of course, nothing is impossible. Keep in mind though not everyone who seems perfect is your soulmate, some are DCs, some are demons, and some are just past lovers from prior lifetimes. It's all sort of complicated but not impossible :)

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Originally Posted by Kaomea

Hmmm... from what I hear soul-mates exist. It is possible to meet your soul mate in your dreams, however finding them in waking life is quite the challenge. Both people usually need to seek the other out. If you find your perfect match, pursue it... live a dream life for a while, at some point it could very well move to waking life. Unless of course you're dating the 'twinner' of the waking life version of your soul mate, then it that case it could be a while... but of course, nothing is impossible. Keep in mind though not everyone who seems perfect is your soulmate, some are DCs, some are demons, and some are just past lovers from prior lifetimes. It's all sort of complicated but not impossible :)

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I've always wondered about that myself. Do soul mates really appear in dreams, or is just someone whom you've passed in real life without realizing it? And of course you've got to add the perfect personality right? I